When I was in elementary school many years ago, well before the thought of a cell phone , texting or computers, kids would pass little notes to each other in class. Sometimes you wrote about the kid sitting right in front of you, maybe you were making fun of him or laughing about what he or she had on. Let's face it kids can be cruel.
Being a kid you never took the time of course to see why the kid might be dressed the way they are or why he or she may of been quiet, were they being abused at home or did their mom or dad pass away? You just alienated them and formed your own click, because as long as they were not making fun or talking about you than it was ok.
Then you graduated to High School only to find that the same judgment existed, people were still cruel and talked about other people when they were not present.
Then College ( for some) and there the same madness was going on. People in Frats or fraternities having you do all kind of stupid things just so you can belong to a group and look down on others.
Mind you I am not talking for every student or person, there are still many kind souls in the world.
Ahh but you finally get into the business world, here people will be grown ups for sure. After all they have responsibilities now , families and kids of their own.
Nope.
They still judge people without ever really knowing them, they still talk about people behind their backs and form groups and clicks.
I can even remember my mom, God rest her soul, she lives her last 20 years or so in a retirement home, mostly people 68-88 years of age. My mom always helped others and in her later years she volunteered for organizations like Meals on Wheels and other groups. She volunteered to help in the manor that she lived but had to stop helping because she said everyone was always complaining and talking about somebody else. Trust me my mom was a true saint, I never ever heard her talk negative about anybody, and she had a tough life over all.
So I guess the moral of the story is it will be with us throughout our lives so it is how you individually decide to handle it and live with it that decides how you want to react.
I try, and the optimum word here is try, to not say something about somebody that I would not say if they were in the room with me. Try it- it is certainly a great rule to try to live by.
Now with technology people text, email and have " secret" rooms in social media designed so they can safely go in there and talk about others without them seeing.
Talking about going completely the other way.
If you want change or you disagree with something than try to make change and speak your mind but do it face to face and without anger and animosity. Work WITH people and if , just maybe, if you take the time to know somebody you may find out why they dress they way they do or why they are quiet or possibly have anger issues. -
Maybe they were even that little boy or girl that was abused or had no parents growing up.
If you cannot say something about a person that you would not say if they were in front of you than you probably shouldn't be saying it - be it in conversation, text, email or any " secret" pages.
Smile more...hate less.
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