Wednesday, June 28, 2017

It is the HARD that separates you

When things get really tough and you feel totally stressed that is when you need to kick it in.
It is the HARD that separates the good , the bad and the ugly.
Take charge , take breath and dive in. If it is something that you know is going to be difficult and you know there will opposition all the more reason to not delay- DO NOT put it off - run to it.
You will have time to bitch and complain later for now work the problem.
And stay cool , do not let them see you sweat.
I use to have a dispatcher that worked for me and you never knew when he was on the phone if there was a problem, he stayed calm and quiet and worked the problem as opposed to others who would get louder to let everyone else know there were issues.
Stay calm and carry on.

Monday, June 26, 2017

Prepare- Executive- Follow up

Want to succeed?

PREPARE
EXECUTIVE
FOLLOW UP

Think ahead, prepare !- think of all the " what if's" , have a plan A and a plan B and in the very busy season think of a plan C - being ahead of things does not mean a day ahead. You should be looking a week ahead and when you are 72 hours in front of the day you are preparing for you should have everything set because in the busy season even if you are set 72 hours ahead chances are something will still happen to throw a wrench in the operation.

Once you prepare and the day comes- execute- be sure to stay focused on the day and DO YOUR JOB ! Take responsibility and always do your very best and just the great olympians - smile - people are watching and perception is reality.

Follow up after your work day to be sure everyone is satisfied and be thankful. Build your base and your alliances- every day !

Friday, June 23, 2017

Giving back

I help start a 501 c non profit community theatre in West Warwick RI a few years ago and watching it  grow and seeing the smiles on people's faces on play night have been well worth the time and effort.
Sometimes you just have to just have faith in what you believe in and go for it.
You may not know the complete path or have all the answers but you soon realize neither does anyone else so you might as well follow your heart and trust your gut.
Our goal was to help revitalize a small town that was once vibrant and back in the 50's and 60's was the place to shop and go to for your entertainment. Since then mills closed and malls opened and the town fell on hard times but it is fighting back.
We wanted to be a part of that and to give the people in the community an affordable place to go to see live entertainment, to push away from their computer and walk away from their TV to get out and to do it without having to take out a second mortgage.
We also wanted to give people who want to work their craft in acting, singing, directing, play writes and musicians a place to go and so began a Playhouse family.
Believe!

Below is an article in our local paper about The Arctic Playhouse..


http://www.providencejournal.com/news/20170621/former-west-warwick-department-store-to-take-on-new-role-as-theater

Wednesday, June 21, 2017

Look Up

Now especially with our cell phones and electronics it is more important then ever to look up !
But even in the course of our busy day..look up..look people in the eye..say hi and see them.
Toward the last 10 years or so of my management when I interviewed people in the late teens or early 20's most of them never looked me in the eye, they seem to have very little human contact.
We probably need a course now in high school to teach people how to interact with human beings.
Now it is not just the younger generation that suffers from this , older adults get so wrapped up in their busy day that most never take the time to stop and look up.
Breathe...stop...look up..and appreciate everything around you and for goodness sake stop thinking the world revolves you.
Enjoy the day  and the goodness around you.

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

Do the right thing

You know what the right thing is.. it's that voice in your right ear on your shoulder..listen to it.
You may think you are doing the wrong thing for good reasons but trust me wrong is wrong.
This is where karma comes in.
It will always catch up to you .. you are always better taking the right road even if the almighty dollar is calling you , money is definitely the root of ALL evil.
Resist.
In the end it is not the money that will save you or hug you or give you your true reward.
Do the right thing !


Monday, June 19, 2017

Remembering Paul Arpin

Remembering Paul Arpin who passed away June 12th, 2010

In February 2011, the Moving & Storage Institute presented its prestigious Lifetime Achievement Award for Distinguished Service posthumously to Paul G. Arpin, Sr., former chairman of the Arpin Group, Inc. The award was accepted by Mr. Arpin’s son David, president and CEO of Arpin Group and current AMSA board chair.

Born and raised in Rhode Island, Paul began working in the family business at a young age under the tutelage of his parents and grandparents. Upon returning home from WWII, Paul, a D-Day survivor, began working at the company full-time and succeeded his grandfather as president in 1945.
Throughout his career, Paul’s goal was not to build the biggest moving company, but to build the best. His inspiration to grow the company so the customer received the most value for every dollar spent was paramount. Through his compassion and tenacity, and by combining the best people in the industry for one goal — to provide superior customer service — he knew that he would develop a loyal customer base that would span generations. Today, adults whose parents relocated the family using the Arpin Group are turning to the company again to help move. It is a testimony to Paul’s leadership that the business, originally established in 1900 by his grandparents, continues to Create Customers for Life.

 Paul understood the need to invest in his company. Although he was an "old school" businessman, he hired people to develop the company’s infrastructure to better serve customers, agents and drivers, and to remain competitive. Paul also recognized that drivers are the lifeblood of the industry, and he was always concerned for them and their families. He helped many establish themselves as Arpin agents.

 In addition to the success of Arpin Group under his leadership, Paul’s legacy is tied to his many charitable pursuits. He is remembered for his spirit of giving — through countless donations of transportation services and manpower to help facilitate community projects, environmental initiatives to re-duce the company’s carbon footprint, and matching employee contributions to help support a range of meaningful causes.

 "May the work I do speak for me" was a deeply felt commitment that was expressed by many who spoke of him at his funeral and wake, following his death in June 2010.

 Paul Arpin, Sr.’s legacy and vision continue to live on through the fourth generation of Arpin family members to operate the privately owned company, sons David (Arpin president & CEO) and Peter (executive vice president). These men, along with their father and members of Arpin’s agency family, helped to transform the company into the nation’s fourth-largest household goods carrier group, with strategic service centers located throughout the world.
from Direction magazine

Friday, June 16, 2017

Brothers

I hear people throw the term " brother " around a lot but I am old school and hold that term closely and use it spareingly and when I say it to someone it means something.
I have been very blessed to have had many friends and even more blessed to be able to call some my brother. A brother is someone who has your back no matter what and you have his. A brother is someone who tells you the truth even when you disagree. A brother is someone who will always be there. That is what this road we travel on is all about- making friends and bonds and if we are lucky creating brothers for life. Make it your goal to reach out, be there for that friend, listen and help where you can- there you will find your true reward.
Be a brother .

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Loyalty

Loyalty  is  earned.

You can't demand loyalty , either people respect you or they don't, if they respect you and trust you loyalty will follow.

Do not mistake loyalty for fear, many times in our work place we need the job so we are more likely to go along but do not lose your moral compass. Do what you have to do to put food on your table, do not intentionally hurt anyone but keep your eyes open.
By all means do not do anything you think may be illegal or morally wrong because you fear losing your job, choose your time and make the correct choice.

It's about how to lead your life. If you lead your life the right way, the karma will take care of itself.

