Arguing to hear one's own wonderful voice:
Another excerpt from Gerry Spence, the nationally famous trial layer and author :
I know people who use argument merely to hear their own voices. They are noisemakers.
These people seem perfectly secure, but they are enchanted with their words, enthralled with their own wisdom, and they are, to be sure, as boring as popcorn without salt. They have, during the coarse of their lives, made so much noise and filled the air with so much authoritative banality that they have no time to form an original thought, nor have they given themselves the opportunity to hear and learn anything from listening to anyone else.
Argument is not the process by which we seek to destroy the other person.
Argument is the tool with which we can achieve an end, satisfy a want, fulfill a desire.
Argument is the mechanism by which we reveal the truth- the truth for us.
It is the incomparable art by which we connect and interact successfully with the other person.
Winning is getting what we want, which often includes assisting others in getting what they want.
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
OVERLOAD
It is so easy to just feel overloaded ....
Especially today where we have it coming at us from all angles and there is a non stop flow of information.
How can we best deal with it?
I try to adjust my mind each morning and try to weed out the noise and focus on one thing at a time.
Prioritize and organize
It is so easy to get down about the bigger picture, especially when you check your email or turn on the news and hear nothing but bad or people yelling their point to the other side.
I often wonder if the lack of the Internet and 100 channels on the television was a good thing years ago. At least it wasn't in our face 24-7
Then again we have a choice....turn away...shut it off.
Easier said than done I know but in order for us to truly focus on what we want we need to take control.
What is it that you want to accomplish today?
See it
Focus on it and write down what you need to accomplish it.
Block out the negative people that will bring you down.
One day at a time.
Try not to get overloaded.
Especially today where we have it coming at us from all angles and there is a non stop flow of information.
How can we best deal with it?
I try to adjust my mind each morning and try to weed out the noise and focus on one thing at a time.
Prioritize and organize
It is so easy to get down about the bigger picture, especially when you check your email or turn on the news and hear nothing but bad or people yelling their point to the other side.
I often wonder if the lack of the Internet and 100 channels on the television was a good thing years ago. At least it wasn't in our face 24-7
Then again we have a choice....turn away...shut it off.
Easier said than done I know but in order for us to truly focus on what we want we need to take control.
What is it that you want to accomplish today?
See it
Focus on it and write down what you need to accomplish it.
Block out the negative people that will bring you down.
One day at a time.
Try not to get overloaded.
Monday, March 5, 2012
WORK ETHIC
What are work ethics?
Work ethics include not only how one feels about their job, career or vocation, but also how one does his/her job or responsibilities. This involves attitude, behavior, respect, communication, and interaction; how one gets along with others. Work ethics demonstrate many things about whom and how a person is.
Work ethics involve such characteristics as honesty and accountability. Essentially, work ethics break down to what one does or would do in a particular situation. The begging question in a situation involves what is right and acceptable, and above board, versus what is wrong, underhanded, and under the table.
Throughout the last few years, there have been companies whose work ethic -- honesty, integrity and accountability -- have been rather shady and have a rather negative impact on other people. This has involved people looking the other way when people have done something questionable, or thinking it would not matter.
Work ethics, such as honesty (not lying, cheating, and stealing), doing a job well, valuing what one does, having a sense of purpose and feeling/being a part of a greater vision or plan is vital. Philosophically, if one does not have proper work ethics, a person’s conscience may be bothered. People for the most part have good work ethic(s); we should not only want to do, but desire to do the proper thing in a given situation.
Work ethics include not only how one feels about their job, career or vocation, but also how one does his/her job or responsibilities. This involves attitude, behavior, respect, communication, and interaction; how one gets along with others. Work ethics demonstrate many things about whom and how a person is.
Work ethics involve such characteristics as honesty and accountability. Essentially, work ethics break down to what one does or would do in a particular situation. The begging question in a situation involves what is right and acceptable, and above board, versus what is wrong, underhanded, and under the table.
Throughout the last few years, there have been companies whose work ethic -- honesty, integrity and accountability -- have been rather shady and have a rather negative impact on other people. This has involved people looking the other way when people have done something questionable, or thinking it would not matter.
Work ethics, such as honesty (not lying, cheating, and stealing), doing a job well, valuing what one does, having a sense of purpose and feeling/being a part of a greater vision or plan is vital. Philosophically, if one does not have proper work ethics, a person’s conscience may be bothered. People for the most part have good work ethic(s); we should not only want to do, but desire to do the proper thing in a given situation.
Sunday, March 4, 2012
CHILDREN
In the last post Gerry Spence refers to learning from children and even learning from his dog.
For those of us with children and pets you know what he means.
When you watch children enter a room with other children they gravitate right to the other children. They do not prejudge or have any alternative motives they only want to make a friend and play.
We were all like that once upon a time.
What happened?
When did we change?
As adults you get stand offish, or you are afraid to approach strangers to start a conversation. You develop clicks and you keep people at bay until you almost feel each other out.
Is it because we get burned along the way or someone hurt us ? No one likes rejection so if you are rejected a few times the easy thing to do is to just keep to yourself or the people that you already know.
That is what Gerry says in the last post , that just observing the innocence of children or how when his dog just wants to be pet and loved there are no games they are pretentious.
Try not to prejudge , just be yourself .
Pull people in, don't keep them at arms length, they may surprise you.
Once you start the conversation you start to learn more from them and the walls start to come down.
The more we learn the more we all grow.
For those of us with children and pets you know what he means.
When you watch children enter a room with other children they gravitate right to the other children. They do not prejudge or have any alternative motives they only want to make a friend and play.
