Real Power is FEAR
Unfortunately history has proven that fear works, going back to the Roman days or the days of Hitler and Germany - Fear = Power.
Be very aware of your surroundings and do not ever allow fear to rule your decisions or your life.
I have witnessed it in marriages and with parents and your children and in business and yes in our politics.
It is ugly, it is thuggish and people succumb to bullies for lots of reasons, the same reason why they get to be heard , they shout louder because they just do not give a good shit about anyone but them.
It is easier to walk away and shake our heads but by doing so we leave them alone and being the only ones shouting so people begin to listen and before you know it they too are shouting and they are angry. That is how it works, how it builds.
Stand your ground, do not allow fear into your life - stat true to what you know is right.
If they are yelling and deflecting and wanting you to be angry it is really all about them and about them gaining power - real power through FEAR.
Tuesday, July 31, 2018
Monday, July 30, 2018
Look at me
It is amazing to watch how people love the “selfie”.
I think it does tell a lot about ourselves and the times, I watch as people rush the stage at a live concert so they can take a selfie, then stand there in hold their phone in front of their face and video tape the band and singer so instead of absorbing and experiencing the moment they are worried about recording it so they play it back on their little devices and re-live what they should have been living.
With Facebook and Instagram and other social sites everyone loves to see themselves-
Hey Look at Me -
They have to show their friends that they are happy and whatever they are doing is “the best”.
What do you think that says about us? About our times ?
Are we truly enjoying the moment?
Do we get so self absorbed that we do not SEE the other person or just enjoy doing “ nothing “ ?
In order to keep up with the “ Jones’s” do we have to buy that expensive ticket to that extravagant show? Do not get me wrong I of all people have spent a small fortune through the years on concerts and live events but I truly do it because I love it and music and good musical can transport me to another place- my happy place.
So do what makes YOU happy and try not to feel the need to take a selfie and post everything little thing you do- take in the moment-
After all life is made up of moments- don’t miss them worrying about what others think.
I think it does tell a lot about ourselves and the times, I watch as people rush the stage at a live concert so they can take a selfie, then stand there in hold their phone in front of their face and video tape the band and singer so instead of absorbing and experiencing the moment they are worried about recording it so they play it back on their little devices and re-live what they should have been living.
With Facebook and Instagram and other social sites everyone loves to see themselves-
Hey Look at Me -
They have to show their friends that they are happy and whatever they are doing is “the best”.
What do you think that says about us? About our times ?
Are we truly enjoying the moment?
Do we get so self absorbed that we do not SEE the other person or just enjoy doing “ nothing “ ?
In order to keep up with the “ Jones’s” do we have to buy that expensive ticket to that extravagant show? Do not get me wrong I of all people have spent a small fortune through the years on concerts and live events but I truly do it because I love it and music and good musical can transport me to another place- my happy place.
So do what makes YOU happy and try not to feel the need to take a selfie and post everything little thing you do- take in the moment-
After all life is made up of moments- don’t miss them worrying about what others think.
Friday, July 27, 2018
Good
I will always prefer to look for the GOOD in people.
Why are people mad or angry or negative?
Somewhere along the line something or someone happened in their life to turn that switch on.
People are not born mad or angry or negative, just watch a child and see the true uninhibited light of happiness.
Look for that light and try to see why that person is negative or angry or defensive- sometimes they get so engulfed by it that they do not even remember when they took that turn , it may go back to their childhood or it may have turned when they entered the work force and saw the back stabbing and lies and got got up in the corporate ladder ? Maybe their bills and debt over ran them and they just cannot dig out so they surrender to the work Gods and forget their true soul and that childhood light.
It is never too late to stop the madness and if you stop the anger toward that person or person(s) long enough to actually try to SEE them and why they may be so unhappy you will not only see them differently you will SEE yourself differently.
Look for the GOOD.
Why are people mad or angry or negative?
Somewhere along the line something or someone happened in their life to turn that switch on.
People are not born mad or angry or negative, just watch a child and see the true uninhibited light of happiness.
Look for that light and try to see why that person is negative or angry or defensive- sometimes they get so engulfed by it that they do not even remember when they took that turn , it may go back to their childhood or it may have turned when they entered the work force and saw the back stabbing and lies and got got up in the corporate ladder ? Maybe their bills and debt over ran them and they just cannot dig out so they surrender to the work Gods and forget their true soul and that childhood light.
It is never too late to stop the madness and if you stop the anger toward that person or person(s) long enough to actually try to SEE them and why they may be so unhappy you will not only see them differently you will SEE yourself differently.