Monday, June 12, 2017

Isolation

The more we use technology around us the more isolated we can become.
I saw it evolve from when the home computer became popular with my son, he was around 12 or 13 and rather than go down the street and hang with his friends after school he would run home and go to the computer room and instant message them. That was back in the middle 90's now it has grown technically has grown so much more, people barely look up, they are either on their phone or in Facebook or they have their headphones on.
Don't get me wrong I am guilty of using all of that and probably do way more than I should. Certainly you have to use all of the social media to promote your work in some cases but most of us get sucked in even more. I do not think the answer is to totally ignore it but the biggest challenge is to harness it and to take the time to look up.
Do not allow technology to isolate you and please do not believe all the postings on how beautiful everyone's life is , we are all battling something in our lives. Unfortunately a lot of people find the need to try to keep up with the Jones's - and think they are missing out.

People need interaction- live interaction!
People need to enjoy all of this wonderful world around us not just on the computer in front of you.

Friday, June 9, 2017

I'm Alive

Stressing out ?
Tired or Angry ??

It's ok, it is all part of the ride but celebrate the day ...you are alive !!

Lyrics by Kenny Chesney ..



So damn easy to say that life's so hard
Everybody's got their share of battle scars
As for me, I'd like to thank my lucky stars that I'm alive and well...
It'd be easy to add up all the pain
And all the dreams you sat and watched go up in flames
Dwell on the wreckage as it smolders in the rain
But not me...I'm alive


And today you know that's good enough for me
Breathin' in and out's a blessing can't you see
Today's the first day of the rest of my life and I'm alive
And well...I'm alive and well


The stars are dancin' on the water here tonight
It's good for the soul when there's not a soul in sight
This boat has caught its wind and brought me back to life now I'm alive and well

https://youtu.be/B56UjiLuWkk

Thursday, June 8, 2017

Common sense

The most important gene have is the common sense gene.

Our kids have more technology at their fingertips then any other generation in history and they are learning how to use it at a early age and from that they will have the ability to do some great things.

The thing I see missing more and more is plain old common sense, the ability to see and listen and to make common sense assessments and decisions. I also see missing is the ability to speak up, ask questions, people seem ok with just doing their little part of whatever they are assigned and content with staying within those lines.

Having good common sense and the curiosity to ask questions and learn are absolutely vital to growth, both for the individual and for whatever company or business that the individual works for.
You can be the most brilliant person on the books but if you cannot access the people and the situation around you properly you will always struggle.

 That is why I always say look up and listen and rather then judge others try to learn from them and if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck it it most likely a duck.

 Don't make things more difficult then they really are...use the good old common sense gene that the good Lord gave all of us.






Wednesday, June 7, 2017

Free

Live simple...live free.

Easier said then done.. t really shouldn't be..we complicate life. We complicate life mostly because of stuff, we have to work harder, run faster and stress out so we can afford more stuff.
Try to male it a goal to work hard but try to lose more stuff..live simple..live free.
You need a roof over your head, food on your table clothes and heat in the winter - those are your needs- the rest are your wants- distinguish between the two - wants and needs.

Try to be more conscious of asking yourself  if you would rather have more stuff or more time to be free. For those with young families I understand the responsibility and your needs are broader but for those of us who's families are more grown up it is time to wind it down and free yourself.

Live simple..live free...enjoy life ..we are all just visiting.

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Look ahead

It never ceases to amaze me how many people do not look ahead or plan.

The same people that do not look ahead or plan always end up chasing their tail and are in a Chinese fire drill all day.

The real shame of it is they never learn, they actually do the opposite - they get frustrated with the crazy around them so they slow down or say F it and rather then learn from it and start getting ahead of things they end up getting run over.

Stop the madness .. start looking ahead and pre- plan !

Think out all the "what if's" in your head, write it down , have plan "B" ready just in case ( actually have plan "B" and "C" ready) Yes it will take more of your time on the front end but I promise you that it will save you three times that time on the back end and you will lessen your stress.

It is the " pay me now or pay me later " principle- you either invest your time on the front side or pay for it on the back end- - don't wait till the day of - be out in front - not a day before or two days before but weeks ! If you are a manager or you are responsible for others then your job is to educate and help the people you are responsible for- if they fail or their day becomes helter shelter then you have to ask yourself what could you have to better prepare THEM - did YOU think ahead?

We are all in this together- look ahead- plan- pre-plan - invest your time on the front end !

Monday, June 5, 2017

Relationships

Life is ALL about relationships.

Rather in business or in your personal life making relationships and friends and allies is what it is ALL about !

If you want to learn and grow and succeed you will need to slow the heck down and build relationships. Those that think they know everything and can roll over people will ALLWAYS fail..trust me. Their house is a house of cards, it may look as if they are succeeding and in the very short term they may even rise to power but like any house of cards they will ultimately fail.

You never stop learning, Muhammad Ali said any man that looks at life the same way at 50 as when he was 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.
Lord knows that I am still learning and I feel that at 60 I am just starting to see more and understand more, not only about business but life in general.

I have succeeded in life but I am still learning..every day !
 My biggest success comes in knowing that I may have played a role in helping others, even in a small way.

Slow down, smile, learn and sincerely CARE about those around you.

If you think that you are so smart that you can go it alone..that is exactly where you will end up..alone.

Friday, June 2, 2017

Challenge

I love a challenge!

I challenge myself every day !

Ever feel like telling some people to F off ? I sure do but when those moments arise or when I foresee  where they may arise I challenge myself- I challenge myself to smile and not let it get to me. I tell myself that if I do that then I allow them to win and more than likely it will carry over to the rest of my day in a negative way and effect what I can do.

Years ago I was over weight, I was up to 215 lbs. and I am only 5'7" , my doctor was ready to put me on pills to lower my cholesterol, I dislike taking any pills so I challenged myself and started a strict workout routine and started watching what I ate and how much I ate and dropped my weight to 175 Lbs. - no cholesterol problem anymore and no pills.

As a child growing up I grew up with my dad being an alcoholic and I vowed that would never be me, I would not allow alcohol to be a crutch, I challenged myself and to this day if I have a stressed day I will not allow myself to have alcohol because that would using it for the wrong reasons.
And thank God the alcoholic bug did not get me.

In whatever job I held I always challenged myself to do better, to learn and to try to find a better way.
I started my working life washing dishes and I wanted to be the best dishwasher, I then stocked shelves and worked my way up to manage the same store I stocked shelves at, then dispatched and worked my way up to Vice President..it did not matter what the job was I just wanted to do my best.
I challenged myself to always be the best I could be, and to learn from everyone around me and to help others wherever I can.

Robert Kennedy said " Some people see things as they are and ask why, I see things as they should be and ask why not" .
I heard that quote as a very young boy and loved it and I try to live it every day.

Challenge yourself



Thursday, June 1, 2017

Good workers and good managers

Good workers do not always make good managers or leaders.
Managing people can take an entirely different set of skills from knowing your product.
To effectively manage people you certainly need to know the process and what you are asking them to do so working your way up is certainly essential to your success, that said if promoted or if you want to take more on you then have to put yourself in the other person's mind set and skills.
You need to access everyone's positives and work with that, you can not just bark out orders or assume they know what you are asking, it is up to you to explain what you want and why.
The why is crusial for growth, as a leader or manager you have to be a good teacher and most of all you have to care, care about the success of others.
In order to be the best boss, manager and/or teacher you must watch, listen, observe and help.

