For some people patience comes naturally, they are able to brush things off their shoulders easily and hold their opinions in for the right time to express them..some people but not me, at least not all the time.
The older I get the better I am at gaining the patience gene butI still fail at times, I say something in a knee jerk reaction that probably should not have been said at the particular time. The biggest difference is now I recognize that I may have overreacted and try to go back and fix it or at least address it. When I was younger I would just allow it to keep bubbling and fester and it would get to a point of no return.
The crazy thing is most times when I overreact or lose my patience it is because of ME, I may have viewed the whole conversation wrong or I was already ready to battle because of something else that was bothering me. By addressing it right away WITH the person or people that I loss my patience with I usually was able to defuse the situation and I also found what the issue really was. Sometimes after discussing it I found out that it was not even what I thought , or the person I am talking it out with will apologize and say THEY were wrong and they overreacted because of something else going on in their life at the time.
The thing is we all bring some kind of baggage and biases to a situation or conversation.
The definition of Biase is- Prejudice in favor or against one thing, person, or group compared with another, usually in a way considered to be unfair.
All we can do is recognize these times that we should have had more patience and understand that WE may have overreacted , address it right away WITH the person, listen and learn.
Remember we are ALL going through something.