Friday, October 20, 2017

Wanting what you got

The goal is not getting what you want..but wanting what you got.
When is enough - enough ?
Are you working longer hours to pay for your new car and new toys ?
Are you missing family time because you need to work more to make more money to buy more stuff?
At the end of the road will you be able to look back and know you have those precious moments with loved ones because you put THEM first.
We all have to work to pay the bills but do not lose sight of life along the way and enjoying each day and being involved in the lives of our loved ones.
You can work your hands to the bone and be the most loyal employee but at the end of your day your job cannot love you, we are all replaceable.
Prioritize.
Want what you got...and be appreciative.

Thursday, October 19, 2017

Succeed

To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch , or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life breathed easier because you lived. This is to have succeeded.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Trust

If it quacks like a duck, and walks like a duck and looks like a duck..
It is probably a duck.
Who do you trust?
Trust is pivotal to success, and who you trust is very important. Remember their are those that mostly have their best interest at heart and will “say” whatever they need to to prop themselves up.
If those around you are constantly pointing the blame to others are always making excuses , you need to look beyond their words. Be careful who you trust and trust few.
Actions always speak louder than words.
Those that refuse to take responsibility are not people that you can follow , they either are not true leaders or are above their heads , either way they are the type people that will say whatever to whoever to stay in power- be very careful.
If your radar or gut are telling you something- Listen. Trust yourself, trust your gut. Remember if it quacks like a duck..it probably is.
Access your situation and hitch your wagon to those that truly care about YOU and that you can trust!

Monday, October 16, 2017

Insecurities

One of the main ingredients into why people do what they do is insecurities.
We get defensive or angry or protective.
Many of our insecurities may come from our upbringing, some of them may be because we simplify do not fully believe in ourselves.
Maybe we are worried about bills and money or being stabbed in the back at work.
All can truly block our true potential, when we use our energy in the world of being insecure we hold we waste a lot of time. In order to do our best we will mess up, make mistakes and maybe not always conduct ourselves in the best of ways..it happens.
When we worry more about making mistakes or what others may think or say we never reach our true potential..let it go...let them go.
This sounds easy but our insecurities may run deep but try to recognize them and understand we all of them so don’t beat yourself up or think less of yourself.
You are no better then anyone else and NO one is better then you.
Just do your best.
We all only have so much time and so much oxygen in a day.. use it positively.
Life...live it.

Thursday, October 5, 2017

TEAM

Ever been part of a winning TEAM ?
Maybe a sports team or a team that you may have worked with ?
It is a great feeling !
When you stop making it all about YOU and you have people around you that take on the same attitude then you can do some really great things.
You will not only accomplish more you will feel good doing it.
Working WITH others is so much better then trying to go it alone, for one someone will be there when you fall to help recover and two you will learn so much more.
Be a part of something bigger then you, - say “ we” rather than “I” and LIVE it.
Be respectful of your team and listen to their opinions, Never point the finger and never publicly dress down a TEAM member- be supportive.
Create and be a part of a true TEAM, I guarantee you that you will grown and smile and succeed.


Wednesday, October 4, 2017

Standing in the Breach

Lyrics by Jackson Browne..


And though the earth may tremble and our foundations crack
We will all assemble and we will build them back
And rush to save the lives remaining still within our reach
And try to put our world together standing in the breach

So many live in poverty while others live as kings
Though some may find peace
In the acceptance of all that living brings
I will never understand however they've prepared
How one life may be struck down and another life be spared

And though the earth may tremble and cast our works aside
And though our efforts resemble the fluctuating tide
We rise and fall with the trust and belief
That love redeems us each
And bend our backs and hearts together standing in the breach

You don't know why it's such a far cry
From the world this world could be
You don't know why but you still try
For the world you wish to see
You don't know how it will happen now
After all that's come undone
But you know the change the world needs now
Is there, in everyone

The unpaid debts of history
The open wounds of time
The laws of human nature always tugging from behind
I want to think that the earth can heal
And that people might still learn
How to meet this world's true challenges
And that the course we're on could turn

And though the earth may tremble and the oceans pitch and rise
We will all assemble and we will lift our eyes
To the tasks that we know lie before us
And the power our prayers beseech
And cast our souls into the heavens, standing in the breach

You don't know why it's such a far cry
From the world this world could be
You don't know why but you still try
For the world you wish to see
You don't know how it's going to happen now
After all that's come undone
And you know the world you're waiting for may not come
No it may not come
But you know the change the world needs now
Is there, in everyone

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Karma

Do you believe in karma ?
I sure do !
I absolutely believe that you get what you give in life.
You can fool some of the people some of time but sooner or later it will catch up to you.
It is pretty simple, treat people with respect and how you want to be treated and you will see it returned.
It is human nature to get angry or to want revenge but it is all negative energy- don't bother.
You do not need to get revenge because it will happen on its own- karma baby.
You only have so much time here on Earth , you only have so much oxygen in a day.. do not waste a day.. do not use your energy trying to avenge or hate.
Be positive.. that too will come back to you.
KARMA

Monday, October 2, 2017

Money and Power

What dictates decisions in your work organizations?
Money and Power are on the top of the list.
Profitability is on the list but individual money and Power is the main struggles in a work organization. Generations ago there were more mom and pop buisneses so the " power" chart was really non existent but today everything is chain stores and huge conglomerates and the top of the organization chart fight for more more power and more money. Because most of the people with the titles making the " big money " are mostly worried about their own paycheck they start to eat their own, another words the top brass start the little clicks amongst themselves to survive, as in one of John Lennon's lines in his song - A Working Class. here- " first you need to learn to smile as you kill".
When I started at Arpin in 1985 I had left Honeywell, Honeywell treated me very good but they were huge, their main office was in Minneapolis and I worked in East Providence RI and was number 46892 ( I ado not remember my exact employee #) and as a young man just starting a family I wanted to work for a company that knew ME and not just be " a number " because at the end of the day if decisions were going to be made on who to keep or promote I wanted the owner to know ME and my work ethic.
It was the correct decision, Paul Arpin and David Arpin got to know me and respected my work and I stayed there for 35 years and helped it grow from a 7 million dollar buisness to over a 200 million dollar buisness. Through the years of growth I watched as it grow and it went from no HR, no titiles other than Paul, David and Peter , no committees, to dozens of titles and structures and committees and in that change is inevitable. It was good because I was able to witness first hand how buisness can change and sometimes bigger is not always better.
As more titles came to be the more people rose to power that may not have had Paul and David's goals or philosophies and so started the fight not for the main goal but for individual power and money.
It did not happen overnight but I witnessed first hand and observed how when people are put in power positions that only start to worry about their own buisness life and lose sight of the people that actually do the work , the hard work every day.
Because we all now live in the world of huge conglomerates and businesses this is a way of life for many, our hope is that the people at the top of organization chart earn their spot and appreciate not what only got them there but who really does the heavy lifting every day.

This goes for your government too.



(It is important to note that this blog piece is not directed toward anyone or any particular buisness, in all of my jobs and places I worked I met and worked with many many very fine individuals and learned from them along the way. I am only writing my observations along the way.)