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Breathe

This is the time of year that kills..stress kills .. too many hours kills...breathe.
Remember you can only do so much, if you take on too much you will make mistakes and worse you may lessen your time here on this earth...breathe..look around..stop for a few minutes.
When I went to birthing class with my wife many years ago the instructor taught us how to breathe and relax and to be conscious of our body. She would have us just sit and take deep breaths then think about a certain part of our bodies and to try to relax them. Sure enough when she started with our toes I realized that they were curled and tight, then she worked our way up to our shoulders and along the way I realized I was tense and by breathing and being conscious of it I was able to relax.
Here I am over 30 years later and I still remember that lesson.
Do yourself a big favor and sometime during the course of your busy day or night just sirpt for a few minutes and breathe and be conscious of your surroundings and of yourself.
The money will do you no good if you have a stroke or cut years off your life because of stress.
A good friend told me years ago..worth smarter-not harder.

Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Some cliches

The reason why cliches are repeated so often is because they are true.

Dance with the one who brung ya.
This cliche applies far beyond prom night. It should be a montra in the buisness world, in academia , and at home.It's a reminder about loyalty and appreciation.

Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.
That comes from Seneca, the Roman philosopher who was born in 5 B.C.  It'll be worth repeating for another two thousand years , at least.

Whether you think you can or can't, you're right.



Monday, May 29, 2017

Let time go lightly

"Let Time Go Lightly"

I let time go lightly when I'm here with you,
I let time go lightly when the day is through.
I keep a watch on time when I've have work to do,
I let time go lightly with you.

Morning, a time for breaking ground and sowing seeds,
and yet we give up our sunshine
so we can buy what we need.

That leaves the evening, to share a fire with a friend or two,
to lose sight of the hours
To go lightly with you

I let time go lightly when I'm here with you,
I let time go lightly when the day is through.
I keep a watch on time when I've got work to do,
I let time go lightly with you.

Old friends, they mean much more to me than the new friends,
Cause they can see where you are,
and they know where you've been.
Music, has been my oldest friend, my fiercest foe,
cause it can take me so high,
(High.....) Yes it can make me so low.

When I was a child my mother would help me along
She'd rock me to sleep and sing me a song.
So I learned to love the music of all the tunes in my mind
the changing of chords, the rhythm of time.

I let time go lightly when I'm here with you,
I let time go lightly when the day is through.
I keep a watch on time when I've got work to do,
I let time go lightly with you.

Yes I let time go lightly with you, and a fire, and a friend or two
With you and a fire and a friend or two
A friend or two and you

Friday, May 26, 2017

Moms and leaders- part 3

Encouraging — Moms are awesome cheerleaders. They are always looking for opportunities to cheer on their kids to be the best they can be. Excellent leaders are constantly looking for ways to bring out the best in their people. It can be as simple as spending a few minutes to build rapport with a team member by talking about their mutual interests outside of work, or it could be something as big as publicly recognizing a team member in front of his/her peers. Regardless of the action, great leaders look for ways to encourage their followers.
Responsible — Moms are the role models of dependable and responsible leadership. If moms say they are going to do something, they do it. They can always be counted on to fulfill their end of the bargain. Shouldn’t workplace leaders do the same? Employees crave leaders who demonstrate responsibility. They want to know their leader takes their obligations seriously and will follow through on their commitments. If leaders want responsible team members, they need to walk the talk and show what responsibility looks like.
Not everyone’s mother has been a great role model of leadership. Mothers, just like all other kinds of leaders, aren’t perfect. They make mistakes. They fail. They disappoint. We can learn from those experiences too, even if it’s as basic as what not to do as a leader.
The best mothers illustrate what great leadership looks like. They act as mentors, are objective in dealing with people, are trustworthy, helpful, encouraging, and responsible. Anyone in a leadership role would be wise to lead a little more like mom.

Thursday, May 25, 2017

Moms and leaders- part 2

Moms and leaders have a lot in common..

Trustworthy — It goes without saying that moms are trustworthy. Leaders should be no different. Trustworthiness is the foundation upon which successful leadership is built. Leaders should embody the four elements of trust: ability, believability, connectedness, and dependability. Above all else, team members should never have to doubt the trustworthiness of their leader. If you’re not sure if you’re building or eroding trust, check out this free e-book.
Helpful — Who stays up late to help their child complete a school project the night before it’s due? Who drives the team carpool all day on Saturdays to shuttle the kids between matches? Who does the laundry, cooks the meals, cleans the house, packs lunches, and plays nurse when the kids are sick? Mom, that’s who! (Yes, sometimes Dad too, but I’ll save that for a Father’s Day article.) Mom is always there to help, no matter how big or small the need. The best leaders do the same. Their team members know they can approach the leader with any question or need, no matter how trivial, and the leader will welcome the opportunity to provide assistance.

Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Moms and leaders

Moms and leaders have lots in common ..

Mentor — What does a mentor do? A mentor shares the wisdom that has been gleaned from life experiences. Mentors offer advice, perspective, and guidance to help their mentee navigate their life or career journey. Sometimes that comes in the form of encouragement and other times as correction. Moms, and great leaders, are trusted mentors.
Objective — Moms have a unique ability to be objective in the way they treat their kids, and leaders should use the same approach with their team members. Moms love all of their children completely, yet uniquely. If love were able to be measured, a mom’s love would be complete, 100% for each child. And if love came in different colors, each child’s color would be unique: blue, red, purple, etc. Leaders should be completely objective with their followers, yet treat each one uniquely according to their needs and situation.

Spoiled

louis c k generation of spoiled idiots ..

Everything is amazing and nobody is happy ..

You can usually find truth in humor, in this video comedian Louie C K talks about how advanced we are and how far we have come with technology and yet how unhappy we are.
My generation understands how far we have come because we remember the rotary phone, no cell phones or the computer, black and white TV, cars with no AC and roll down windows but there is whole other generation now behind us that do not know life without all this technology we have today. Because they do not know what life was out without all these luxuries most are simply spoiled and do not really appreciate what they have, they also do not know how to shut down and look up.

 It is the next generation's biggest challenge- how to harness this great technology and yet no lose simplicity and human interaction.



https://youtu.be/dgEvjW1Pq4I

Monday, May 22, 2017

Foundation

Build a strong foundation-
Your children are an extension of you and it is very important that you help build a strong foundation that they can draw from in their life and that starts from Ruth's day they are born. The time they spend with you as children is what they know of the world around them and what they will try to immediate in their adult lives. The time you spend with them, the husband love will be the beginning of their foundation. How you treat others and the words you use will be part of their foundation, they are always watching and listening, you are their world.
You will have no more important job on this earth , being a pRent and enjoying the life of your children is what it is all about.
Yes, you need money so you can provide for your children but do not forget the foundation.
Money will not buy your children's memories or give them the knowledge of family, only you and your time will do that.
Enjoy the ride and give your children the most important gift you could ever give them- You-

Sunday, May 21, 2017

All you NEED is ..