Look for the GOOD.
Wednesday, July 25, 2018
A Good Heart
The kind of behavior that really is spiritual practice consists of refraining from falsehood and abiding by the truth, neither humiliating nor mocking others, being humble, and having a good heart and helping others.
-Dalai Lama
If you want to obtain true peace try living the words that are above-
Read it, then read it again- try to think on it for a bit -
Then try to live it and start to feel inner peace.
Monday, July 23, 2018
Release
Releasing your work gene
We work all our lives and worry about our jobs and our bills and status.
As we grow older it is hard to release that part of us but it is necessary, as much as worked hard and did output best in our jobs as we enter the 60’s we have to learn to let it go, to reap the benefits and the fruits of our labor.
We need to learn all over again life without work.
I know saying we need to learn to “ not” work sounds crazy but I have seen it time and time again, people retire and seem lost, they no longer know life without work.
Don’t wait till you retire, learn to shut down , shut off and enjoy the world around you.
We should work so we can live- NOT live so we can work.
Release the guilt.
We work all our lives and worry about our jobs and our bills and status.
As we grow older it is hard to release that part of us but it is necessary, as much as worked hard and did output best in our jobs as we enter the 60’s we have to learn to let it go, to reap the benefits and the fruits of our labor.
We need to learn all over again life without work.
I know saying we need to learn to “ not” work sounds crazy but I have seen it time and time again, people retire and seem lost, they no longer know life without work.
Don’t wait till you retire, learn to shut down , shut off and enjoy the world around you.
We should work so we can live- NOT live so we can work.
Release the guilt.
Thursday, July 19, 2018
Retrospect
It is amazing in retrospect to see life play out.
I see people in the later years become very humble as some fight their way through medical issues.
People that thought they were tough guys when they were the young have a totally different perspective on life in their senior years.
The lessons are - do not think you are better then others and do not get too full of yourself - life has a way of tearing those false bravado’s down .
Look at your life NOW - do not wait till you or a loved one is stricken with something for you to realize what is truly important in life.
Open your mind and heart and enjoy the good around you.
I see people in the later years become very humble as some fight their way through medical issues.
People that thought they were tough guys when they were the young have a totally different perspective on life in their senior years.
The lessons are - do not think you are better then others and do not get too full of yourself - life has a way of tearing those false bravado’s down .
Look at your life NOW - do not wait till you or a loved one is stricken with something for you to realize what is truly important in life.
Open your mind and heart and enjoy the good around you.
Monday, July 16, 2018
Debating
My hope is that our schools help teach the art of debating.
We are losing our ability or even knowing how to hold a discussion.
Watching this “ new world order” or more important the “ new America “ unfold before our eyes it is alarming. We are becoming more divided and in doing so we have chosen our teams and you are either with us or against us attitudes.
Don’t you notice more anger ? It is impossible to have civil discussions or debates and because of that we only know what “ our” side is saying and we totally suppress any possibility of learning or comprising for the good of all.
It is fine to be passionate about a subject but being passionate does not mean shouting down others that may disagree, by doing so we just fester hate and end up with a very small inner circle.
I want to hear your side, I want to learn more about you and what environment you had around you to build your world and your opinions because if I know more I can understand more.
Debate is not just a nice thing to learn and to conduct it is vital to a democracy and to understanding the world around us.
Do not push away people with different views- learn from them - embrace them.
At the end of a discussion or debate their not have to be a declared “ winner” for the real lessons may come when you walk away and give yourself time to absorb it all , the real “ winning” is learning.
Thursday, July 12, 2018
Tough
Being Tough does mean yelling louder.
If you think that a being a tough leader means that people fear you or that you simply do not care who you run over you are sadly mistaken.
Don’t get me wrong that attitude can sometimes get the attention of the boss and may even be the type of “hit man” that some people at the top want but it if the farthest thing from leadership and in the long run it WILL fail.
I have seen in plenty of times in my business life, people who bully there way to the top and I watched as they berated people and had zero loyalty and I also watched them come and go.
They slither in and they slither out leaving a wake of people that they walked over and hurt , the sad part was that most times it took years for it to catch to them and all they ever accomplished was negative and hate and a loss profit sheet.
Being a real leader means always respecting others and listening, making educated decisions and helping to create a process that succeeds and fosters creativity and involvement by all.
To to that a leader/ boss/ owner needs to stay involved and promote people around them that they trust and hold the same philosophy that they do.
They have to trust that when they leave the room their leaders are talking to everyone the same way that they talk to them.
Being tough is standing up for others NOT knocking them down.
