Your Journey

Some of the wealthiest people in America are not listed in Forbes magazine. 

They are teachers, hospice workers, over the road truck drivers, blue collar workers and many others working for religious and charitable organizations.

Their bank accounts won't reflect much monetary evidence, but what they have in terms of true wealth and happiness cannot be matched or bought.

What good is long career, even a successful one, if you reach the end of your bridge and look around only to find yourself alone, or to regret not bringing more people along on your journey or helping them start theirs?

Gifts are to be given without keeping score or wanting recognition . They are the most cherished things we have in our lives. The more people we can help cross that bridge, the more we understand the true meaning of building it.

Loyalty does build trust and certainly forgiveness allows us to have a crowded bridge.

Nothing can be more rewarding.

You can build that bridge for yourself, by learning from your mentors, and passing along your knowledge to those who are willing to cross that bridge with you.

It is all about the journey. 

Never forget

NEVER forget those that will not be home this Thanksgiving.

May God bless you wherever you are.

Remember those that sacrifice for you not only our military men and woman but your friends and loved ones, your parents or brother or sister. Be sure to tell those special people in your life thank you!

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving !

Great Communicators

Great communicators find security, comfort, and protection in communication.
 To them it is the one light on a very dark road. The key to an unknown future.
The way to minimize risk and mitigate danger.
 Great communicators not only give great communication, they want it in return.
Refuse to communicate with great communicators and you will see their frustration spike. Withhold information from great communicators and they will forge ahead and go around you to get what they need.
 Ask great communicators to complete this sentence: “I communicate because it _________________________.”
 You may get different answers yet underneath all the replies will be the connection between security and communication.

 All humans supposedly have some need for security — whether they are consciously aware of it or not. How they meet that need varies.
 Some fill that need more through introspection and less expression. Others find it through great communication.
  Alas the ever present people skills struggle between introverts and extroverts

. What People Skills Lessons to Learn From This?
 Be very self-aware of how you fill your need for security.
 Whether it’s through deep introspection or great communication, the need can also make you inflexible.
 Every relationship — at work and home — requires flexibility and adaptation to others’ needs.
 Leaders, be aware of the security need of those you lead.
  Great leadership communication anticipates and meets the needs of many to engage all. In teamwork, understand the security needs of your teammates.

 Your collaboration will soar when you understand what makes each person feel secure enough to takes necessary risks. -

How to give thanks....

As the Thanksgiving holiday approaches in the United States, I want to spend a few moments discussing how to give thanks.
I’m not talking about how you get ready to eat more than you usually do, spend time with relatives you don’t see that often or veg out in front of football game after football game.  I’m not even talking about giving thanks for all the things you’re grateful for (although that’s always a good idea).
What I’m talking about is how to give thanks to the people in your life – at home, at work and in the community – who deserve it.  When you stop and think about it, you probably come in contact with dozens of people on an average day who deserve your thanks.
If you’re like me, you probably say, “Thank you,” throughout the day because it’s the polite thing to do.  It’s usually kind of mindless though isn’t it?  It’s often just another conversational transaction in the course of the day.
So, this week, I invite you to join me in giving thanks to others so that they actually feel your gratitude.  It would be interesting to see what happens if you set the intention of mindfully thanking at least one person each day for a week.
Here are some quick thoughts about how to do that:

Pay Attention  -  Mindfulness comes down to paying attention to what’s going on right now.  That’s a great place to start if your intention is to give thanks to another person so they feel it.  You have to pay attention to what they’re doing for you.
Slow Down – What would happen if you took 10 to 15 seconds more in one of those countless conversations during the day to slow down long enough to offer a deeper word of thanks?  It seems to me that it’s definitely in the sweet spot of something that’s relatively easy to do and likely to make a difference.
Connect – They key to connection is to actually be with the person you’re with.  Look up from your phone.  Make eye contact.  Smile.
Be Specific – Thank that co-worker, cashier, family member, barista, cop who gave you directions or customer service rep with a few words about the great things you notice about how they do what they do and how that makes you feel.
Smile – I know I mentioned this already but it’s worth repeating.  Smile.  It makes everyone feel better.   Even if the person you’re thanking is on the other end of the phone, smile.  They’ll feel it.