Love.
Love, Love, Love.
There's nothing you can do that can't be done.
Nothing you can sing that can't be sung.
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game.
It's easy.
Nothing you can make that can't be made.
No one you can save that can't be saved.
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time.
It's easy.
All you need is love.
All you need is love.
All you need is love, love.
Love is all you need.
Nothing you can know that isn't known.
Nothing you can see that isn't shown.
Nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be.
It's easy.

Friday, May 19, 2017

Respect

Respect is very important in life.
Respecting those that we may disagree with or have opposite views with is essential to life.
Getting along and respecting our nice little inner circle is easy , and funny thing is some in that inner circle may not be who you even think they are.
You do not have to lessen your values or beliefs if you respect others , actually the opposite is more true- respecting others takes strength and is honorable.
You cannot look for respect if you continue to deny others of that same right.
It stay more in control when you respect people that have different views , you are saying that it is ok for others to come at things at a different point of view and give them a chance to explain or vent, - it is ok and healthy.
Take a breath, listen and stay positive- 
Respect everyone!

Thursday, May 18, 2017

WHY ?

Why do you do what you do ?
You need to know the why to help you through the day to day.
Is it to provide for your family ?
Pay bills ?
Because you just love it ?
Know the why and don't forget it.
If you do what you do to provide for your family- don't forget your family !
Don't forget why you work in the first place- sometimes we can get so caught up in the day to day and the worries and the hurray up we can forget why we get up and go to work.
Take time for yourself and for goodness sake take time for your family.
Know the Why

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Being Positive

Have you ever told someone that you just woke up on the wrong side of the bed ?
We often can't help feeling crabby, but mood swings can be reversed. We can control our moods.
Think about that for a second.
There are so many things we can't control, forces we are powerless to change because so much of life is unpredictable. We can't control disease. We can't control the weather. We can't control the world economy and the national debt and so many things that are a part of our lives.
BUT WE CAN CONTROL OUR MOODS.
A mood is a simple reflection of our attitude and we can certainly change our attitude.

Monday, May 15, 2017

Start over

Monday's stink.. they can also be a reset.
Start over..
We can all do better..be better. - Accept the challenge - use today to start a positive attitude.
Use today to start to forgive and take the weights off of our shoulders so you can press on.
Stop worrying about what others think of you.
Reject false choices.
Speak Truth.
And you don't need a bid title to make a big difference.
Stop saying someday and start today- use today as a reset-
Start over.

Friday, May 12, 2017

Light up the night

A speech from Peter Dingkage , an actor from Games of Thromes to college students..

Raise the rest of your life to meet you. Don’t search for defining moments because they will never come.. The moments that define you have already happened. And they will already happen again. And it passes so quickly, so please bring each other along with you.
Life after college sucks. It really does. I mean, I don’t know, at least it did for me, but that’s the only thing I know. You just get a bit derailed. But soon something starts to happen, trust me. A rhythm sets in. Just like it did after your first few days here. Just try not to wait until, like me, you’re 29 until you find it. And if you are that’s fine too, some of us never find it.
 Don’t wait until THEY tell you “you are ready”! Get in there! Sing!.. The world might say “You are not allowed to yet” I waited a long time out in the world before I gave myself permission to fail. Please, don’t even bother asking. Don’t bother telling the world you are ready.

 Show it! 

Do it! 

What did Beckett say: “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.”.. Treat everyone kindly and LIGHT UP the night!

https://www.scoopwhoop.com/inspirational-speech-peter-dinklage/#.344uyd8c5

Thursday, May 11, 2017

Pressure

Don't confuse yesterday's pressure or tomorrow's pressure with today's pressure.

Live for the moment you're facing. 

Take care of today, and tomorrow becomes easier to deal with. Don't waste precious energy worrying about what you have to do tomorrow.

It's like the person who doesn't sleep well because he's worried about the future, and then he can't perform well today either because he's too tired. 
This is self defeating.

Spend more time DOING and less time complaining. Too often, people who feel stress start complaining about how much pressure they are under.
This is all wasted energy, energy that could be used for something else.

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Role Models

On the road to success, you're just not learning from your own experiences.

People all around us have something to teach us if only we could be aware of them. We don't always have to be reinventing the wheel. The people we know and work with must be used as resources, or we are shortchanging ourselves.

We must learn from the people who have made the journey before us. Not only can they tell us the pitfalls to avoid , they can show us the way.

The important thing is to select the right role models. We are not looking for people to entertain us- the class clowns. We are not looking for people that make us feel good- the friends that are always singing our praises. Nor are we necessary looking for people we like or admire from afar. We aren't looking to join fan clubs. 

We are interested only in identifying traits in others that we can use to make ourselves better. And these people can be found anywhere- friends, family,whoever. The key is to identify the specific traits that we admire- those traits that can make us better- and emulate them.

We must learn from others mistakes. 

Sometimes learning what not to do is more important than learning what to do.

Tuesday, May 9, 2017

Self - esteem

We can't go anywhere without strong self-esteem.
We have to be honest with ourselves about where it comes from.
The important thing to remember is that self- esteem must be earned. You must deserve it, just as you must deserve victory. If the effort is there, plus the discipline to back it up, you will automatically start to feel better about yourself. There is no better feeling you get when you've taken control of a situation.
Whether you believe it or not , you do have control over your life.
Life is NOT something that happens to you, something you are powerless to do anything about.
YOU make the choice to succeed or you fail. You decide by your work ethic and your will. And there is no time limit on this. Nor is there any age limit. It is never to late to transform your life and implement the changes that are going to lead you to your dreams.
The option is always there.

Monday, May 8, 2017

Goals

You need goals !

Set goals, both personally and professionally.
You need goals, daily goals, weekly goals, and long range goals.
Want to lose weight ?
Want a raise ?
Want a better relationship?
Set goals then make a plan and here's the important part..stick to it !
Do not make a victory lap after a day or a month..make it a life habit.
Make goals and then make it a point to stick to the plan for 30 straight days, after 30 days it should start to become habit.

Without goals you will never achieve your true potential.
With goals you should constantly be moving the goal post.

Want to be a better person, better at what you do or look ?

Then DO IT !

Friday, May 5, 2017

Your choice

We all have baggage, we all have stories growing up that shaped our lives and many of the stories are not pleasant..what do we do ? As we grow and get older we have choices , choose a working class hero. 
Lyrics from John Lennon-


As soon as you're born they make you feel small 
By giving you no time instead of it all
Till the pain is so big you feel nothing at all
A working class hero is something to be
They hurt you at home and they hit you at school
They hate you if you're clever and they despise a fool
Till you're so fucking crazy you can't follow their rules
A working class hero is something to be
When they've tortured and scared you for twenty-odd years
Then they expect you to pick a career
When you can't really function you're so full of fear
A working class hero is something to be
Keep you doped with religion and sex and TV
And you think you're so clever and classless and free
But you're still fucking peasants as far as I can see
A working class hero is something to be
There's room at the top they're telling you still
But first you must learn how to smile as you kill
If you want to be like the folks on the hill
A working class hero is something to be
If you want to be a hero well just follow me


Thursday, May 4, 2017

Tell them "Why"

The most most important ingredient in coaching or managing or teaching is explain " why".
Too many managers bark out orders but do not explain or train as to why.
Do not assume that they know, explain the bigger picture, let them know why you are asking them to do what you are asking. Who will it effect? What will transpire because of their actions?
If they understand it more they will be able to see the why and then they will begin to grow and take on more responsibility.
How did you learn ?
Most likely you learned your best lessons in real time and on the job but you most likely had someone take the time to explain the why.
You are doing a gross mis justice to your help and employees if you do not take the time to train them properly and let them know the domino effect that takes place from their actions and words.