Friday, September 29, 2017

Preparation

preparation = success

Preparation is like anything else , it must become habit and it is something that YOU are responsible for. You need to be ahead of your day and you need to be sure you have the proper tools to do your job.

Think ahead.

If you do not have the proper information needed- get it- and you should prepare as much ahead as you can. If you wait to the last minute to prepare you are leaving to much to chance.
In order to do your job you may need to do the job of others, if you need it then do not leave it for others to get it to you- chase it- ask the questions, become as self efficient as possible.
Always think out the worse case senerios and be ready with a plan B.

Prepare

Write things down ! Make a check off list- most important- follow up ! You will not get all your answers right away, you will get voicemail, your email will not get returned, you will get bounced from one rep to another- follow up and follow through.

Should it be streamlined ? Should other people help get you the information you need ?? Yes and yes but guess what ? This is life - no matter where you and what you do you will run into the same issues.

There are people who care about doing a good job and their are others that just show up and the ones that just show up can effect your work so you need to work with them or around them but you cannot allow them to bring you down.

Work it -find a way- be prepared ! - Don't just show up !

Thursday, September 28, 2017

Life

Live life ..
Live life like you are dying.. because none of us are promised tomorrow.
If you were diagnosed and told you had a few years to live, what would you do?
Would you waste your time hating and being angry or would you appreciate every day?
Do not take the day for granted, do not waste your energy on the negative, your life is what YOU make it.
There is a lot of reasons to feed into the negative and the hate , it is all around you every day.
Do not keep putting things off that you want to do or push away the people that matter most to you, you do not know what life has in store for your loved ones too so let them know that you care about them. And the most important thing you can give them is your time.
Live every day- look up- smile- appreciate the people in your life.

Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Sacrifice

How do you measure someone's sacrifice?
Do you even know what the person next you has sacrificed?
Is it a single parent who sacrifices every day to provide for their child ? How about the spouse who sacrifices every day for their loved one who is suffering through medical issues ? Did the person next to you suffer a loss of a child or a parent to early in their life or possibly just suffered a loss?
Why do we feel the need to judge others that we really do not even know ?
My sacrifice is greater than yours ? Really ? 
Think before you talk, think before you judge, everyone has a story and is going through something.
Take the time to talk and actually listen and I guarantee you that you will look at the person differently, therefore you will possibly start to see why they may be defensive or angry or depressed.
Do not join the crowd and ignore the " person " - take it down a notch- Listen.
What do you really know about the person next to you? Your neighbor ? Maybe they could use a friend ? Maybe YOU could use a friend?


Tuesday, September 26, 2017

Believe

Believe
There is a reason for everything!
Who knows why one path leads to another and why things happen but trust and follow the paths and you will find that it will bring you to where you should be.
We learn more from our failures and our hardships then our successes and accomplishments.
It is all true.
When I look back I have no explanation on why certain people came in my life and why certain opportunities fell in my path, I only know that I always tried to do my best for my family , not hurt anyone and I tried to enjoy every.
I tried to learn from everyone, still do.
Believe.
Do you believe ? Do you have faith ?
We only have so much control, bad things will happen, bad people will enter your life, what you do with it all is up to you.
The wonder of life is not knowing, and in the journey.
Believe

Monday, September 25, 2017

Discussions

Discussions are good- discussions are necessary to grow and learn and for understanding other people's opinions.

Unfortunately you can not have real discussions or conversation if everyone is yelling.
I think that a lot people think that if they yell louder and get very angry that their opinion is more important then others- unfortunately all it does is shut down any real conversation.
I do my best to always try to look at the other side, to try to understand why someone may look at something the way they do. We all draw on how and where we were brought up and what is in our DNA and passed down for generations.

The great thing about the United States is that we are a melting pot and have different races and religions and with that comes different cultures and opinions that is what separates so many other countries. The United States has freedoms that are the fabric of our democracy and we need to always respect the cultures and opinions of everyone and to listen to those that you may not agree with.

Yelling does not make you right- it just makes you loud and obnoxious. What are so afraid of?

Respect others- honesty Listen- converse , at the end of the day you can keep your opinion and go home or maybe if you listen you can at least respect why the other person has their opinion, who knows you may even learn something.


Friday, September 22, 2017

Do not complicate matters

Do not make life more complicated then it needs to be , it can be complicated enough without you helping. Same with your work place , strip it down and start to uncomplicate matters.
Start by trusting your gut and if someone seems shady or they seem like they are just out for themselves then limit your time with them and if you have to cut off your ties with them, they are only adding to your stress.
Live, work hard and try to laugh more, I know that sounds like pie in the sky crap but trust me if you make this your mantra and your goal and really bring it to your conscience every day you will start living it. And you start by leaving those negative people to their own little circle- you do not need them! Remember what life was like when you felt happy and smiled and laughed and get back there.
Uncomplicate your life.
Less is more...you do not need more and better and bigger - you just need a healthy life with the ones you love and trust around you- start today.
Life is what YOU want it to be -

Thursday, September 21, 2017

Obvious

Sometimes what is obvious to you is not so obvious to others.
If you have a good work ethic and truly respect others you just cannot understand those that do have that in their DNA , and you can get frustrated that they not only do not have that same work ethic or respect for others, thus starts the rub or the hill you must climb.
The rub is what is so obvious to you is not to them so what do you do ? How can you stay focused on your job and work with people that you know are not of the same make up ?
Well you best find that bridge because they will always exist around you, there will always be people that only have their self interest at heart and are in positions that they they should not have because they did work their way up the ladder so get over it and learn to work with them. Maybe you have to lend a blind eye or leave it for another day or avoid them but you cannot allow their incompetence or low morals to effect you or your day.

If you are in management or are in charge of a crew the answer is different, if you have people that are working for you with a low bar for morality or a poor work ethic it is your job to try your best to show them what they are doing wrong and how to improve, you must be their coach .
 If for whatever reason you cannot seem to get their attention you must replace them for their own good as well as yours.

If it is your manager or boss that is struck with this low work ethic or moral code then that becomes a bit more difficult, you still need to stay on the high road and do your job. If you can that while still under their umbrella then put your blinders on and move on but normally if you are working for someone with that mentality even if you get along with them today and they do not effect your job they may turn on you tomorrow, Because their sellfish gene dominates their other genes it can be hard to be loyal because their only true loyalty is to themselves.

Remember what may be obvious to you may not be to others so be patient, do your job and always try to build bridges.

If you are working for someone you do not respect or who may treat you ok but dis respects others then you may want to reevaluate your job. You can only truly grow if you believe in your leaders and your product so start to look for a plan B and make the move on your time table.

You deserve to be happy and work in a positive environment and for people that hold your same morals. Do not settle or comply..life is short..enjoy what you do and good things will come.


Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Care

In all my days of hiring and training I always said that I can teach you the business but I can not teach you to Care... to truly care about other people, ..to give a dam .
And if you do not care about others you will never Succeed.
There is the make believe kind of care but that will seep through very quickly, either you respect others enough to want to help them or you don't and if all you really care about is yourself then that will be a very lonely island.
To start building your ladder of learnings and successful climb you need a strong foundation and that foundation starts with caring about other people and their success.
You can try to fake it but just like a weak foundation of a home or building it will start to crack and eventually fall.
It is not difficult people, just open your eyes and your heart and speak honestly...
CARE

Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Yourself

If you lose yourself you lose everything.
Stand for something.
Listen to that little voice in your head , if you think something is wrong or somebody is not telling the truth then listen to that voice and act- do something.
If you do not stand for something you you fall for anything.
If you just go along then are you not part of the problem? If you approach it as a positive and truly speak the truth and your opinion then you at least can put your head on your pillow that night and know that you did your best and in the end it will come back to you as a positive.
If someone is talking crap to you about somebody else don't you think they will do the same with others about you ? Do not fool yourself, those type people just care about themselves and will turn on you in a heart beat so you might as well stay true to yourself.
Do not lose your moral compass- no matter how fast you run you cannot get away from yourself and your conscience- feel the freedom of following your own voice .

Monday, September 18, 2017

Against the Wind

It seems like yesterday
But it was long ago
Janey was lovely she was the queen of my nights
There in the darkness with the radio playing low, and
And the secrets that we shared
The mountains that we moved
Caught like a wildfire out of control
'Til there was nothing left to burn and nothing left to prove
And I remember what she said to me
How she swore that it never would end
I remember how she held me oh-so-tight
Wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then
Against the wind
We were runnin' against the wind
We were young and strong, we were runnin' against the wind
The years rolled slowly past
And I found myself alone
Surrounded by strangers I thought were my friends
I found myself further and further from my home, and I
Guess I lost my way
There were oh-so-many roads
I was living to run and running to live
Never worried about paying or even how much I owed
Moving eight miles a minute for months at a time
Breaking all of the rules that would bend
I began to find myself searching
Searching for shelter again and again
Against the wind
A little something against the wind
I found myself seeking shelter against the wind
Well those drifter's days are past me now
I've got so much more to think about
Deadlines and commitments
What to leave in, what to leave out
Against the wind
I'm still runnin' against the wind
I'm older now but still runnin' against the wind
Well I'm older now and still runnin'


https://youtu.be/PBJRD1VkxmI

Bob Seger

Saturday, September 16, 2017

Where you came from

Never forget where you came from.

I have watched many a buisness man fail because they simply got to big for their britches and forgot where they came from and why they started to succeed.

When you are starting out you are appreciative of the opportunity and work hard and are respectful of those around you- do not ever forget that.

I have watched people start with nothing and work themselves up the ladder of success only to forget what it was like at the beginning and run to fast and lose perspective.
Who helped you ? Who did you emulate or learn from ?
 Never forget the ones that help lift you up or gave you those words of encouragement when you needed them- pay it forward- stay humble.

The Journey is the real reward, most times people either get too greedy or start attaching themselves to those around them that let's say do not have their best interest at heart - always keep one eye open and stay true to the person you were at the beginning of your journey.

Thursday, September 14, 2017

Unsettled ground

Do you feel like you are on unsettled ground ?
You are not alone.
Are you worried about your job?
You are not alone.
Worried about bills, who are your true allies or friends, if you are on the right path?
You are not alone, we are ALL in the same boat. I believe that this is now our new reality, like it or not we are all on unsettled ground.

We can ask ourselves why but the realities are I know people of all ages and across all lines and the one common thread is we are all fighting something.
From teenagers being bullied to young couples trying to buy homes and start a family to people close to retirement or retired worried about social security or medical issues and bills we are all working through something, keep that in mind when you get in your " always me" mode.

Snap out of it ..it is called life.

The sooner you understand that this is our new reality the sooner you can begin to cope with it..what choice to you have ?

The number one thing to do is remember what is truly important in your life? Hopefully that answer is your loved ones, your spouse, your children ,and if you are so blessed , your grandchildren.

Number two- start dialing back..knowing and believing it is your family that is number one dial back on your expenses and your toys. Do your best to keep your debt at a level you can wrap your arms around otherwise you will be chasing the almighty dollar so much you will lose sight of number one.

These are our times...you are not alone.

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Education

How many years of education do you have ?
I have over 50..
Yup, over 50 and still counting, my best education was and still is real life, every day encounters.
My mentor, Paul Arpin, always said he was still learning and he said right up till the day he passed in his mid eighties.

When the day comes that you think you know it all , just pack it in.
Paul just like me did not have much in the years of what they call a "formal" education, our lessons would all come from the streets. We made mistakes along the way but learned from each and every one of them.

When people want to give me their resume verbally on how many years they have been in " the buisness " I already get turned off..honestly I don't care. What I do care about is how you treat the people around you and if you think your years in the buisness gives you some kind of privilege or pass you already told me what I need to know about you.

Once again recounting on my days with Paul Arpin I never heard him tell anyone in any conversation how long he has been in the buisness or what accomplishments he had. On the plague of Paul as you enter Arpin headquarters it says " May my work speak for itself" and it sure did.
Do not get down on yourself if you do have a higher school education and do not envy or belittle those that do, it is what you do in life that matters and what you learn along the way.

There are lessons and gifts every day with everyone you meet if you simply stay humble and keep your eyes and ears open.

Monday, September 11, 2017

Tribal

I had heard or read some time ago about everyone's need to be part of a tribe, going back in all of history being a part of a tribe was in bred and necessary.

Today we all feel the same , we like to be part of a team , a tribe, a group.
For many reasons that explains why we love belonging to a professional sports team and fan base. It is why we draw the line politically, there is strength in numbers.

Unfortunately it is what also gives rise to hate groups through the years, people feel the need to belong and sometimes will gravitate to whatever group seems to except them.

People feel more powerful when they are with their group and sometimes it gives them false power and they feel it easier to hurt or say negative things about those that do no not belong in their group.
It is funny how it manafest in us as we get older too, you see older men belonging to motorcycle groups and they end up buying the jackets and t shirts that tag their group, same as sport teams.
In the work place or schools there may not be official groups but people develop clicks that resemble tribes or teams and within that click they can make you fell on the outside if you do not belong.

I have felt it my whole life, I have no need nor desire to belong to a click or good old boy network but when you feel yourself on the outside it can still be a struggle and can still hurt.

Finding that sweet spot where you do not feel beholding to any group but still befriend them is very important to get things done and to remain positive and move toward your goals you need allies.


Saturday, September 9, 2017

The people we look up to

We are all going through something .. including people you may look up to.
As I grew older I was amazed with how the people I grew up admiring had a difficult upbringing or was going through such difficult times.
We all have this grand illusion that people that are successful have this wonderful life with no problems...wrong.
Very successful people like Elvis Presley, Robin Williams , Ray Charles, Johnny Cash even Bruce Springsteen, they have a story to tell and in most cases it is their dark shadows and ugly history that fueled them.
Point being is you never know and why should you ?
The one thing that I can assure you is all the people around you have gone through something or are going through something that shaped their lives and because of those moments and memories that is how they view others and possibly react the way they do.
The other thing is that no matter what face they show or you show the public at the end of the day we all have to live in our own skin.
Hopefully as we do get older we have the time to self reflect in our own upbringing and lives and we learn that even those that we admire or maybe even dis like all have a story to tell.
I know I react the way I do because of my childhood and things that may have happened to me, but even knowing that it does mean it stops my reactions but hopefully I can at least identify why I may be having the thoughts I have or why I may be defensive and then try to work it out in my own head.
They say what doesn't kill you makes you stronger..it is true IF you take the time to self reflect and to try to understand what did hurt you and who may have hurt you- learn from it and be better.