What or who are you thankful for?

Thanksgiving is a time to reflect and ask yourself what are you thankful for.

I am thankful every day for the gift of another day, the air in my lungs , a roof over my head, a loving family , their health and all the luxuries and opportunities that the good Lord has provided me.

I have so much and so do so many people that I know but many of them choose to look at the negative or are always wanting more, so much so that they never stop to see what they have.

Like the saying goes " I complained about the holes in my shoes till I saw a man with no feet".

If you speak to people from other countries or if you visit around the world you will see just how rich you are and how much opportunity we have here in the United States.

Call me corny or poly Anna but I do try to remind myself daily just how blessed I am.

This does not mean that bad things do not happen to me but I CHOOSE to rebound with a positive attitude. Because it is a CHOICE.

And I do honestly believe that I have great opportunities in front of me.

What helps is my wants and needs are very basic-

I pray for a roof over my head and a place where my family can go to, oil in my tank for heat and food on my table.

I thank God for my health and the health my family.

That is basically it.

I have MUCH to be thankful for- how about you ?

 

The Flintstones

If you are not using the Arpin Mobile Mover to do your inventories you are living in the Flintstones age.

And more important your customers are thinking so.

Chances are you will moving a customer that has moved previously with a professional mover that used the computerized system and now you look outdated.

They prefer to be able to read their inventories and have them sent to their email.

Computerized inventories will save you time and money !

I know veteran movers that are far from tech savvy and they learned it and love it.

Our professional drivers that are part of our fleet help develop it. They worked with our programmers to   Develop a system on your smart phone, computer or iPad that simulates what you have done for years  on paper.

Take pictures and attach them to the specific item on the inventory.

Email your finish sheets to your customer and the home office.

Stop living like the Flintstones when the Jetsons are here . 

Take Pride in Your Drive

Take pride in your equipment, in your tractor and trailer and in your personal appearance.

The very first thing your customer does is run to their window and push back the curtains when you roll down their street to look at your truck.

Then they watch as you exit your tractor and start walking up their sidewalk.

First appearances mean EVERYTHING.

It shows that you take pride in your work therefore they begin to feel a little bit more comfortable right away.

Then when you shake their hand  and look them in the eye and hand them your business card it again shows them you are a professional .

Next you walk the house with them listening to them and seeing what is most important to them and eye balling the interior as your men start to prep the house.

All of this is crucial to a positive successful move.

You never get a second chance at a first impression.

PRIDE

Three Things Leaders Can Still Learn from JFK

The coverage this week of the 50^th anniversary of the assassination of John F. Kennedy is a stark reminder of the impact his life and death had on the United States and the world. With the perspective of fifty years, it’s easy to argue for or against Kennedy’s strengths and weaknesses. It’s easy to debate what he did or didn’t accomplish. You may think he was a great president or you may not.
Still, on this anniversary of his death, I would argue there are still some things that leaders can learn from JFK. Here (with links to JFK videos that illustrate the points) are three things that I think leaders can still learn from John F. Kennedy.

Adapt to the Times: When he ran for President in 1960, Kennedy faced Richard Nixon in the first televised presidential debate. As this short summary from the History Channel points out, post debate polling showed that voters who listened to the debate on radio thought Nixon won. Those who saw it on TV thought Kennedy won. Kennedy understood how to use the emerging technology of television to connect with voters. Effective leaders adapt to the times through effective use of current technology. 

Know Your Impact: As Graham Allison describes in his book, Essence of Decision, Kennedy understood the impact that his presence as the top leader had on the people around him. During the deliberations of his advisors during the Cuban Missile Crisis, JFK asked his brother, Robert, the attorney general to lead most discussions of what was known as the ExComm. Kennedy wanted to know what his top people really thought and he knew that if he was in the room, people would say what they thought he wanted to hear rather than what they actually thought. To be fully effective, leaders have to know the impact they have on others and adjust accordingly.