Tell them "Why"

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Coaching people

Five steps for coaching people:
1) Tell people what you want them to do.
2) Show them what a good performance looks like.
3) Let them do it
4) Observe their performance
5) Praise progress and/or redirect

Managers most often miss the fourth step: Observe.
They give directions then clear the area. If they don't stay around to watch, you have no data with which to do the last, most important step: catch them doing things right, or else redirect their efforts.

Tuesday, May 2, 2017

Inspire Change

An excerpt from the book- Soul of a butterfly- reflections on Life's journey- Muhammad Ali..

We live in a world intoxicated by power and wealth. We have countries struggling against each other, nations taking advantage of stronger nations , men and women being killed, wounded, and uprooted by war.
With all that we've accomplished through history, we have yet to master peace. It is easier for most people to fight fire with fire, hatred with hatred, and injustice with vengeance.
There comes a time in everyone's life when he has to take a good look at himself and stop pointing the finger. We have to make an effort to be kind to others, even toward those we don't know.
It is through selfless acts that we inspire change.


Monday, May 1, 2017

More from..Own It

More from our last post on ..Own It..from a fellow blog reader and friend..


Own It... Own your actions, make them yours, your so right. It makes you better at what you do. For a long time I did things to my best for others. And at times that not being the best for me. So is it really my best ?
I learned I was better at doing my best for me which in turn becomes the best I can do for someone else.
So now I focus on me, yes everyone matters, but me being focused allows for you to get me best...
If I give my best, I feel successful for what I tried to achieve... 
Most people respond when they know it is your best effort and not just a show for them...
Success = Happiness Within 

Saturday, April 29, 2017

Own It

No matter how often you have heard this before, you and you alone have to come to grips with any definition of success; it has to be yours, not someone else's. Doing your best at what seems like a lousy job is not a means of survival but of seeing the possibilities of winning. The most common stumbling block to success is when people, for one reason or another, tell themselves their best efforts will neither be needed nor recognized .

 Those that can give four dollars worth of work for every three dollars of pay will be doing far more than earning points with their boss , they will be creating their own conditions for success. Such success need only be a standard of pride in oneself, it will be enough. It will be enough, and more than likely , it will ultimately be recognized by others.

Friday, April 28, 2017

True Success

From Muhammad Ali-

Success is not achieved by winning all the time. Real success comes when we rise after we fall.
I am grateful for all my victories, but I am especially grateful for my losses, because they only made me work harder.
No one starts at the top. You have to work your way up. Some mountains are higher than others, some roads steeper than the next. There are hardships and set backs, but you can't let them stop you. Even on the steepest road, you must not turn back. You must keep going up. In order to reach the top of the mountain, you have to climb every rock.

True success is reaching our potential without compromising our values.


Thursday, April 27, 2017

Build your foundation

Build your foundation upon faith.
In life, there will be setbacks. There will be challenges, there will be obstacles.
Sometimes you may feel as if your obstacles are insurmountable.
These are the times you must be strong.
If you experience prejudice or injustice, keep your head up and your heart open.
Bitterness will only weaken you. Don't let anger consume you.
Never let resentment into your heart - it will only weigh you down.

Muhammad Ali

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Take Responsibility

Take responsibility for everything you do.

One great quality that Leaders have is the ability to take responsibility- we all know that responsibility ultimately gravitates to the person who can shoulder it. We must be strong enough.
The more you stand behind what you do or what you decide, the more you will be able to feel that it is a reflection of yourself.
It is your integrity that is at stake when you genuinely take responsibility for what you do.

Make clear choices and stand behind those choices.
Be fully present in whatever you are doing.- Once you have committed yourself to an activity, an appointment, a relationship, you have committed yourself to being there in an active and engaged way. Integrity means consciously committing yourself to reality, to what is right under your. Nose. It means emerging yourself wholeheartedly in whatever you are doing.

Committing yourself to reality means doing everything you can to eliminate comparisons, fantasizing, wishing, or all the other mental distractions that not only take you out of the moment but also rob you of your power.

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Do your homework

Do your homework.
There is no such thing as being overprepared , especially in today's highly competitive marketplace where changes are occurring at lightning pace.
If you are committed to a particular profession, you must know everything you must everything you could possibly know about that profession. If you are applying for a job , you must know everything there is to know about the company and the people who work for it.

You must always operate on the axiom that knowledge is power, and the more knowledge you have about something, the more completely you can control the situation.

Monday, April 24, 2017

Establish good habits

We all have habits that we've picked up consciously or subconsciously over the years.
But are they good habits, or are they leading us toward failure?

The trick is to develop good habits- ones based on proper technique- and master the art of repetition so that these habits become second nature.
The only way we systematically acquire good habits is by being organized. We start of each day knowing their is a purpose in everything we do. The day is not merely something that happens to us. It's something we control and shape with our actions. Getting organized will start to put some discipline in our lives, give our day the structure that we all need. If we're not organized, we set ourselves up to be unfocused, to underachieve and ultimately fail, our best intentions wasted.

Do not put things off. 
Do the unpleasant things early in the day, thus freeing yourself for what you enjoy doing. Get yourself in shape to be mentally and physically prepared for your day and strive to impress not only the people that you are meeting for the first time but also the people you see every day.

Do your homework.

Saturday, April 22, 2017

Communication

Good skills are essential, and they start with listening. The ability to interact with people in meaningful ways on a daily basis is essential to the long term relationships we want to build with them and to the impressions those people will have of us.

One thing yo avoid is having to be right all the time. Many people make this mistake and in their desire to always be right, they inhibit constructive communication and prevent relationships from developing. Your goal is to communicate better, not to win every discussion or treat every conversation as if it's a contest with a winner and a loser.

You always must communicate both your needs and goals to other people so that everyone can benefit from this knowledge. People want to know why they are being asked to do things. They want to feel they are part of the process. So don't things fester. Confront problems immediately because if they are not attended to and dealt with, they invariably get worse.

The key is not to burn bridges.
You are trying to create allies , not enemies.


Friday, April 21, 2017

Be the adult

We do not always agree so rather than stamp your feet - Be the Adult.
I see it every day in business, people get ticked off at someone and they start being negative and pushing back and the gap gets bigger and the device gets wider and most times it gets to a point of no return... be the adult.
If you lost it already with that person then swallow your pride and apologize, start again..find the bridge.
You do this for yourself as much as for them, it is so much easier to have allies when you go to work then enemies and it grows because people talk, Facebook, tweet, email..and before you know it your reputation has taken a hit. Rather you are right or wrong you spend your energy and time deflecting and being defensive and then you hit back..it is all exhausting.
Be the Adult and find a way to gain allies and do your job better, not once in a while but every day.