Friday, September 8, 2017

Is it me ?

When do you say " is it me ?
Are you constantly dis liking people around you?
Do you not trust anyone?
Are you complaining about what others do or say ?
Is it around you everywhere?
Hmmmmmm...
Maybe it's time to say " is it me " ?
Self reflection is the most difficult and in the end the ONLY person that you can actually change is YOU.
It begins and ends with attitude- YOURS.
Are they right ? Are you right ? ..who cares ? If you allow a negative attitude to take over YOUR life - they win.
A funny thing begins to happen if you do not allow others to take over your day and your attitude, you start to feel better and you may even see their shoulders begin to lower.
Always remember that we are all going through something in our lives , look past the ugly or mean front of people or what you or they may be upset with, most times they , or you, are unhappy about something else or dealing with other issues in their or your personal life.
Stop carting that dead weight - what can YOU do to be more positive?
Take back the Power.

Wednesday, September 6, 2017

Garbage in

Garbage in...garbage out.
If all you do is listen and read negative all day then naturally you will regurgitate negative all day.
If you truly want to change and feel better about yourself you may need to change your daily routines and maybe even lessen your interactions with those people that say they are your friends but do nothing but spew negativity.
Even if you are neutral about a person if all you do is hear bad about them then you start to look for the bad rather than the good, the negative permeates- remove yourself from other people's opinion and try to always make allies. You may decide on your own that person in question may not be the most truthful or trusting person but you may be in a position that you still need to work with them so lessen your time and conversations with that person and move on. Do not participate in the slamming, just move on. If you continue to rehash ugly conversations you just relive it and get more angry.
Negative in...negative out.
Knowing a person's character and downfalls can help you maneuver through the day , do not get angry and head to social media, get what you need in order to do your job and move on.
Remember in the end we all have to live in our own skin and we all have the controls of our own lives and how we live each day.
Do not take each day for granted, there are no guarantees so do not allow other people's problems to be your problems.
How can you improve your attitude today?

Monday, September 4, 2017

Goals

What  are your goals today ?
What are goals for the next few years?
Where do you see yourself ?
If you have no goals or vision then how can you achieve what you want ?
Write down your goals for the day. Think of your long ranged goals.
Do not allow the noise and the negative to get in your way.
I am not talking about money.
How can you improve?
Stay positive- you get what you give !

Friday, September 1, 2017

Team player

This phrase "Team Player" is over used in buisness today.
Most times when someone uses the term " team player" they are probably trying to smooch you or trying to massage you, if you are a true team player then the person saying it should have YOUR best interest at heart. In the moving business many times an employer needs to get something moved and the fact that it may not be profitable for you is YOUR problem.
Don't get me wrong I know the big picture, employers need to keep their accounts and scores therefore they need to serve their master- their accounts and their customers - but in the interim some of them forget who their customers are. In order to have a successful business you need to treat everyone as if they are your customer, this goes for drivers and laborers and employees too.
You need to have the other guys best interest at heart, being a team player means caring for All your team, ALL the time. If you have a losing scenario for whatever reason- own it !
Tell the truth and make up for it down the road, sooner rather than later.
Actions speak louder than words !
Don't just call someone a team player- show them !

Thursday, August 31, 2017

The Journey


"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.” – Marcel Proust

It is ALL about the journey .. in our personal life as well as our work life.

Looking back at both I love my journey, the people that I met and have the pleasure of working with has made my journey a blast. Because of the job I had most of my life, head of operations for a multi million company that worked all across the United States I was able to meet hundreds of people all over the map and my blessings to know and work with all of them has richend my life. The good , bad and even the ugly was all part of the wonderful journey, I learned from all of it.
And the times that an agent, driver or fellow employee said thanks to me and told me that I may have made a difference in their life was truly my reward.

The same goes for personal life, I met my wife in 1980 and we married in 1981 and had our daughter in 1983 and my son in 1988 and the Ride has been amazing. My daughter is married to a great guy now and have a son and my son is married to an amazing woman and have a son too. The journey each and every step of the way was crazy fast, it really is like a blink of an eye, at one moment I am playing on the floor with my feet in the air with my kids to the song Barefooten and the next moment I am playing on the beach with their kids..absolutely an awesome journey.
The other day my daughter, now 34 ,with Phd , married with a 9 year old, called me to just say thank you and say how much she always appreciated my positive words I shared with her and the time and hugs we always have with each other and how important family is to her because of the example of what she saw growing up - that my friends is what it is all about.

Enjoy your journey !

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Listen to your junkman

A Line from a Bruce Springsteen song is ..
Listen to your junk man.......he's singing.
I love that line and helped a lot through some stress days at work.
As I dealt with people in their nice suits and ties or their " buisness attire" I found most of them to be greedy back stabbing individuals and others to get so caught up in the corporate ladder they loss their soul and forgot how to just enjoy the day.
Some of these same people look down on others that work hard for their paycheck, they may not dress real nice when they get ready for work because their's is a job that requires sweat and possibly dirt. But on the days I went to work I would notice those people smiling and as Bruce said in his song..listen to your junk man..he's singing.
Judge not and be not judged.
Most of God's work is not done by people in a suit and tie.
Enjoy the day.....and Listen to your junk man.






https://youtu.be/jl1BSehj5Ss

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Life

Life is what happens to you as you're busy making other plans.
Life comes at you fast and with today's technology you can caught up with the stuff that really doesn't matter.
Everything in moderation.
I always preached that to my kids, everything in moderation.
Is drinking alcohol bad ? Not if you do it in moderation and not allow it to be a crutch.
Is social media bad ? Not if you use it properly and not allow it to take over your life.
Same with eating deserts and sugar- it is not bad unless you abuse it - sugar can be bad for your health if you have too much of it but in moderation it is sweet and delightful.
Enjoy the day, remember to stay in charge of your life, of your day.
Look up, smile and enjoy the moments.

Monday, August 28, 2017

Stop complaining

Stop your wining and complaining..
You think you have problems till you have REAL problems.. I am watching the natural disaster happening in the Houston TX area..measuring the rain in feet. People trapped in their homes that are being flooded trying to find a way out..those are problems and that is real life.
Do you have your health ?
Stop wining.
Do you have a home and people that love you ?
Stop complaining.
Are you wanting more..that is ok but meanwhile be thankful for what you DO have and for the people in your life.
If you want to do better then be better, be a better friend and a  better worker
Ask what YOU can do better and if you are in a dead end job or you are being dis respected- get out.
Respect yourself first and if you are totally unhappy with the people around you then change-
You have the power ..so stop complaining and ACT.

Friday, August 25, 2017

We're Gonna Make This Day..