Set Stretch Goals: Leaders inspire their followers to go beyond what they thought they could do. When JFK said in September 1962, “We choose to go to the moon in this decade and do the other things. Not because they are easy, but because they are hard,” he set the ultimate stretch goal. 

Perseverance

Succeeding in difficult times means perseverance, and that trait is getting less prevalent in these times.
We are the NOW generation. We want success at our fingertips.
Patience is ceasing to be a virtue. And let's face it, you can develop all the wonderful traits you need to succeed- focus- humility, toughness and passion- but if you quit when things become difficult or when you become discouraged, they are all worthless.

Do not quit- do not give up- keep at it. Work at your craft, work at knowing others and how to work with not only your imperfections but theirs.

Perseverance.

Relief Drive

Cardi's Furniture - Philippines Relief Drive

Posted: Nov 14, 2013 2:42 PM EST

  Help us collect needed items that we will crate and freight to the Philippines.

 

Arpin / Cardi's Furniture - Philippines Relief Drive
Sunday, November 24 8am-12pm

Collection Locations:
Cardi's Furniture: West Warwick- Rt. 2 -1681 Quaker Lane, West Warwick, RI 02893
Cardi's Furniture: South Attleboro- 999 Newport Ave, South Attleboro, MA 02703
Cardi's Furniture: Middletown – 1235 West Main Road, Middletown, RI 02842
Cardi's Furniture: Swansea – 1 Furniture Way, Swansea, MA 02777
Cardi's Furniture: Braintree – 180 Pearl Street, Braintree, MA 02184

Items needed: (Exclusively)
• Bottled Water
• Canned Goods/ Dry Non-Perishable Foods
• Energy Bars (PowerBars, Cliff Bars, Luna Bars etc)
• Diapers

Items collected at Cardi's Furniture will be transported by Arpin Van Lines and CaroTrans to the ABS-CBN Foundation, Inc: Sagip Kapamilya in Quezon City, Philippines for distribution to those affected by the Typhoon Haiyan.

Only the items indicated above will be accepted, as this is the immediate request by contacts physically in the Philippines and based upon our ability to collect, package, & transport to the affected areas.

Coachabilty

Five Characteristics Of Coachability

If you are considering coaching someone else or being coached, here are five attributes I've observed in people who successfully "own" their part of the coaching process. You might want to use this as a quick diagnostic tool.

1. Committed to Change. Individuals who don't think they're perfect, want to improve, exhibit responsibility for their lives, and are willing to step outside of their comfort zones are good candidates for a successful coaching relationship.

2. Open to information about themselves. Be willing and able to listen and hear constructive criticism without being defensive; then, synthesize their coach's suggestions with their own personal reflections on the issue.

3. Open about themselves. Willing to engage in topics that may be uncomfortable but are getting in the way of their professional development; talks about "what's really going on" so the coach can have a complete and honest picture of the total situation.

4. Appreciate New Perspectives. People who get excited about hearing someone else's take on a situation and figure out how to learn from it can really benefit from coaching.

5. Awareness about one's self and others. Coachable people already have at least a fair amount of awareness about themselves. Equally important, they use it to reflect on their behavior and how it impacts other people in the range of situations that come their way.
You may have some others that you use to gauge coachability.

The Epic Split

Volvo Trucks - The Epic Split feat. Van Damme (Live Test 6)

These tractor trailers are actually rolling backwards while he does this..


Published on Nov 12, 2013

STOCKHOLM - November 12, 2013: Jean-Claude Van Damme, one of the world's most famous martial artists and star of countless Hollywood blockbusters, takes the lead role in Volvo Trucks' latest film The Epic Split. The film, which will be released on November 14, is the latest in a series from Volvo Trucks that feature spectacular ways of demonstrating its trucks' unique handling capabilities. In The Epic Split Van Damme performs one of his trademark splits in an incredible world-first stunt.

"It's quite unusual, and the first time we'll ever see anything like it -- in a movie or a commercial," said Van Damme on set at a deserted airfield in Spain, before shooting the scene. "When I saw the storyboard, I thought it looked amazing. It's very majestic and very powerful."