We were all like that once upon a time.
What happened?
When did we change?
As adults you get stand offish, or you are afraid to approach strangers to start a conversation. You develop clicks and you keep people at bay until you almost feel each other out.
Is it because we get burned along the way or someone hurt us ? No one likes rejection so if you are rejected a few times the easy thing to do is to just keep to yourself or the people that you already know.
That is what Gerry says in the last post , that just observing the innocence of children or how when his dog just wants to be pet and loved there are no games they are pretentious.
Try not to prejudge , just be yourself .
Pull people in, don't keep them at arms length, they may surprise you.
Once you start the conversation you start to learn more from them and the walls start to come down.
The more we learn the more we all grow.
Saturday, March 3, 2012
Wisdom
The following is a excerpt from a book written by Gerry Spence.
Spence is a very successful trial lawyer who has been involved in many high profile cases. Gerry has also written many books that have been on the best selling list.
Gerry writes:
Wisdom usually does not fall from high places.The mighty and the splendid have taught me little. I have more from my dogs than from all of the great books that I have read. I have learned more from my children than from all the professors who have importuned themselves upon me in the exercise of their tenure. The wisdom of the children is the product of their unsullied ability to tap their innate fund of knowledge so innocently to disclose it. The wisdom of my dog is the product of his inability to conceal his wants. When he yearns to be loved, there is no pouting in the corner. There are no games entitled "Guess what is the matter with me." He puts his head on my lap, wags his tail and looks up at me with his kind eyes, waiting to be petted. No professor or sage ever told me I might live a more successful life if I simply asked for love when I needed it.
More from Gerry Spence in future postings....
Spence is a very successful trial lawyer who has been involved in many high profile cases. Gerry has also written many books that have been on the best selling list.
Gerry writes:
Wisdom usually does not fall from high places.The mighty and the splendid have taught me little. I have more from my dogs than from all of the great books that I have read. I have learned more from my children than from all the professors who have importuned themselves upon me in the exercise of their tenure. The wisdom of the children is the product of their unsullied ability to tap their innate fund of knowledge so innocently to disclose it. The wisdom of my dog is the product of his inability to conceal his wants. When he yearns to be loved, there is no pouting in the corner. There are no games entitled "Guess what is the matter with me." He puts his head on my lap, wags his tail and looks up at me with his kind eyes, waiting to be petted. No professor or sage ever told me I might live a more successful life if I simply asked for love when I needed it.
More from Gerry Spence in future postings....
Friday, March 2, 2012
Remain professional
Always remain professional.
We recently had a driver tell a customer on the first day of her move that he was hurting for money and that the IRS was chasing him.......what?
Can you imagine what was going through the mind of that customer?
Will he steal something to help his dept?
Why is he telling me this on a day that I am already stressed?
Not to be cold but the customer is only concerned about their goods and their move, they are not there to hear your issues or your problems.
That driver lost all credibility at that point.
THEY ALSO MADE THEIR JOB A LOT HARDER BECAUSE THE CUSTOMER WILL THEN WATCH EVERYTHING THEY DO ALL DAY LONG.
No matter what is going on in your life at that day , at that moment you need to focus only on the customer.
It will help with the move, your relationship with the customer and it will then help you to do your job.
After a while we get so comfortable in our job that we forget what it was like when we started, when all we wanted to do was learn and do better and please our boss or our customer.
Try to keep that feeling and just see that customer, take pride in what you do. Do not see through or around people but SEE them.
If you do I guarantee it will be returned.
We recently had a driver tell a customer on the first day of her move that he was hurting for money and that the IRS was chasing him.......what?
Can you imagine what was going through the mind of that customer?
Will he steal something to help his dept?
Why is he telling me this on a day that I am already stressed?
Not to be cold but the customer is only concerned about their goods and their move, they are not there to hear your issues or your problems.
That driver lost all credibility at that point.
THEY ALSO MADE THEIR JOB A LOT HARDER BECAUSE THE CUSTOMER WILL THEN WATCH EVERYTHING THEY DO ALL DAY LONG.
No matter what is going on in your life at that day , at that moment you need to focus only on the customer.
It will help with the move, your relationship with the customer and it will then help you to do your job.
After a while we get so comfortable in our job that we forget what it was like when we started, when all we wanted to do was learn and do better and please our boss or our customer.
Try to keep that feeling and just see that customer, take pride in what you do. Do not see through or around people but SEE them.
If you do I guarantee it will be returned.
Thursday, March 1, 2012
The Power of Giving
Kahlil Gibran:
“You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.
Albert Einstein:
"It is every man's obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it."
“The value of a man resides in what he gives and not in what he is capable of receiving.”
Anne Frank:
"No one has ever become poor by giving."
John D. Rockefeller Jr.:
"Think of giving not as a duty but as a privilege."
Eleanor Roosevelt:
“Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.
Winston Churchill:
"We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give."
Maya Angelou:
"I have found that among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver."
Jim Rohn:
“Giving is better than receiving because giving starts the receiving process.”
Lao Tzu:
“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.”
“You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.
Albert Einstein:
"It is every man's obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it."
“The value of a man resides in what he gives and not in what he is capable of receiving.”
Anne Frank:
"No one has ever become poor by giving."
John D. Rockefeller Jr.:
"Think of giving not as a duty but as a privilege."
Eleanor Roosevelt:
“Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.
Winston Churchill:
"We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give."
Maya Angelou:
"I have found that among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver."
Jim Rohn:
“Giving is better than receiving because giving starts the receiving process.”
Lao Tzu:
“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.”
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