Got a quarter...
I passed out last night and I never made it home.
Wound up on a bus to San Antone.
My head hurts bad and I ain't wearing shoes.
Going to find my wallet and my way back home to you.
We're gonna make this day.
A little better than the last.
It's amazing how slow days like this can go.
Find a way to wash away.
Any regret you have, don't let this moment pass.
Live inside this day.
I got cuffs on my hands.
Chains on my feet.
I got locked up for the second time this week.
And I know I make you cry but girl my love is true.
I'm going to find my wallet and my way back home to you.
Now I'm back on the street.
Thumb in the air.
Don't know how the hell that I got here.
But I'm gonna hitch that ride.
If it's the last thing I do.
Gonna find that wallet and bring it home to you.
We're gonna make this day.
A little better than the last.
Know don't you let this life come whoop your
Find a way to wash away.
Any regrets you have
Don't let this moment pass.
Live inside this day.

Zac Brown

Thursday, August 24, 2017

Dead Weight

Are you angry at someone?
Did someone do you wrong ?
Are you carrying around that anger?
That is called " Dead Weight".. let it go.
Dead weight will only slow you down and make YOU angry and then no one wins.
I believe in Karma and if you go around angry and being negative then you will push people away and your space around you will be filled with nothing but negative.
Because I believe in karma I also believe that those that did you wrong will have to answer to their own conscience and to a bigger end and they will be caught in their negativity until they see the light.
We all go through ups and downs and maybe they had reasons at the time to do what they did or say what they said...do not allow their problems to become your problems.
Let go of that Dead Weight.

Wednesday, August 23, 2017

My Political Wish List

Here is my Political Wish List -

- Get big money out of politics , elections and lobbyists
I know this is unrealistic but this is MY wish list, we opened the door by allowing businesses and corporations to give to whom they want in elections and of course they are one sided and want to profit so they will do whatever necessary to get politicians in their back pocket.

- No speech writers
I was younger when I realized that the speech I was listening to was not the words of the man speaking, I think it may have been Reagan. I want to know what the person thinks not his or her army of professional writers.

- Real Time Fact Checker
With today's technology we can fact check and Google anything within seconds, we should fact check every politician in real time, have a banner running right below them as they speak.

- Term Limits
We must have term limits for all Senators and Congressmen, back at the beginning of this grand experiment in Democracy George Washington did not want a third term because he knew that the Presidency needed term limits. He knew that as a nation and to hold true democracy we did. Not want the Presidentcy to be a dictatorship or to be a king, the same must happen for Senators and Congressmen. With the same politicians in office for decades they are always in reelection form and become to be holding to the people and businesses and lobbyists keeping them alive.

One can dream...that is MY dream and wish list for this great experiment of the United States of America....still the land of opportunity!

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Professional Drivers and Sleep Apnea


AUGUST 15, 2017 – On March 10, 2016, the Federal Motor Carrier Safety Administration (FMCSA) and the Federal Railroad Administration (FRA)  issued a Notice of Proposed Rulemaking concerning Moderate-to-Severe Obstructive Sleep Apnea (OSA) in safety-sensitive individuals.  The proposed rulemaking was originally issued to address potential safety risks with OSA workers. It also aimed to provide guidance for medical examiners on how to diagnose OSA when they administer medical examinations for medical certificates.
However, on Tuesday August 8, 2017, the two respective agencies withdrew that proposed rulemaking. In the notice, the agencies stated that they “believe that current safety programs and FRA’s Rulemaking addressing fatigue management are the appropriate avenues to address OSA.”
The FMCSA will consider an update to the “Bulletin to Medical Examiners and Training Organizations Regarding Obstructive Sleep Apnea,” specifically addressing how the physical qualifications standard and related advisory criteria concerning respiratory dysfunction apply to drivers who may have OSA. The purpose of this update is to “ensure that medical examiners fully understand their role in screening drivers for OSA, identify drivers at the greatest risk of having OSA, and refer only those individuals to a sleep specialist for testing.” Currently, medical certification determinations for drivers with OSA will be made by the examiner based on their medical judgement rather than a federal regulation or requirement.
FMCSA will also continue to recommend driver and employers use the North American Fatigue Management Program (NAFMP), which is a voluntary, web-based service education and training on the causes and effects of fatigue, including OSA. Drivers currently under FMCSA will see no change to the process of medical certification.

https://www.foleyservices.com/news/sleep-apnea-proposed-rulemaking-withdrawn/#comment-10900

Monday, August 21, 2017

Believe

The biggest part of accomplishing your goals in life is to believe!
You have to believe in your goal and your journey and visualize what it is you want and it WILL happen.
You have the POWER , the power to make things happen if you choose it but you have to first see it and trust in yourself.
Do not waste your time with hate or revenge or it will just slow you down and take you off your path.
Believe..be honest ..trust

Friday, August 18, 2017

Character Counts

Character Counts.
The Six Pillars of Character-
Trustworthiness
Respect
Responsibility
Fairness
Caring
Citizenship
The ONLY foundation for your success in life is Character.
You build your foundation every day with how you treat others and following up on what you promise- you need people to understand that your word is your bond .
You build your foundation by being loyal and by being honest.
You build your foundation by staying away from gossip and putting others Down.
Character Counts , in your buisness life as well as your personal life.
If you mess up , learn from it , don't beat yourself up - pick yourself up.
Who do you want to be ?
Build your foundation and work on it every day.

Thursday, August 17, 2017

Communication

If you are in business the number one goal should always be - communication.
How can you improve your communication?
Can you be better at getting ahead of things?
Can you improve letting others know what you are doing or thinking or wanting ?
Can you be more positive in your communications ?
Can you be better at answering email or returning calls ?
Nothing says " I do care about you " more then not answering an email or phone call.
If you are anticipating a rough call or an unpleasant conversation all the more reason to head it off earlier rather than later.
Your responsiveness tells people something, don't just tell them that you care- show them- respond immediately and here's the important one- FOLLOW UP .
Want to do better ?-  be better- communicate.

Wednesday, August 16, 2017

Hate

Only love can conquer hate.
If everyone is yelling no one is listening, you believe what you want and I will believe what I want.
We can have different opinions and still coexist, in this great experiment of America we wanted diversity and welcomed all religions and color and we put a great big stamp on it at the very beginning of this experiment with the first and second amendment.
We ALL want the same thing, to enjoy our time here however and with whomever we choose and in order to provide and have a roof over our head and food on our table we All need to work, after work we want to go home or out for a bit..we are not that different.
We get angry when we try to impose our views on others and they don't want to hear it.
Walls and Anger are not the way to get what we want and remember all we all want is to enjoy what time we have here on the green earth, and our time is limited.
Did we make a mistake with this great experiment over 200 years ago ? Can the people learn to coexist and get along ?
People are not born hating...just watch some kids playing.