Thursday, April 20, 2017

Love- Power - Money-

Love-Power and Money are the three things that drive us -
They are reasons why we do what we do- every day.
We all need someone to love and we need confirmation that what we do matters.
We all look for Power, either individually or over others.
We all need money to survive.
Knowing we all have that in common where we differ is where we put our emphasis and time and what we prioritize.
Power and money are the evils and they can rule our every day if we allow it.
More power leads to more money..but how much is enough ?
Springsteen has a lyric that says poor men want to be rich - rich men want to be king.
He also has a lyric that says Listen to your junk man.
Both lines are very prolific and true.
If we allow power and money to rule our very life and our every day we lose our soul, all those people you may envy because they have the fancy cars and the big boat and toys have most likely sold a bit of themselves to have them and to maintain them, it is never enough.
Meanwhile that blue collar worker like a junk man may not have that glamorous job or that big boat or toys but listen to him..as Springsteen goes on to say in the song - he's singing..
Try not to get caught up with the Power and the money and concentrate more on the love .. singing is much better way to go to work then teeth clenched and stressed.




Wednesday, April 19, 2017

The cycle

There is a lyric in a song that says " I drink because I'm lonesome and I am lonesome because I drink".
Another says " hurt people- hurt people "
We lash out at people because we are angry , and we get angry with ourselves for lashing out.
All cycles.
How do we break the cycle? First -recognize it, second -stop blaming yourself, third- make a conscience effort to change.
You will never break the cycle until you do the first two, then you need to get up every day and repeat one and two. If you need help ask for it, that is also part of the process. 
Baby steps.
I wrote a blog piece earlier about the difference from speaking the truth and hurting people, there is a way to confront those that effect us without being mean or destructive. Think how you want to say it and when and if you feel yourself losing it back off and try again another day.
The idea is to build bridges not walls, that is with yourself as much as it is with others.
You CAN break the cycle IF you decide you want to.

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

PowerPoint Presentations

Back a few decades PowerPoint presentations were the rage, if you were presenting and didn't use it then you were oblsolete. Now everyone uses them and they are boring as hell.
Most presenters have no clue how to best use their PowerPoint so they end up throwing up graphs and statistics and then follow it up by reading them...boring.
If you know your product and you are excited about it then show your audience, once you start reading your slides or throwing up bar graphs you start losing your audience one by one.
If you are going to use a PowerPoint just throw up your basic talking bullets of your talking points and/or pictures to drum home your speech.
Keep your audience focused on you and your message NOT trying to read a screen from 10-30 feet away.
It is best to also include your audience, use them to drive home your point , study them ahead of time.
Knowing your audience and preparing properly is the key to a good presentation.
Do not rely on slides.. practice your presentation several times. I use to go through my whole presentation with my wife or kids and make notes a long the way.
Do not miss a great opportunity to convey your thoughts and passion by being lazy or to slick, just be yourself and speak from the heart..not from a PowerPoint.

Monday, April 17, 2017

Challenge

Learning is always challenging yourself.
You always hear the same line in great athletes, their toughest critic is themselves.
Block out the noise and what other people are doing or what they think and concentrate on doing what you do better - Challenge Yourself -
How can you improve your part of the process ?
How you do your job better ?
If you did good today, how can you do it better tomorrow?
Especially with today's technology there is always ways we can improve, don't settle.
One thing for sure there will always be someone around you that is hungrier and maybe more motivated, don't be envious or angry - be motivated-.
Learn every day, learn from everyone around you every day, rather it is their attitude or their process or style - take it in and make a mental note and see the positive.
Challenge Yourself !

Friday, April 14, 2017

What If

If God had a name what would it be?
And would you call it to his face?
If you were faced with Him in all His glory
What would you ask if you had just one question?
And yeah, yeah, God is great
Yeah, yeah, God is good
And yeah, yeah, yeah-yeah-yeah
What if God was one of us?
Just a slob like one of us
Just a stranger on the bus
Tryin' to make his way home?
If God had a face what would it look like?
And would you want to see if, seeing meant
That you would have to believe in things like heaven
And in Jesus and the saints, and all the prophets?
And yeah, yeah, God is great
Yeah, yeah, God is good
And yeah, yeah, yeah-yeah-yeah
What if God was one of us?
Just a slob like one of us
Just a stranger on the bus
Tryin' to make his way home?
Just tryin' to make his way home
Like back up to heaven all alone
Nobody callin' on the phone
'Cept for the Pope maybe in Rome
And yeah, yeah, God is great
Yeah, yeah, God is good
And yeah, yeah, yeah-yeah-yeah
What if God was one of us?
Just a slob like one of us
Just a stranger on the bus
Tryin' to make his way home?
Just tryin' to make his way home
Like a holy rolling stone
Back up to heaven all alone
Just tryin' to make his way home
Nobody callin' on the phone
'Cept for the Pope maybe in Rome

Thursday, April 13, 2017

Money and Power

Money and Power is unfortunately the driving force in everything around us.
As soon as we " grow up " and enter adulthood money takes over, that is why we think so fondly about our youth. When we are very young before money takes over we enjoy the simple things, we have time for the simple things and we only know stress from what we see in adults.

Then we turn 16 and want a car, well that cost money and we need gas and insurance and so it begins.
It is a real shame because we only have so much time here on this planet and we only have so many hours in the day and we give most of it up for money. Then the real shame is we end up having to " play the game" and sometimes follow the leader even if we know the leader may be wrong or simply not nice but the leader has the Power, the other evil...money and power.

Power is normally driven by wanting and needing more money and to gain and retain power some will sell their soul if they must.

Business is cruel and in my over 40 years in business I have seen it get uglier.
From the 80's till now I have seen a change for the worse, leaders are now not home grown and are not plucked from the working force.
Because Leaders are not working their way up the ladder as they use to they do not really know what the workers do, thus the show Undercover Boss, I have only seen a few episodes but bosses are sent down amongst the workers and are astonished on how hard they work and their life stories.
It is hard to gain respect from your peers when you do not earn your way up and without their true respect it is hard to lead.

I have seen the separation of power and money and the leaders and the true workers even get more separated. To the top now their workers are numbers and in the way of making more profit. Because they did not work their way up they forget their workers are the reason they even have a place of business and are the reason WHY they profit.

But because they want more power to obtain more money they will run over who ever they have to.
I am sure there may be some small buissnsees out there that do not adhere to this theme but they are getting few and far between. I know friends and family in all walks of life and very different occupations but they all have the same exact stories, people in leadership positions that just don't get it and just don't really care about real change or their workers.

Power and money should NOT be our compass. There is so much more in life to enjoy, look around, try to remember your youth.. don't sell your soul.