The purpose of the film is to demonstrate the stability and precision of Volvo Dynamic Steering, and it follows on from previous viral hits including 'The Ballerina Stunt', 'The Hook', 'The Hamster' and 'The Chase'.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M7FIvfx5J10

BATKID

A nice story..

 

San Francisco turns into Gotham City for Batkid

Miles Scott is a 5-year-old with leukemia who has always wanted to be Batkid. Thousands of volunteers, TV crews, and even President Obama teamed up with San Francisco's Make-A-Wish foundation to make the child’s dream come true.

Batkid to the rescue!
Just one day into his crime-fighting career, young Miles Scott, 5, already had a fan club Friday as San Franciscans cheered on the cancer patient who always wanted to be a superhero.

 

The kindergartener from Tulelake, Calif. has plenty of experience battling villains — he’s been fighting leukemia since he was 18 months old. He wrapped up his treatment in June and is in remission now.
While he was struggling with the illness, Miles became fascinated with superheroes. They were crimefighters and saviors. And they always won in the end.

 

"Miles has always been a fighter," his dad Nick Scott said. "He fought through cancer and he beat that. I think it goes hand in hand that he's a fan of Batman and superheroes, as well."
There's no telling if Miles' cancer will return. But the child hasn't lost his superhero spirit.
When San Francisco's Make-A-Wish Foundation asked Miles what he wanted more than anything in the world, the little guy said, “I wish to be Batkid.”

 

His wish came true today as San Francisco turned into Gotham City just for Miles.
An estimated 12,000 Gotham City residents had Batkid's back as he rushed to save their city. Police closed down major roads and his fans crowded the streets.
Thanks to social media, crowds rooted for Batkid at every crime scene. The President and First Lady tweeted out their support from the White House. Obama later sent out a congratulatory.

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/san-francisco-turns-gotham-city-batkid-article-1.1518454

 

 

Communication 6-10

6. Buffer criticisms with positives.

Developing good communication skills means knowing how to deliver information. When in a position where you are critiquing someone, always lead the criticism with a positive acknowledgment. This opens the person up to you and shows them that you care. Deliver the critique and follow it by more positive praise.

7. Stay on top of it.

Don’t leave things hanging. Effective communicators make people feel secure. Create ease by circling back and closing any gaps. Developing good communication means that you not only communicate clearly, but are the owner and in charge of whatever you are communicating. No one wants to feel like the other person has dropped the ball.

8. Engage with hooks.

Engage people by speaking to what will somehow benefit them. This is referred to as a hook. The more you are aware of someone’s needs, the more people are open to you and will better receive you. Find a hook that grabs attention, then proceed.

9. Listen to understand.

We tend to listen for the next opportunity to speak. Even if the person you are communicating with doesn’t consciously see that, they will feel it. Instead, listen to really understand what someone is saying. If you don’t know, ask in a way that shows you are interested in where they are coming from.

10. Pick up on cues. 

Knowing when to approach someone, when to wrap up a conversation, or how to deliver information will help you become an effective communicator. Always pay attention to who is receiving your message. Is it a good time? Are they open? Are they in the best mood to hear what you have to say? These are cues to pay attention to. Before you initiate communication, make sure it will be heard.

Communication

Here are 10 proven techniques I’ve used to help people develop good communication and awareness across the board:

We also recommend: How To Be A Good Listener That Others Want To Talk To-

1. Start with being present.

We are distracted—by everything! Recent statistics show the average attention span is as low as eight seconds and dropping. Thoughts and stresses, iPhones, TV, Internet, newspaper and magazine headlines are all competing for our attention and they are winning. Realize that the present moment is all you really have. Know that at this moment, you are planting a seed for the future. Distraction leaves openings for miscommunication. Start with being present to what is in front of you.

2. Check your tone.

Like most of us, you may not even be aware of how you sound to someone. Voice tone and delivery are a big part of our communication, so bring awareness to it. It’s not just what you say, but how you say it. Tone can make the difference between being perceived as caring or condescending.

