Tuesday, September 19, 2017


If you lose yourself you lose everything.
Stand for something.
Listen to that little voice in your head , if you think something is wrong or somebody is not telling the truth then listen to that voice and act- do something.
If you do not stand for something you you fall for anything.
If you just go along then are you not part of the problem? If you approach it as a positive and truly speak the truth and your opinion then you at least can put your head on your pillow that night and know that you did your best and in the end it will come back to you as a positive.
If someone is talking crap to you about somebody else don't you think they will do the same with others about you ? Do not fool yourself, those type people just care about themselves and will turn on you in a heart beat so you might as well stay true to yourself.
Do not lose your moral compass- no matter how fast you run you cannot get away from yourself and your conscience- feel the freedom of following your own voice .

Monday, September 18, 2017

Against the Wind

It seems like yesterday
But it was long ago
Janey was lovely she was the queen of my nights
There in the darkness with the radio playing low, and
And the secrets that we shared
The mountains that we moved
Caught like a wildfire out of control
'Til there was nothing left to burn and nothing left to prove
And I remember what she said to me
How she swore that it never would end
I remember how she held me oh-so-tight
Wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then
Against the wind
We were runnin' against the wind
We were young and strong, we were runnin' against the wind
The years rolled slowly past
And I found myself alone
Surrounded by strangers I thought were my friends
I found myself further and further from my home, and I
Guess I lost my way
There were oh-so-many roads
I was living to run and running to live
Never worried about paying or even how much I owed
Moving eight miles a minute for months at a time
Breaking all of the rules that would bend
I began to find myself searching
Searching for shelter again and again
Against the wind
A little something against the wind
I found myself seeking shelter against the wind
Well those drifter's days are past me now
I've got so much more to think about
Deadlines and commitments
What to leave in, what to leave out
Against the wind
I'm still runnin' against the wind
I'm older now but still runnin' against the wind
Well I'm older now and still runnin'


Bob Seger

Saturday, September 16, 2017

Where you came from

Never forget where you came from.

I have watched many a buisness man fail because they simply got to big for their britches and forgot where they came from and why they started to succeed.

When you are starting out you are appreciative of the opportunity and work hard and are respectful of those around you- do not ever forget that.

I have watched people start with nothing and work themselves up the ladder of success only to forget what it was like at the beginning and run to fast and lose perspective.
Who helped you ? Who did you emulate or learn from ?
 Never forget the ones that help lift you up or gave you those words of encouragement when you needed them- pay it forward- stay humble.

The Journey is the real reward, most times people either get too greedy or start attaching themselves to those around them that let's say do not have their best interest at heart - always keep one eye open and stay true to the person you were at the beginning of your journey.

Thursday, September 14, 2017

Unsettled ground

Do you feel like you are on unsettled ground ?
You are not alone.
Are you worried about your job?
You are not alone.
Worried about bills, who are your true allies or friends, if you are on the right path?
You are not alone, we are ALL in the same boat. I believe that this is now our new reality, like it or not we are all on unsettled ground.

We can ask ourselves why but the realities are I know people of all ages and across all lines and the one common thread is we are all fighting something.
From teenagers being bullied to young couples trying to buy homes and start a family to people close to retirement or retired worried about social security or medical issues and bills we are all working through something, keep that in mind when you get in your " always me" mode.

Snap out of it ..it is called life.

The sooner you understand that this is our new reality the sooner you can begin to cope with it..what choice to you have ?

The number one thing to do is remember what is truly important in your life? Hopefully that answer is your loved ones, your spouse, your children ,and if you are so blessed , your grandchildren.

Number two- start dialing back..knowing and believing it is your family that is number one dial back on your expenses and your toys. Do your best to keep your debt at a level you can wrap your arms around otherwise you will be chasing the almighty dollar so much you will lose sight of number one.

These are our times...you are not alone.

Tuesday, September 12, 2017


How many years of education do you have ?
I have over 50..
Yup, over 50 and still counting, my best education was and still is real life, every day encounters.
My mentor, Paul Arpin, always said he was still learning and he said right up till the day he passed in his mid eighties.

When the day comes that you think you know it all , just pack it in.
Paul just like me did not have much in the years of what they call a "formal" education, our lessons would all come from the streets. We made mistakes along the way but learned from each and every one of them.

When people want to give me their resume verbally on how many years they have been in " the buisness " I already get turned off..honestly I don't care. What I do care about is how you treat the people around you and if you think your years in the buisness gives you some kind of privilege or pass you already told me what I need to know about you.

Once again recounting on my days with Paul Arpin I never heard him tell anyone in any conversation how long he has been in the buisness or what accomplishments he had. On the plague of Paul as you enter Arpin headquarters it says " May my work speak for itself" and it sure did.
Do not get down on yourself if you do have a higher school education and do not envy or belittle those that do, it is what you do in life that matters and what you learn along the way.

There are lessons and gifts every day with everyone you meet if you simply stay humble and keep your eyes and ears open.

Monday, September 11, 2017


I had heard or read some time ago about everyone's need to be part of a tribe, going back in all of history being a part of a tribe was in bred and necessary.

Today we all feel the same , we like to be part of a team , a tribe, a group.
For many reasons that explains why we love belonging to a professional sports team and fan base. It is why we draw the line politically, there is strength in numbers.

Unfortunately it is what also gives rise to hate groups through the years, people feel the need to belong and sometimes will gravitate to whatever group seems to except them.

People feel more powerful when they are with their group and sometimes it gives them false power and they feel it easier to hurt or say negative things about those that do no not belong in their group.
It is funny how it manafest in us as we get older too, you see older men belonging to motorcycle groups and they end up buying the jackets and t shirts that tag their group, same as sport teams.
In the work place or schools there may not be official groups but people develop clicks that resemble tribes or teams and within that click they can make you fell on the outside if you do not belong.

I have felt it my whole life, I have no need nor desire to belong to a click or good old boy network but when you feel yourself on the outside it can still be a struggle and can still hurt.

Finding that sweet spot where you do not feel beholding to any group but still befriend them is very important to get things done and to remain positive and move toward your goals you need allies.

Saturday, September 9, 2017

The people we look up to

We are all going through something .. including people you may look up to.
As I grew older I was amazed with how the people I grew up admiring had a difficult upbringing or was going through such difficult times.
We all have this grand illusion that people that are successful have this wonderful life with no problems...wrong.
Very successful people like Elvis Presley, Robin Williams , Ray Charles, Johnny Cash even Bruce Springsteen, they have a story to tell and in most cases it is their dark shadows and ugly history that fueled them.
Point being is you never know and why should you ?
The one thing that I can assure you is all the people around you have gone through something or are going through something that shaped their lives and because of those moments and memories that is how they view others and possibly react the way they do.
The other thing is that no matter what face they show or you show the public at the end of the day we all have to live in our own skin.
Hopefully as we do get older we have the time to self reflect in our own upbringing and lives and we learn that even those that we admire or maybe even dis like all have a story to tell.
I know I react the way I do because of my childhood and things that may have happened to me, but even knowing that it does mean it stops my reactions but hopefully I can at least identify why I may be having the thoughts I have or why I may be defensive and then try to work it out in my own head.
They say what doesn't kill you makes you stronger..it is true IF you take the time to self reflect and to try to understand what did hurt you and who may have hurt you- learn from it and be better.