Wednesday, April 12, 2017

Liars

The thing about liars is they lie so much they truly start to believe their own lies and there lies the biggest problem.
I relate liars to alcoholics, you see only when a alcoholic admits to himself  that he or she has a problem can they begin to heal and change and the more liars lie and they more they live in their alternative universe the less chance they have to see themselves. And that is the crazy part, just like an alcoholic where everyone else can see that they have a drinking problem the same is true with liars.
 Maybe like an alcoholic they have glimpses of clarity, when sober most alcoholics have moments that they know they have problem, unfortunately they normally mask those feelings with more booze and so continues their cycle and spiral.
 Do these liars have moments of clarity?
I am not sure that people that create these lies and their alternative universe have moments of clarity because what happens is they normally form a circle of those that just go along with them , maybe they hold power of some kind and all though people see through their BS they find it safer and easier to just agree and nod their heads.
The harm is then the liars never really get the truth fed back to them and it just feeds into their world and their lies get bigger and deeper, just like alcoholics liars will have their day of reckoning too and both have a wake of people they leave along the way.
I see this more in more in life, business and politics, speaking truth to power sounds noble and easy but when the person spewing the BS holds the power it can be challenging to say the least. People will most likely either go along or simply separate themselves if possible , either way the head BS'er remains in his or her world and most likely hurting others along the way.
As always we can only truly ever change ourselves so remember the only true path is one of honesty.



Tuesday, April 11, 2017

Live

I recently heard a cancer survivor tell her story and she said her husband told her as she was going through her treatments- don't die before you die.
For some reason those that go through cancer treatments and survive are much more in funded that tomorrow is never promised, well I guess there isn't a big mystery why they are in tune , it is because they were threatened and all of a sudden they realized all they had taken for granted.
Why does it take for us to almost lose something to appreciate what we have?
Take a moment and give thanks for all you have, I often tell people that if you are healthy and your family is healthy then the rest is minor. Don't waste a day being angry or vengeful, it will weigh you down and waste your energy. We only have so much oxygen and energy in a day- use it positively.
Do not wait for someone to take something good away from your life for you to appreciate it.
And do not be afraid to reach high and take on more - Don't die before you die.

Monday, April 10, 2017

Planning

If you want to improve- plan ahead!
Planning is pivotal to avoiding stress and succeeding, it does not mean you will never have issues or problems but it sure will shrink down the possibilities.
Think ahead, what will you need to do your job ? How much time will you need to do it.
Do you need help or assistance? What about goals for the week or the month?
Learning from our mistakes is crucial in our planning.
If you wait till the last minute to plan you are setting yourself to fail and it is all a reflection on you. At the end of the day you can point the finger elsewhere if there are problems but it falls to you and it is your reputation. 
Ask questions, there are basic questions that you know you should ask - ask them. Today we have many tools at our fingertips with google and applications- use them. Become self sufficient, the less you rely on others the more you stay in control and remember it is your reputation .
Plan ahead !

Saturday, April 8, 2017

Your House

Just worry about YOUR house !

Do not worry about all the drama or what the other guy is doing or who said what to who..just worry about yourself and your family.

It is easier said then done especially these days of the social media it is vey easy to get sucked into stuff that has nothing to do with you or sucked irmors and gossip...DON'T.

Before the days of cell phones and the internet when a new driver would come on board he would ask for my suggestions and how they could succeed. They already knew how to do their job, load, pack, build a tier in their trailer etc so the biggest thing I would say is to avoid truck stops because that is where other drivers would fill their heads with all their negative. 
Drivers would go into truck stops whistling and happy and come out pissed off and angry and all over stuff that most likely had nothing to with them. 

Of course not in all cases but the moral of the story is just worry about your house and how to improve what you do and remember the positive and why you are even out there to begin with..
to provide for your family...YOUR HOUSE.


Friday, April 7, 2017

Honesty

Honesty is definitely the best policy.

Be yourself, be honest with others and you will go a long way.
Being honest also means to not be hurtful, there is a time and place for everything.
Some people take great pride in saying whatever they want to who ever they want and pass it off by saying I am just being honest. Being honest does not give you a free pass to hurt people or to spread gossip that may effect others.

Be smart, you know what is hurtful and what is not.
When in doubt take a breath and pass, you have nothing to gain by slamming others. You can be honest and true to yourself without bringing others down.
 Plus always remember you may not know the whole story anyway so give them the benefit of the doubt, say your side and leave it at that.

Everyone is going through something and it may effect them at the time, on that day and it that situation, you will be there some day too and will appreciate it when others give you the space you may need.

It comes back around- be honest but not mean or hurtful.

Thursday, April 6, 2017

Losers and winners

The one thing I have learned in business is losers look for someone to blame and winners look within.
Everyone messes up, it's ok..it is how we learn. If you do not mess up you are probably not reaching outside your comfort zone or working hard.
It comes with the territory but I have found that some people cannot admit to to their mistakes or their failures, they need to blame someone else- anyone else.
People that are confident in themselves make mistakes too but they do not blame other people, even when other people may even have contributed, they shoulder the heat, learn and move on.
People who fail and need to blame others need to take a good look in the mirror, what could they have done better? How can they prevent making the same mistake again ?
When you point to other people or name other people when things go a stray you just look weak.
Walk tall, learn from your failings, get up and hit the wall again and always shoulder the blame.
Don't look weak.

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

What it is all about...family..and love

A response from my last blog posting from my daughter-

 Thank you, Dad!  I feel so blessed to have strong supporters in my life, and I don't know how they pick which family to send you down the chute to after they tickle you with the feather up in the clouds and the green light turns to FAMILY, but I can't believe my luck that I landed with you and Mom and Michael David.  When I started teaching, I really just could not even believe the giant range of childhood experiences people can have.  I realized HOW MUCH I had taken it for granted that Michael and I had two parents who loved us so completely and wholly, and who worked hard and took such good care of us and fed us dinner every night and listened to us and read to us and told us school was important and danced with us and said we could do anything we wanted and meant it.  Most of my students came from one-parent homes, or lived with an aunt or a grandmother or in foster care, and their families were all doing what they could, but there were sometimes issues of addiction or abuse or neglect, or family members in prison.  I reflected every single day-- and still do-- on how amazingly strong my foundation at home was.  I want Gus to feel as loved and supported as I always have, so thank you for teaching me how to be a parent.  I love you so much, Dad!

Love,
Little Miss Magic, Ph.D.

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Results

It is good to see results.
It is satisfying to see results, especially in long range plans and/or strategies and even more satisfying when it comes to simple philosophies of life.
Like everyone else I had no experience in parenting but I had a vision and a philosophy and I knew I wanted to do my best to create a loving and happy home when I was married.
I also knew that I wanted my children to have a good education, no one in my family had ever gone to college that was something the rich folk did. I was raised by hard working parents and grandparents, my grandparents came here from Portugal , they all worked hard and normally held more than one job at a time but college was never mentioned. I was determined to somehow give my kids the opportunity for a higher education and knew that my wife and I would just figure it out along the way, and we did.
Both my son and daughter graduated college and have very good careers in education and yesterday my daughter earned her PhD in Philosophy and is a Doctor..amazing. My mom was always proud of my kids and has passed on now but I know that she would have been crying and smiling yesterday.
Yes, it sure is satisfying and rewarding when you have a goal, a vision, a philosophy and you stick to it and follow your heart ..I can attest that it works and there is no greater feeling.
Follow your heart and don't listen to the nay Sayers or the negative, go for the results you envision.

