Friday, February 16, 2018

Family

I still believe that our strength and survival as a country comes from the Family.
It all begins at the home.
We look for answers outward and we struggle to understand why our kids are grasping for attention and why some may have attention deficient dis orders ... look inward.
We wonder why kids are lonely or turn to the internet or groups on the internet... look inward.
Kids need a family unit, they need a grown up in their life and like all us they need attention and love and hugs.
This new generation trades in what our kids need most for currency... their time. Kids need your time, not a new barbaque grill or that new car.
Until somehow we get back to understanding that our most precious thing on our earth is our children I think we will continue to slide as a society.
The foundation of our lives are built in the first 8-10 years , that is where our kids need our time and our love and need to see the family unit in action and these are the years that they are dropped off to be watched at a day care with another dozen or more kids. Some are put into a cubicle , just like the ones that will handcuff them when they grow up and work.
For goodness sake, allow our kids to be kids, it is such a wonderful time of our lives. We see things with such wild innocence and all we want to do is smile, laugh, learn and love. We need to embrace that, nuture that - Family.

Thursday, February 15, 2018

This is me

I am not a stranger to the dark
Hide away, they say
'Cause we don't want your broken parts
I've learned to be ashamed of all my scars
Run away, they say
No one'll love you as you are
But I won't let them break me down to dust
I know that there's a place for us
For we are glorious
When the sharpest words wanna cut me down
I'm gonna send a flood, gonna drown them out
I am brave, I am bruised
I am who I'm meant to be, this is me
Look out 'cause here I come
And I'm marching on to the beat I drum
I'm not scared to be seen
I make no apologies, this is me
Another round of bullets hits my skin
Well, fire away 'cause today, I won't let the shame sink in
We are bursting through the barricades and
Reaching for the sun (we are warriors)
Yeah, that's what we've become (yeah, that's what we've become)
I won't let them break me down to dust
I know that there's a place for us
For we are glorious
When the sharpest words wanna cut me down
I'm gonna send a flood, gonna drown them out
I am brave, I am bruised
I am who I'm meant to be, this is me
Look out 'cause here I come
And I'm marching on to the beat I drum
I'm not scared to be seen
I make no apologies, this is me

Lyrics from the song... This is Me


Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Who is important

Who is important in your life today ?
Everyone you say hi to !
Stop and look at the person in front of you, smile and listen.
We can learn everyday and from everyone, when you take the time to actually watch and talk to the people around you it is astounding what you learn.
I know a lot of people in business that look right past you, they walk by you every day and never even acknowledge your existence... what a waste. The same person when they need something from you will stop and flip you that fake smile , they are an empty vessel.
Do not just look at the people around you when YOU need them , take the time to care and spread a little positivity. Remember everyone is going through something and this might be the day that need a friend.
Be kind.
Today do not make it about yourself.

Tuesday, February 13, 2018

News

Where do you get your news ?
We are living in a new world, since the explosion of the internet we are all getting news from many sources and groups.
How do you know if it is factual?
Who is the source? Is it a group ? Is it even a person ?
We are going through a revolution much like the world saw back in the 1500’s with the invention of the printing press. It opened up a whole new world of communication and that is what we see now.
Technically is very powerful but how we harness it will dictate how we get our news.
If all we do is get the news and information from our little circle we will never learn or hear the other side and that creates walls and tribalism.
I try to read from people I may disagree with as much as the ones I may agree with and I certainly try not to dislike someone because we may disagree.
To learn we must be able to talk and disagree, that said we need to get past the he said, she said and separate the facts from the accusations.
This is a very important time in the world and we need to stay involved and for heavens sake we need  to listen and research and consider the source.
Where do you get your news?

Monday, February 12, 2018

Letting go

Why is letting go so difficult for so many ?
Good employees do not always make good managers because it is a whole new game.
A lot of people have difficulty delegating and training , as “ good” employees they took on the task at hand and did their job and most likely did it well but now as managers they need to take that same philosophy that made them successful and train others.
Sounds easy- right?
Then where is the disconnect? I have seen more failures in this area over the past four decades of my business experience then any other? I have seen very good employees promoted only to watch them fail miserably as a manager.
From what I have seen the successful employee most likely has a type A personality and they take control but being a type A personality they have a tough time “letting go” therefore they end up taking on more of the responsibility rather than delegating.
I get it, sometimes it is easier to just do it but but doing that you are cheating those around you of learning and you will become overwhelmed.
Some people keep it close to them because of insecurities, they think if they train the other guy too good they might come for their job so they train them to be more clerical then to think for themselves.
That philosophy will destroy you and those around you.
To be a good manager or boss you must learn to let go and then you must learn to train and remain in the circle while giving others the responsibility and the praise.
Not every good worker or employee is a good manager .

Thursday, February 8, 2018

I Hope

lyrics from song - I Hope:

Sunday morning, I heard the preacher say
Thou shall not kill
I don't wanna hear nothing else about killing
And that it's God's will 
'Cause our children are watching us
They put their trust in us
They're gonna be like us
So let's learn from our history
And do it differently 
I hope for more love, more joy and laughter
I hope we'll have more than we'll ever need
I hope we'll have more 'happy ever after'
I hope we can all live more fearlessly
And we can lose all the pain and misery
I hope, I hope 
Oh, Rosie; her man - he gets too rough
That's all she can say: is he's a good man
He don't mean no harm
He was just brought up that way 
But our children are watching us
They put their trust in us
They're gonna be like us
It's okay for us to disagree
We can work it out lovingly 
There must be a way to change what's going on
No, I don't have all the answers 
I hope for more love, more joy and laughter
I hope we'll have more than we'll ever need
I hope we'll have more 'happy ever after'
I hope we can all live more fearlessly
And we can lose all the pain and misery
I hope, I hope 
I hope, I hope, I hope

Wednesday, February 7, 2018

Monday morning quarterbacking

I do not mind working or taking on responsibility, what I do Mind is - Monday morning quarterbacking.

The term comes from people questioning calls that were made in Sunday football games on Monday, mostly by people that have never even played the sport and most certainly not on the level of professional football, yet they know better.

The same in the work place, I do mind criticism and I certainly do mind suggestions or help but if you do not have any involvement beforehand and you do not even know why decisions are made then I have a problem.

If you want to Monday morning quarterback then at least show up for the practices before the game.

Learn what the process is and how the decision effects the other portions of the process and how the decision may effect other people.
To just jump in after the fact and to openly criticize is not right , ask the question by all means but ask it in the manner to better understand and unless you have a better suggestion then you are best to keep quiet.
And remember it is also easy to Monday morning quarterback when you are not in the heat of the moment and decisions need to be made at that time and in that moment.

I will take a worker in the field who does their best and is in the game and may screw up over the person who is sitting on the sidelines trying not to get dirty every day of the week.