Tuesday, August 15, 2017

60

I have been on this Earth for 60 years as of today.
It has been a crazy wonderful ride so far and I would not change a thing, there are certainly reasons for everything and life takes you down certain paths and put people in those paths for a reason.
I do ask the good Lord "why" why has he guided me so and put so many wonderful people in my life and I do believe that he has given me opportunities so that I can learn and help others. All I have to do is trust and be honest and do my best.
I have learned and worked hard from my first job washing dishes at age 16 and stocking shelves at age 17 and on every job that I have had the opportunity to be in ever since.
Thank you mom for showing me love and showing me what true sacrifice is and how to always treat people with respect and how to be honest.
The good Lord helped put people in my path that changed my life from my cousin Bob who took me under his wings at an early age and introduced me to hunting and fishing to my.first scoutmaster at age 11, he helped give me confidence in my self gave me the love for camping and appreciating nature.
The big one the good Lord put in my path was in 1980 when a young girl came in the store I was managing at the time at our Mall, my wife Lisa -I did not know it then but my life would then take a change that would take me down many beautiful paths - we married the next year.
God blessed me in 1983 and 1988 by sending me two beautiful kids, my daughter Jillian and my so Michael, watching them grow and being a part of their lives has been my life and now watching them with their marriages and children are my true rewards.
Work wise Frank D gave me my first big opportunity at age 20 and trusted me to his asst manager and then manager at age 21, then my next big one- Paul and David Arpin- David hired me in 1985 to learn and run his operation. He and his dad had the patience and saw something in me and stuck with me and taught me and mentored me. When I started Arpin was a 7 million dollar company and when I left 35 years later it was a 200 million dollar company andalong the way I made so many friends across the country that I could not possibly list them all but know that they all have a place in my heart.
What a wonderful ride, and now the good Lord had put an opportunity to be part owner of a Theatre in my path. I happen to love music and live theatre and helping people so I will see where this path takes me and the people that I will meet and learn from.
I love my wife, I love my life !
Thank you Jesus.
Trust and be kind and let life take You on your ride and your paths.

Peace, Love and Understanding

Monday, August 14, 2017

Goal Post

Your goals should. Be like kicking a football through a goal post, you get up each day and practice and work out and try to consistently kick the ball through...but once you make it you need to keep moving the goal post.
Complacency has no place in the work force, you should always want to improve and help the process and learn.
Paul Arpin, my mentor at work and the best buisness man I ever knew would always tell me he was learning. Paul was always moving the goal post and because of that he grew his buisness from a few trucks in the household goods moving buisness to one of the largest in the world.
Go into each day and end each night thinking how you can do it better, what went wrong in the process that can be improved ?
Who are your allies ? Concentrate more on building allies and relationships then on revenge or your enemies. You will always have haters...get over it and stay positive and move on.
Negativity and haters are dead weight- they will just weigh you down.
Stay focused on your goals- envision those goal post and keep moving them.
How can YOU improve ?

Friday, August 4, 2017

Believe

Believe in half of what you hear and less of what you see.

Believe in yourself more then anything else.

If you continue to do your best and try not to hurt others you will be ok-
You will make mistakes along the way- we are all human - that is ok too - just learn from them.

Believe in something bigger then yourself too- we all must be here for a reason -

Believe in the healing of forgiveness.

Believe that no one is better then you and you are not better then anyone else.

All we need is Love - forget the toys and stuff- less is more.

Believe

Thursday, August 3, 2017

Google

Google is a wonderful thing, want to find something or learn how to do something or answer a question...Google!
Remember with good can also come bad..everything you google or post or buy on line is out there for all to see. Think twice before you post.
It had been over three decades since I looked for a different job and back then there were no home computers , yea I am that old, and now I found employers all searched me on the internet before we even spoke. Thank goodness my social Post are all positive, they can view your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, if you blog that is all out there..stay positive people.
As I always say social media not where you want to air your dirty laundry, want to bitch or complain about someone or something? Save it for that private conversation with your friend and even at that be sure they are truly your friend or else that too will come back to bite you.
Watch yourself, use self restraint and stay positive..especially on line ..it lives.

Wednesday, August 2, 2017

People are watching

People watch and observe how you speak to others.
Don't think for a minute that people do not know how you treat others and trust me they take note .
It can run but you can't hide and most of all you can't hide from yourself, when you act tough or holler at that fellow worker it is your reputation that takes the hit.
Remember in the grand scheme of things titles mean nothing, we are all the same and you get what you give..period.
The tough act and the abuse of power only last so long, it is a house of cards and it will fall and then the same people that push people around will ask for help and then realize how many bridges they burned. I do not care who you are or what your title is - it is how you treat the least among us that you will be judged in the end. 
You gain more with an open hand then a clinched fist , come down from your Ivy tower and look at people and listen to their stories...care.
Remember people are watching.

Tuesday, August 1, 2017

Me me me

I truly believe that we only BEGIN to grow when we get away from thinking the world revolves around us and start to live a life devoted to helping others.
I think it is significant that we live in the day of the " selfie" and people are so infatuated with taking pictures of themselves. I recently went to a concert and while the concert was on more people were interested in taking selfies with the band behind them then actually getting loss in their music.
It is hard and certainly at the beginning of young families and relationships I can understand being very concerned about yourself and laying down a good financial base for you and your family.
As we get older and realize that our time here is limited we hopefully find that the reward is in the giving and to pushing the lime light away from us.
I said "BEGIN" because it is a process and it is only human nature to appreciate the applause and the attention and that it itself is not a sin or wrong but doing it just for the attention is wrong.
I turn 60 in a few days and I am still learning but I do so hope that I can make a difference and help others as much as I can while I am here. I have been working full time since I was 17 and have seen and learned a lot along the way. I loved learning, still do. I learn better by being involved and hands on and watching , I learned personalities and people and it has helped me along the way.
I always tried to treat others the way I wanted to be treated- simple rule and if more lived by it the better they would be and the better we all would be.
Get away from "me" and try to be more conscious of your surroundings and others.

Wednesday, July 26, 2017

Buisness 101

The most basics in buisness, call it buisness 101 - return calls/email.
The most basic ingredient to success is just caring and respect.
When you ignore a phone call or do not return an email promptly you are saying you do not care .
I do not care what title you hold or how busy you may think you are - every call/ email needs to answered , if you are to busy say that and follow up but be sure to follow up.
As basic and simple as this sounds I see more and more people ignoring it , usually the same people that just don't get it.
Show people you care , don't just mouth the words- show it- prove it - be ahead of it and go the extra mile , every day - not every once in a while.
That is pure basic buisness 101

Tuesday, July 25, 2017

Care about each other

Be encouraging to your employees and offer praise when appropriate. 

Thank employees for doing a good job and let them know that you value them. Should something go wrong or someone makes a mistake, don’t “punish” the person. Rather, talk to the person, teach the correct procedures, and offer encouragement and further teaching when needed. Remember that punishing people only makes things worse in that the employee may become angry and bitter and may want to sabotage their work to get back at the company. If errors continue after correction, then you may need to evaluate that person to make sure he or she is a good fit for the job.

As an employer, you have an excellent opportunity to make a difference in your employees’ lives. This may mean a smile, asking how their family is, or asking about their interests or problems. If you sense that someone is depressed, help that person get the necessary resources, as employees with depression have higher absenteeism, increased health problems, and decreased performance. Remember that we are all humans working together to get through life. We need to care about each other to get the best results.

Monday, July 24, 2017

Doomed to fail

Most businesses and organizations are doomed to fail today because they lack one basic fundamental- loyalty. It amazes me that I hear from so many people in totally different occupations how people are promoted to high positions that did not work their way up- it has become "who you know, not what you know" and that just is not healthy or a way to build loyalty.