If you think that a being a tough leader means that people fear you or that you simply do not care who you run over you are sadly mistaken.
Don’t get me wrong that attitude can sometimes get the attention of the boss and may even be the type of “hit man” that some people at the top want but it if the farthest thing from leadership and in the long run it WILL fail.
I have seen in plenty of times in my business life, people who bully there way to the top and I watched as they berated people and had zero loyalty and I also watched them come and go.
They slither in and they slither out leaving a wake of people that they walked over and hurt , the sad part was that most times it took years for it to catch to them and all they ever accomplished was negative and hate and a loss profit sheet.
Being a real leader means always respecting others and listening, making educated decisions and helping to create a process that succeeds and fosters creativity and involvement by all.
To to that a leader/ boss/ owner needs to stay involved and promote people around them that they trust and hold the same philosophy that they do.
They have to trust that when they leave the room their leaders are talking to everyone the same way that they talk to them.
Being tough is standing up for others NOT knocking them down.
Tuesday, July 10, 2018
TEAM
Creating a TEAM atmosphere is must in any organization.
At the end of the day if you want to be profitable and successful in business you need good people around you and people being productive.
For people to be productive they have to WANT to work and feel like you are part of a TEAM helps, by feeling like a team member you do not want to be the weak link and you sure do not want the people around you to have to pick up the pieces from something you should have done.
Creating a team atmosphere means treating each employee with respect and always backing them up.
To have a productive team you need good coaching, the team leader should always be training and assisting and supporting the team, people need to see you in action in the stress times as well as the good.
If you can create the kind of atmosphere where your help or crew or employees know that you have their back they will have yours and then some pretty cool things can be accomplished.
At the end of the day if you want to be profitable and successful in business you need good people around you and people being productive.
For people to be productive they have to WANT to work and feel like you are part of a TEAM helps, by feeling like a team member you do not want to be the weak link and you sure do not want the people around you to have to pick up the pieces from something you should have done.
Creating a team atmosphere means treating each employee with respect and always backing them up.
To have a productive team you need good coaching, the team leader should always be training and assisting and supporting the team, people need to see you in action in the stress times as well as the good.
If you can create the kind of atmosphere where your help or crew or employees know that you have their back they will have yours and then some pretty cool things can be accomplished.
Monday, July 9, 2018
Noise
Turn down the Noise...
Shut it down, not just the social media and the news but turn down the noise in your head.
We are our worse critics, we feed ourselves the guilt and the stress and the worry.
After all we hold the key , at least we should.
Feeling stressed ? Peel away the negative, being happy is like anything else - only YOU can take control- only YOU can ultimately steer your ship and habits are everything.
If you do the same thing and expect a different outcome then that will not work.
Break the chain - you can do it. You do not need to make major changes all at once, start small and easy- start with promising yourself that you will smile more today and try to laugh.
Start by eating better, if you are depressed or stressed most people will counter that by eating more or having more alcohol, they justify it because they are having a “ tough” day. - Fight the urge-.
When you eat unhealthy and try to drink away your troubles you simply keep the circle going- if you feel bad about yourself you feed the noise in your head and the guilt and the negative.
Turn down the noise.
Baby step back into the light- into the positive- it is all around you- you just need to look up and see it and to allow yourself the free ticket to do so- YOU hold the key.
Start small today - smile more !
Shut it down, not just the social media and the news but turn down the noise in your head.
We are our worse critics, we feed ourselves the guilt and the stress and the worry.
After all we hold the key , at least we should.
Feeling stressed ? Peel away the negative, being happy is like anything else - only YOU can take control- only YOU can ultimately steer your ship and habits are everything.
If you do the same thing and expect a different outcome then that will not work.
Break the chain - you can do it. You do not need to make major changes all at once, start small and easy- start with promising yourself that you will smile more today and try to laugh.
Start by eating better, if you are depressed or stressed most people will counter that by eating more or having more alcohol, they justify it because they are having a “ tough” day. - Fight the urge-.
When you eat unhealthy and try to drink away your troubles you simply keep the circle going- if you feel bad about yourself you feed the noise in your head and the guilt and the negative.
Turn down the noise.
Baby step back into the light- into the positive- it is all around you- you just need to look up and see it and to allow yourself the free ticket to do so- YOU hold the key.
Start small today - smile more !
Saturday, July 7, 2018
Leaders
Finding true Leaders is difficult.
A leader is someone who you WANT to follow, someone that you respect and look up to.
A leader directs and coaches and makes YOU a better person.
A leader does not need to yell or threaten, he evaluates the situation and takes action.
