Thursday, March 20, 2014

Wanting to belong

The WANT to belong goes back to childhood and stays with people into adulthood.
It starts in the school yard and neighborhoods when you are small.
You want to belong and in order to do so sometimes we become part of a gangs or a group.
After all there is strength in numbers.
But in that we start to give up our individuality and maybe even some of our principles.
Maybe without us even knowing it.

It follows us our whole life IF you allow it.
There is a difference between friendships and belonging to groups just to be or feel stronger.
If you give up your own principles or hurt others to gain you will start to lose yourself.
You will begin to become dependent on THEM rather than trusting your own thoughts.

If you want to be trailblazer, a success , then dare to walk alone if need be.
There is a difference with friendships and trying to be a part of something just to try to be in the gang or group to obtain friendships.

Think about it...think about the people or groups that you associate yourself with.
Do they spend more time accenting the negative, or tearing down others?
Or are they truly trying to help you?
After spending time with them or talking to them, do you feel better? or are you angry and vengeful?

A true friend ask how YOU are, they want to help and at the end of your time with them you find yourself smiling and thankful.

Do not allow others to bring YOU down, to USE you.
Life is hard enough at times, find those that help you feel better about yourself and help make you better and spend more time with them.
Don't waste your time on the negative just to try to fit in or be a part of a group.

Stay positive, be thankful for what YOU have and constantly try to improve yourself and your life and your work....don't get sucked into their negativity.

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