A buisness or organization most vital asset is not the building they drive to every day or equipment or computers it is their people, their employees- without them it is doomed to fail.
I fear that the next generation will not know what it is like to work for one company and be totally proud of what they do, people pass through jobs now every five years or so and businesses no longer look at tenure as a good thing, they rather cut the veterans to bring on the young and inexperience.

There are several reasons organizations now target the 50 and above groups and they are all mostly financial reasons, most time the veteran has worked his or her way up the ladder and has accumulated raises along the way so they can be replaced with a younger model. The biggest issue with that is also along the way those vertans have obtained priceless knowledge and relationships that cannot easily be replaced. But because the people now in power positions did not work their way up the ladder they really have no idea all that these people do on a day to day or what they know.

Another reason is health insurance, as the veteran grows older they most likely may need the use of their life insurance more and that cost more for businesses.

As we grow with technology we need to remember the basics and how businesses profit and grow - it was and always will be the people , the people that turn that computer and answer that phone and shuffle all that paperwork and email and do that manual labor.
 Just as important are relationships from owners and management to their employees and from their employees to their customers.
It is all about pride in what you do because you have loyalty and feel respected .

Pretty simple, right ? - Relationships and Loyalty-
 Then why don't today's organizations get it ? 

Friday, July 21, 2017

Assume nothing

An excerpt from a book written by Coach Bill Parcells-

Assume nothing.

Coaches can't ever be afraid to repeat the most elementary fundamentals. As Tom Cahill used to tell my high school football team, " First who, then how. If you don't know who to hit , what am I teaching you how to hit him for ? " Coach Cahill would get very dramatic at our first sign of confusion, He'd stop practice and point at each lineman, one at a time: "You have him, you have him, you have him.... You're running the ball here- now does everyone have it ?" And then he'd go down the line again, repeating the matchups, and finally he'd say, "Now, goddamn it , get 'em ! "

Coach Cahill was adamant about the basics; they say you are a product of your environment, and there I am.I emphasize all the time, especially with a younger team, because it's the obvious things that beat you if they're not taken care of. There are coaches that hold their players responsible for the entire playbook, for knowing what to do even if the play had'nt been run all season. In my view, that's a good way to lose on principle. I'll go over things in practice that we ran last week; the players may groan, but they'll have no excuse for messing up.


You can apply the same idea and methods to your buisness .

Be a Teacher, Not a Drill Sergeant

Thursday, July 20, 2017

Demons

Sometimes they're in a bottle
Sometimes a pair of high heal shoes
Some come rolled in paper
Some have six strings and only play the blues
Once you meet the devil
There's no way he'll let you be
When I'm not chasing demons
There's demons chasing me
Skeletons in closets
Ghost underneath the bed
They hide out in pictures
And in words better left unsaid
They hang around like perfume
And haunt me like an ancient melody
When I'm not chasing demons
There's demons chasing me
There's things I can?t leave alone
'Cause they won't leave me alone
What I want ain't what I need
Still I reach for the things I crave
Better try to runaway
Maybe I'm afraid of being free
When I'm not chasing demons
There's demons chasing me
So roll one up and light it
Pickup my old guitar
I'm playing crossroads
Drinkin' whiskey from the mason jar
There's heartache at my front door
Says she needs my company
When I'm not chasing demons
There's demons chasing me
There's things I can?t leave alone
'Cause they won't leave me alone
What I want ain't what I need
Still I reach for the things I crave
Better try to runaway
Maybe I'm afraid of being free
When I'm not chasing demons
There's demons chasing me


Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Money

Money Money Money

Money should not be our God but yet we all serve it, worry about it and at times do not speak up in fear of money.
How different would our life be if we could actually speak out in truth and not in fear of losing your job or being politically ridiculed or punished?
I hear every day in every walk of life and in all businesses, people being wronged and being silent or whispering to their small circle and kissing the brass.

Wrong Wrong Wrong.

The main reason businesses are suffering is because they continue to live in the bubble and because they have put their true workers on the outside they will never correct their issues. Instead they will just point down and to everyone else to blame others for their failures.
If you do not include the people that actually carry the water how in the world can you succeed?
If the only people in the room are the stuff shirts,  getting overpaid most likely, then who are they listening to?

Because their number one goal is to just protect their own job and their own bonuses they spew out these rediculous directives and just spin spin spin.

If they kick the can further on down the road they live to see another day.

Money drives their decisions..their own money..and that is why they will always fail.

Monday, July 17, 2017

Managers

The power your manager holds over you, your employment security and your career path makes your direct boss the most important person in your working life for as long as you have your job.
The unequal power relationship between a manager and their subordinate is one of the most dysfunctional features of traditional employment.
It is ridiculous that new supervisors are promoted with little thought, given little to no training and then put in charge of other people, but it happens every day.
It is not  healthy for you to need one person your manager  to approve of your every move!

I hope you have a manager who trusts you and whom you can trust. You deserve to work for a manager who doesn't expect or require you to behave any differently at work than you do anywhere else.

You deserve to work for someone who wants to see the real you at work, not a fake, subservient version of you  but many are not that lucky.

Friday, July 14, 2017

Training

For any buisness to succeed you have to be able to train and explain.

It is not just good enough to point and demand it is your responsibility to train and teach each and every employee or laborer that works for you.

If an issue arises because of lack of preparation then use that as a teaching moment, point out how the situation could have been prevented.
Don't just demand quality, give them the tools to succeed.

Choose the moment and be wary of your voice infliction, the idea is to not reprimand but to teach.

Process is important, habits are important, keep tweaking your processes to improve, embrace technology but do not ever forget that technology can never replace the human side of business-
You can have the best technology but if you do not have the right process in place and you do not teach and embrace the people around you all the technology in the world will not make you successful.

Train and explain and while you are explaining, tell them why what they are doing is important and how it fits into the bigger picture.
Do not assume they know.

It is your responsibility to teach, and train and explain.

Thursday, July 13, 2017

Intimidation

Intimidation is not a way to lead or a way to conduct buisness.
People who bully or try to intimidate have always bothered me and I have always fought against them.
First I NEVER allow them to dictate ANYTHING over me , I would never allow them that Power.
Unfortunately I have to watch others get caught in their web though, I do my best to try to help but they know who they can prey on and they attack.
I can say that their power is fleeting because you can never sustain with that mentality but in their wake they do leave collateral damage.
Bullies are normally bullies because of their own insecurities and inability to actually see people or they are so paronoid that they have to run their day through intimidation to deflect.
Do not give away YOUR power or be intimidated by anyone.
Do YOUR job and do not feed into their insecurities and do not give them the satisfaction as to argue or lose your focus. Let them drown in their own negativity and be better then them .
Be the best YOU can be !

Wednesday, July 12, 2017

Focus

In all the busy and with all the buzz around it is more important then ever to FOCUS.
Focus on YOUR job and what YOU can do better.
If you do not like something then try to conduct change but change does not come from dogging the other guy or by spewing venom.
Change comes from within and sometimes it has to come in increments but most of all be honest with yourself and focus on what your part of the process is- do your job.
Everyone does not need to know any private conversations you may have as a malfunction fact people will not trust you if they see or hear their private conversations they may have had with you and they see or hear them on socmedia or from other people.
Focus on what you can do to conduct change but most important focus on the day in front of you and do your very best- it is YOUR reputation and PRIDE on the line.