A leader steps aside and does not need the spotlight, instead they shine the light on others to fester teamwork and growth.
A true leader is hard to find but without them we have no compass.
Friday, July 6, 2018
Greed
Greed is an ugly motivator
If your goal is simply to work to make more money so you can buy more things then you are probably missing the point of this whole experiment called life.
There must be more to life then just working so you can buy stuff.
There is so much beauty around us and most of spend our days stressing out inside an office building so we can bring home a paycheck.
In a lyric from Tom Capin he says “ we give up our sunshine so we can buy what we need “.
Pretty big sacrifice wouldn’t you say ?
Ant what do we actually NEED ?
And when do we know we are at then of our working days so we can slow down and look around and just stop stressing ?
You hold the Power - only you have the answers -
Greed will pull you down and eat you up.
Want for less and give more and lighten your load.
If your goal is simply to work to make more money so you can buy more things then you are probably missing the point of this whole experiment called life.
There must be more to life then just working so you can buy stuff.
There is so much beauty around us and most of spend our days stressing out inside an office building so we can bring home a paycheck.
In a lyric from Tom Capin he says “ we give up our sunshine so we can buy what we need “.
Pretty big sacrifice wouldn’t you say ?
Ant what do we actually NEED ?
And when do we know we are at then of our working days so we can slow down and look around and just stop stressing ?
You hold the Power - only you have the answers -
Greed will pull you down and eat you up.
Want for less and give more and lighten your load.
Thursday, July 5, 2018
You
It is NOT about YOU
The sooner you realize that life is not all about you - the sooner you will begin to grow and start down the road of true happiness.
In work and in your personal life the gift is in the giving.
It is very important to make yourself happy in the process so it is ok to be selfish at times and do what YOU want to do - you have to be happy and comfortable in your own skin and life in order to enjoy your days and allow you to give more time to others.
Life is about watching others smile and through that YOU will smile.
Life is about teaching, coaching, helping and taking the time to see life through others eyes .
Give- help- listen ... Love
The sooner you realize that life is not all about you - the sooner you will begin to grow and start down the road of true happiness.
In work and in your personal life the gift is in the giving.
It is very important to make yourself happy in the process so it is ok to be selfish at times and do what YOU want to do - you have to be happy and comfortable in your own skin and life in order to enjoy your days and allow you to give more time to others.
Life is about watching others smile and through that YOU will smile.
Life is about teaching, coaching, helping and taking the time to see life through others eyes .
Give- help- listen ... Love
Tuesday, July 3, 2018
Happy 4th of July
May God watch over and Bless the United States of America
We are still the great experiment- can democracy truly work ?
Can people actually govern and work together for the common good?
I sure hope so.
We are still the great experiment- can democracy truly work ?
Can people actually govern and work together for the common good?
I sure hope so.
Monday, July 2, 2018
Walls and Doors
Ever since the world's existed
There's one thing that is certain
There are those who build walls
And those who open doors
Ah but this my love I'm thinking you already knew
There's one thing that is certain
There are those who build walls
And those who open doors
Ah but this my love I'm thinking you already knew
For some it's always winter
While others have the spring
Some people find good fortune
While others never find a thing
Ah but this my love is something you already knew
While others have the spring
Some people find good fortune
While others never find a thing
Ah but this my love is something you already knew
That's how it's always been
And I know you know it
There can be freedom only when nobody owns it
I'm going to say that again
Because I know you know it
There can be freedom only when nobody owns it
And I know you know it
There can be freedom only when nobody owns it
I'm going to say that again
Because I know you know it
There can be freedom only when nobody owns it
Of what use is the moon if you don't have the night?
Of what use is a windmill with no Quixote left who'll fight?
Ah but this my love is something you already knew
At some point on the horizon
Sky can be confused with earth
Some people dream of God
While others dream of wealth
But of course my love this is what you see out on the street
Of what use is a windmill with no Quixote left who'll fight?
Ah but this my love is something you already knew
At some point on the horizon
Sky can be confused with earth
Some people dream of God
While others dream of wealth
But of course my love this is what you see out on the street
It's how it's always been
And I know you know it
There can be freedom only when nobody owns it
Let me say that again
Because I know that we both know it
There can be freedom only when nobody owns it
When nobody owns it
When nobody owns it
And I know you know it
There can be freedom only when nobody owns it
Let me say that again
Because I know that we both know it
There can be freedom only when nobody owns it
When nobody owns it
When nobody owns it
Ever since the world's existed
There's one thing that is certain
Some people build walls
There's one thing that is certain
Some people build walls
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