Congratulations Dr. Jillian!


                                       Jillian on the swing set with her son Gus- the sky is the limit

Monday, April 3, 2017

It's business

To quote The Godfather " It's not Personal , It's Business

People have a tendency to make everything personal, especially when it comes to business, years ago when I started in dispatch one of the VP's asked if my manager " liked" me , he said that if he " liked" me I was all set. At the time I did not respect my manager he was very mean to a lot of people and did even do his job well or know dispatch very well  but I put on my blinders and just did my job as I was new there and needed my job.
I thought rather he liked me or not should not be the question, the question should be - do I do my job well.
That was my first real introduction into how some businesses work and I didn't like it. People should not have to worry about kissing up to their boss or worried about if their boss likes them, they should only be concerned about doing a good job and constantly learning how to do it better.
When I chose to speak out about management and some of their falsehoods I was told it was because I didn't like them but I always tried to separate the two, my personal feelings and my business opinions, they are separate and my personal feelings I keep private.
You can not always get along with everyone so in work it should be about finding a bridge with everyone, including your boss.
Try not to cloud your mind with rather you " like" a person, - at work  make your decisions on pure business , what is best for YOU and your company and your co- workers. Once you know what is best follow it, if that means eliminating the negative then just do it- rip it off like a band aid and move on.
It's Not Personal, It's Business


Friday, March 31, 2017

You Will


Sometimes it's not easy
It's easy to give up
You do your best, seems like your best isn't good enough
Don't let that stop you, stop it and its traps
Keep moving forward, you don't have to look back

Break down the doors
Break through the walls
You already have it all

Own every breath
Own every minute
Who lives a life that's got no limits
Only one thing you need to know
Just never think, just never think you've won, and you will, and you will, and you will, you will

No need to give in
There's noting you can't take
Cause what you're made of wasn't make to break
You're even stronger, stronger than you know
You could stand together or stand on your own

All your can dream
All you can plan
It's already in your hand


You got no fear to scout
So leave the life you're born to live
Living my positive

Thursday, March 30, 2017

Training

Why set people up to fail?

The biggest reason I see people fail is the lack of training, managers not taking the time to give their people the tools they need to succeed. Actually now in many cases it is because the managers themselves were not trained properly, my fear that in many businesses people are hired and promoted by who you know not what they know.

 I see it in all businesses and it is effecting not only that work place but co- workers, patrons and customers and the person themselves, be it the manager or the employee not being trained properly.
By not taking the time to train you will find yourself at times trying to smash a round peg into a square, another words everyone has their strength and positives and what you may hire a person for may not be that persons strengths and by not training and listening you will never identify those positives therefore you keep smashing the peg. By doing so you lessen that persons confidence to work and they will resist or just give up or pull back, no one wins.

It is real shame too because you may have a good worker but by ignoring their needs or not knowing their character or personality you will never get the best out of them and to know them you need to invest time into training, listening and at times you may need to re think how you approach your training for each person.

Knowing personalities is the biggest part of managing and you only get to know your people if you truly care about them and want them to succeed.

Their is a huge difference from ordering people to do something and leading by example and showing them. Your biggest investment in business is not your building or trucks or material things it is your people.

Don't just tell your people to do a good job, give them the training and the tools to succeed.


Wednesday, March 29, 2017

What comes around

What comes around goes around.
A saying that says you reap what you sow.
Both refer to you karma and you can fool some of the people some of the time but you can't fool all of the people all of the time.
Plainly said treat people right and the way you want to be treated or it will all catch up to you.
Having watched the Lex Luthers of the world try to rule I always watched as they fell and were found out for the people they truly were.
It was not fun nor did it feel good at the end because along the way innocent people suffered and were collateral damage.
Ultimately the Lex Luthers lost and suffered in the end, they will always exist . The best way to battle the dark side is to stay focused on the positive and not be bullied.
Do what is right..you know deep down what is right..stay on that path.

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

One person at a time

 Want to effect change?
You effect change one person at a time, you can make a difference every day with everyone you meet   In a positive way or a negative way- the choice is yours.
Most people have something going on in their life and during the course of a day we all look for a positive, a affirmation that we are doing something good or maybe we just need a little time to not stay focused on the negative or the stress in our life.
Take our military members, they are sacrificing every day and while they are defending our country for us their families are also sacrificing. Most members can move 8-12 times depending on their years of service. Wife's and kids that have to pack up and move, make new friends, change schools and go through the stress of selling and buying , banks, realtors, movers etc.. I have heard from many military members and their spouses through the years and it always amazed me that they were the ones going through all these changes and sacrifices but they took the time to communicate to me how the movers made a difference in the day and for that time of their life.
One woman contacted me to say how much she appreciated how the Mover took over and took the stress of moving away, her husband had just been deployed to Afganastan and she had three small children , all sick at the time. She was moving from the pan handle of Florida to Colorado, with all that going on in her life she took the time to thank this man who she just met and was moving all her personal belongings. -
He made a difference.
YOU can effect positive change.. one person at a time.- What a wonderful opportunity.

Monday, March 27, 2017

You deserve it

You work hard, you try your best , you try to help others and not look down on anyone.
If that is you then take time to enjoy the day, you deserve it.
Many times we get caught up in the busy and sometimes we get lost so much in the negative we forget the positive, and trust me there is always good and bad in every day - accent the good.
Life is strange sometimes too, I know a lot of good people that for some reason do not give themselves enough credit or they simply do not stop to appreciate all they have accomplished.
It is good to stay hungry but it is also good to remember where you came from and what you have accomplished along the way.
We never stop learning but we can stop and appreciate not only what we have and what we have accomplished but all those around us that helped us along the way.
Take the time to reflect, - smile and look around- you deserve it !
And for those of you that I have been blessed to know on this great journey of life- thank you !!

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Pink Houses

There's a black man with a black cat
Livin' in a black neighborhood
He's got an interstate
Runnin' through his front yard
You know he thinks that he's got it so good
And there's a woman in the kitchen
Cleanin' up the evenin' slop
And he looks at her and says, hey darlin'
I can remember when you could stop a clock

Oh, but ain't that America
For you and me
Ain't that America
Something to see, baby
Ain't that America
Home of the free, yeah
Little pink houses
For you and me
Oooh, yeah
For you and me

Well, there's a young man in a t-shirt
Listenin' to a rockin' rollin' station
He's got greasy hair, greasy smile
He says, Lord this must be my destination
'Cause they told me when I was younger
Said boy, you're gonna be president
But just like everything else
Those old crazy dreams
Just kinda came and went


Well, there's people and more people
What do they know, know, know
Go to work in some high rise
And vacation down at the Gulf of Mexico
Ooh, yeah
And there's winners and there's losers
But they ain't no big deal
'Cause the simple man, baby
Pays for thrills
The bills the pills that kill

Oh, but ain't that America
For you and me
Ain't that America
Something to see, baby
Ain't that America
Home of the free, yeah
Little pink houses
For you and me
Oooh
Ooooh, yeah...