Friday, July 7, 2017

Buck Up

Did you mess up ?
Forget to do something?
Shoulda- woulda- coulda-
Buck Up !
Buck Up and admit it and move on.. learn from it..apologize if necessary and make good.
People will respect you more if you just admit that you may of messed up then if you try to hide it or worse blame others.
Admit your mistakes and do it sooner rather then later.
And if others messed up don't take them to the tool shed ( an old saying meaning to tally wack them- another old saying meaning to yell or belittle someone ) if the people around you mess up and everyone is stressing out that is the time to extend the olive branch ( another old saying meaning to reach out and befriend someone) - they will remember your kindness and forgiveness the next time you may neededing it.
Build allies and bridges and partners..be honest .
Buck Up ! ( an old saying meaning to stand up or be true or do the right thing..even if it's difficult)

Wednesday, July 5, 2017

The Life

It was early one morning
Playa del Carmen
That's when I first met Jose
He had a 12 foot Schooner
A 3 foot cooler
Full of the catch of the day
And he was wrinkled from grinning
From all of the sun he had been in
He was barefoot, cerveza in hand
He said "Gracias senor", when I paid him too much for
All of the Snapper he had
Now I told him my friend it ain't nothing
In the best broken Spanish I knew
I said I make a good living
Back home where I'm from
He smiled and said Amigo me too
He said I fish and I play my guitar
I laugh at the bar with my friends
I go home to my wife
I pray every night
I can do it all over again
Somewhere over Texas
I thought of my Lexus
And all the stuff I work so hard for
And all the things that I've gathered
From climbing that ladder
Didn't make much sense anymore
They say my nest egg ain't ready to hatch yet
They keep holding my feet to the fire
They call it paying the price
So that one day in life
I'll have what I need to retire
And just fish
And play my guitar
And laugh at the bar with my friends
And go home to my wife
And pray every night
I can do it all over again
And to think that I thought for a while there that I had it made
When the truth is I'm really just dying
To live like Jose
And just fish
Play my guitar
Laugh at the bar with my friends
Go home to my wife
Pray every night
I can do it all over again
Wouldn't that be the life?
Wouldn't that be the life?

Tuesday, July 4, 2017

God bless the USA

May God bless the United States of America.
This great experiment is still alive and cooking over 200 years later.
Democracy!
Individual rights- Frredom of speech - Freedom to worship who you wish.
All worth fighting for - Frredom isn't Free- many have fought and are active members in or military and it is because of their sacrifices we get to live in this great experiment.
We are feeling our way around and some of us express our thoughts and opinions differently but is very important to democracy that we continue to express our opinions.
We need to practice debate and discussions and agree to to disagree at times but to give each other the respect that we all deserve.
Our experiment gets messy at times but it is still one of the best philosophies on the planet.
Indivusal rights 

Live Free !

Sunday, July 2, 2017

The truth

Discovering the Truth..
Finding the truth can be difficult at times, most people see the truth as THEY see it and have a very difficult time seeing it from any other side.
Sometimes you may need to just absorb it all, listen and maybe even do your own research.
You most definitely should not give knee jerk reactions or you just may end being the jerk.
Always try to see the other side no matter how crazy or opposite it may look or sound.
Do not get bullied, the guy yelling the loudest standing on his soap box saying ..hey look over here..is probably going to just give you his opinions ..just louder and probably with a squished up face and hands and arms moving all about. But in the end they are just HIS opinions and how he sees the situation. Does HE have all the facts ? Are they mostly personally motivated?
Do not be sheep.
Take the time to do your own investigating, stop , take a huge breathe in and just listen, do not act in the moment and join the crowd.
Be brave and strong enough to think on your own.
Money is the motivator for most everybody unfortunately and if you look under the sheets and keep pulling the thread you most likely will always find a money trail.
If you want real change ..start with the man ( or woman ) in the mirror.
Have the courage to stand alone if you must , there is strength in numbers but in the end it is YOU that you have to answer to..your moral code.
You can't hide from the real truth..the truth as YOU know it...follow your heart and your head.

Thursday, June 29, 2017

Examples

What examples are we setting for our kids?
Think about it..in your house who do you talk highly about and hold as your heros? Your favorite sports team or athlete? A actor or actress ?
How many talk shows are devoted to talk about how many millions these athletes and entertainers make ?
Yet we tell our children that teaching is important and education and being a policeman or fireman is very honorable along with serving our country.
We say one thing but we show them something else.
Our idols and who we pay What for has completely gone out of whack.
Athletes and entertainers making 52 million dollars or more...crazy.
Why?
What exactly do they do? They just entertain.
We need to prioritize what and who are the real heros in our country.
Can we ever get the train back on track ?

Wednesday, June 28, 2017

It is the HARD that separates you

When things get really tough and you feel totally stressed that is when you need to kick it in.
It is the HARD that separates the good , the bad and the ugly.
Take charge , take breath and dive in. If it is something that you know is going to be difficult and you know there will opposition all the more reason to not delay- DO NOT put it off - run to it.
You will have time to bitch and complain later for now work the problem.
And stay cool , do not let them see you sweat.
I use to have a dispatcher that worked for me and you never knew when he was on the phone if there was a problem, he stayed calm and quiet and worked the problem as opposed to others who would get louder to let everyone else know there were issues.
Stay calm and carry on.

Monday, June 26, 2017

Prepare- Executive- Follow up

Want to succeed?

PREPARE
EXECUTIVE
FOLLOW UP

Think ahead, prepare !- think of all the " what if's" , have a plan A and a plan B and in the very busy season think of a plan C - being ahead of things does not mean a day ahead. You should be looking a week ahead and when you are 72 hours in front of the day you are preparing for you should have everything set because in the busy season even if you are set 72 hours ahead chances are something will still happen to throw a wrench in the operation.

Once you prepare and the day comes- execute- be sure to stay focused on the day and DO YOUR JOB ! Take responsibility and always do your very best and just the great olympians - smile - people are watching and perception is reality.

Follow up after your work day to be sure everyone is satisfied and be thankful. Build your base and your alliances- every day !

Friday, June 23, 2017

Giving back

I help start a 501 c non profit community theatre in West Warwick RI a few years ago and watching it  grow and seeing the smiles on people's faces on play night have been well worth the time and effort.
Sometimes you just have to just have faith in what you believe in and go for it.
You may not know the complete path or have all the answers but you soon realize neither does anyone else so you might as well follow your heart and trust your gut.
Our goal was to help revitalize a small town that was once vibrant and back in the 50's and 60's was the place to shop and go to for your entertainment. Since then mills closed and malls opened and the town fell on hard times but it is fighting back.
We wanted to be a part of that and to give the people in the community an affordable place to go to see live entertainment, to push away from their computer and walk away from their TV to get out and to do it without having to take out a second mortgage.
We also wanted to give people who want to work their craft in acting, singing, directing, play writes and musicians a place to go and so began a Playhouse family.
Believe!

Below is an article in our local paper about The Arctic Playhouse..


http://www.providencejournal.com/news/20170621/former-west-warwick-department-store-to-take-on-new-role-as-theater