Tuesday, March 7, 2017

Patience

Patience can be difficult for some, for some I mean me.
For some people patience comes naturally, they are able to brush things off their shoulders easily and hold their opinions in for the right time to express them..some people but not me, at least not all the time.

The older I get the better I am at gaining the patience gene butI still fail at times, I say something in a knee jerk reaction that probably should not have been said at the particular time. The biggest difference is now I recognize that I may have overreacted and try to go back and fix it or at least address it. When I was younger I would just allow it to keep bubbling and fester and it would get to a point of no return. 

The crazy thing is most times when I overreact or lose my patience it is because of ME, I may have viewed the whole conversation wrong or I was already ready to battle because of something else that was bothering me. By addressing it right away WITH the person or people that I loss my patience with I usually was able to defuse the situation and I also found what the issue really was. Sometimes after discussing it I found out that it was not even what I thought , or the person I am talking it out with will apologize and say THEY were wrong and they overreacted because of something else going on in their life at the time.

The thing is we all bring some kind of baggage and biases to a situation or conversation.
The definition of Biase is- Prejudice in favor or against one thing, person, or group compared with another, usually in a way considered to be unfair.

All we can do is recognize these times that we should have had more patience and understand that WE may have overreacted , address it right away WITH the person, listen and learn.
Remember we are ALL going through something.

1 comment:

Thomas Olson said...

Not sure if this post has anything to do with this but it brought back a moment you and I had. Let me try and jog your memory...
My first day, I'm in KY picking up the trailer.
Late that afternoon I called you and said I need more lights on the trailer and it would delay me. You had things setup in Arpinew HQ to do an interview with me which meant you had to rearrange everything including the Camara crew. Well you told me to do what I need to do and we hung up the phone and I knew I just made you mad. Understandably so. I don't think I slept well that night.
So in the morning I knew I had to do something and I sent you an email.
The email read, Do we need to kiss a make up ???
You immediately called me, laughing so hard that we both couldn't talk.
That was the beginning of our journey... and the rest is history
If you remember this moment, I hope you were laughing as hard while reading this as I was writing it...

#PEACEANDMUSIC