Friday, March 23, 2018

9 Things to Quit

9 Things to quit:

1. Trying to please everyone
2. Fearing change
3. Living in the past
4. Overthinking
5. Being afraid to be different
6. Beating yourself up over mistakes
7. Sacrificing your happiness for others
8. Thinking you're not good enough
9. Thinking you have no purpose

You will never be free until you please yourself first , what makes you happy ? Who makes you happy ? Know that.. follow that and stop worrying about everything and everyone else.

Change is inevitable and change can be good... do not fear change- embrace it... learn from your past and bring it into your future and strive to be better.

Get out of your head and don’t overthink things, go back to #1 and stay focused on who and what is important to you and don’t sweat the small stuff ... ignore the gossip.

It is what makes us different that makes us special... march to the best of your own drummer... do not be sheep.

I have learned much more from my mistakes then from accomplishments so do not be afraid to make mistakes, if you are not making mistakes you are not trying hard enough.

You can make others around you happy until YOU are happy so go back to #1

No one is better then you, and you are no better then anyone else- so stop worrying if you are not good enough - do not surrender your power to anyone!

We  ALL have a purpose, we can all conduct change, if you approach each day with a positive attitude and you reach out to try to help someone - no matter how small - you can make a difference and through that you find your purpose.

Thursday, March 22, 2018

Choose wisely

A friend of mine sent me this one...

I once asked a very successful woman to share her secret with me. 

She smiled and said to me.. 

"I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters. 

I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me...

I stopped fighting with my in laws...

I stopped fighting for attention...

I stopped fighting to meet public expectation of me...

I stopped fighting for my rights with stupid people..

I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight...

And I started fighting for 
my vision, 
my dreams, 
my ideas and 
my destiny. 

The day I gave up on small fights is the day I started becoming successful."

Some fights are not worth your time.
Choose what you fight for wisely.

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Smart People

Why would you hire smart people and then tell them what to do ?
That was a quote from Steve Jobs.
It makes perfect sense, you should always want to hire people smarter then you and then let them go.
You should always be there to direct and steer but for the most part your business will only grow if you keep changing with the times and looking at it from all angles.
Having fresh eyes always helps but only if you allow those eyes to see and you allow your ego to listen.
How can you do it better ?
What app is there out there now to help streamline that did not even exist three years ago ?
What can you do better to lift morale?
If you stifle those around you and always want to be alpha dog in the room you are losing opportunity and probably losing the moral and energy.
Listen... encourage... and always allow the people around you to shine.

Tuesday, March 20, 2018

Your opinion

We ALL have an opinion... on everything.
The thing is most people do not care about your opinion and for goodness sake do not bother sharing your opinion unless it is asked for. And even then if your opinion differs from the one asking you they will most likely shut you down within the first 60 seconds.
Don’t get me wrong I strongly believe that you should always stand up for what you believe in but you also need to choose your times and know how far to go and ultimately what good will come from it. A lot of people become very passionate when they voice their opinion but sometimes in doing so they may speak to loud or too fast and become intimidating. In those cases you may get your voice heard but you most likely will be either forgotten or simply not asked again.
If you want to truly make a difference try to make it a point to measure Your responses and watch to not take all the air completely out of the room.
Chances are you will not win everyone over , especially right out of the gate and you may even come to the conclusion that they may also have a very good point and at the end of the day no matter what you should always respect other people’s opinions.
You need to fully understand how they were brought and the circumstances to which they were brought up to fully understand where they are coming from and why they may view things the way they do.
Opinions are vital and important and to learn we need to listen to other people’s opinion as well as to voice our own.

Monday, March 19, 2018

Baby Steps

Just take baby steps.
Stop freaking out about what may be and stay focused on what is.
You only have so much control of the future, we actually have very little control of what others do but we do have full control of today and what our mood is .
Stay positive.
Take steps to do a Better job today, learn from your past.
Take note of your what your body and facial expressions are saying, are you tense? Do you look angry ? Are you smiling.
Little things like being conscience of your body language is very important.
Take baby steps to a better day and stop focusing on things you have no control over.

Saturday, March 17, 2018


Most of us suffer from the voices on our head and we succumb at times to being paranoid.

Being paranoid comes from worrying about what others think or are saying and what they think or say about us.
 We all spend much to much time worrying about others and a lot of it I believe comes from possibly our past and having been hurt by someone.
It is natural to put up a self defense to not get hurt again so we become engrossed in the worry and become paranoid .

I know it is easier said then done but we need to beat that voice down and just do our best and try not to worry about what “ they” are saying.

There will always be people that truly support you and there will always be people that will oppose you and it can be for several reasons and mostly the reasons are probably from their own insecurities and the inner voices in their heads.
Do not allow “them” whoever “they” are to take away your energy, trust me they have their own issues to deal with.

Just put on your blinders and look forward , when you see or hear the opposition try your best to just smile and remember what and who are important to you and let them deal with their own issues.

Friday, March 16, 2018


The wheels of Justice DO move ...
They move slowly at times but trust me the truth shall overcome.
You may think they are getting away with something or that they have it better then you but if they lied or if they rose to power without “ paying their dues” they WILL fall.
Now some may see the error of their ways and change their evil ways and/or start to actually appreciate and learn from others but unfortunately most that start down the wrong road stay on it until they are unveiled for the frauds that they are.
I have personally seen this play out too many times in my 40 years in the work force.
Save time and learn from the ground up and always respect others.
Appreciate the little things ... want for less .
Live a simple life and remember... the wheels of Justice do turn.