3. Know your desired outcome.

Before you engage in any communication, be aware of what it is that you want. Rather than getting caught up in reaction, be proactive. Sometimes you may need to take a beat to bring some awareness to your ultimate outcome. Great relationships make everything easier for you. And in order to develop great relationships, you must have good communication. In other words, pay attention to your ultimate desire and not just each interaction.

4. Create commonalities.

You will get further, faster, when you find ways to relate to each other. Look for similarities in anything. Even in relationship conflicts, relate to someone from experience and open up to show that you are like them. People like other people who are like them.

5. Mirror body language to build rapport.

Just like a mirror reflects the object in front of it, you can do the same in order to develop another form of good communication. This technique is called mirroring. What this does is subconsciously create a commonality or likeness between you and the person you are communicating with. Don’t make it obvious, but subtly start to emulate their body language from breathing pattern to positioning to eye movements.


Check the next post for the other five-

Big picture

When you re having a bad day, or week or month think of the bigger picture.

It is easy to be positive when everything is going perfect but let's face how many have perfect days?

Are you healthy?

Do you have a home? People that care about you?

That , my friend, is the big picture.

Just take one of those away and see how good you really have it right now.

People gravitate to positive people, it is just a fact.

Yea, if you bend someone's ear on all that is wrong with your life they may politely listen and nod but overall they do not want or need that in their life either.

Look around you, stop complaining and start enjoying. You have the choice !

Less is more, learn to live with less and enjoy the little things.

Smile more, laugh more. Surround yourself with positive people and you will be positive.

Big picture people.......life is good.

 

Life

Take the time

Leaders/Drivers need to take more time to become better acquainted with others and their customers and their needs.  

Establishing a relationship by doing it right from the start will save a lot of time, energy and stress.   

Yes, this commitment can be difficult but it’s also becoming increasingly important – not only for leaders and drivers to get to know those they serve, but equally to allow themselves to be transparent enough for others to get to know them.

Take the time to listen to your customer's needs and concerns.

Open up  dialog with your customer and fellow agents, get to know each other.

Today

Today on Veteran's Day we honor the memory of the courageous and patriotic members of the U.S. Armed Forces, who have given their lives for our freedom and our country.

We appreciate and thank all Veteran's and those who are currently serving our country so bravely in all parts of the world.

Do you know this man?

Do you know this man?

He is the owner/driver and mover of Allen Young Movers in Dedham Massachusetts.

He is a true American hero, a quiet man who fought for our country in Vietnam.

I knew him for decades before I ever knew this about him, he never spoke of it.

Turns out he was a scout, he was the soldier that went ahead of his troop to clear the way and see if it was safe. He would jump out of a hovering helicopter in the dark of the night to scout the area.

Talk about brave, unbelievable.

His name is Marty Hanley.

Marty had both knees replaced a few years ago, they finally ached so much from his days in Vietnam he had to have surgery. Today he is the last man off the dance floor at our conventions.

He brings his work ethic and his honesty to his agency and it shows. Allen Young Movers is always receiving awards for their quality work.

Marty is respected and admired by all that know him.

Thank you Marty, you are a true hero.

God bless 

Hero's

Monday is our day to say thank you to our true hero's , our veterans and all of our men and women in the military.

I always think of my cousin who was a drill sergeant in the Army and fought in Vietnam, Bobby.

Bobbly is my cousin but was more like a big brother to me growing up. He taught me how to fish and hunt and how to skin and gut what I caught. He taught me to ride a motorcycle and to drive a stick shift. He was and is the definition of tough. He retired from the Army and by the time he left the service he taught many a young man.

As he grew older he showed me what it was like to be a good husband to a wife that he became his other half and he showed me what it is like to be a good father to two young ladies that look up to their dad, their hero. And later a hero to his grandchildren.

He recently lost his wife to a two year battle of cancer.

I never saw the man cry till that day.

On this day on Veteran's Day I also think of my brother-in- law who also fought in Vietnam and suffers to this day from agent orange and other ghost that still haunt him from that war. He too came home to get married and he made his family his number one priority and his children and grandchildren are his world, even as he suffers through Parkinson's .

I thank them and all of our military men and woman as much as I can.

May God bless them and may God bless this great country. 

Remember Freedom is not Free.

CHANGE

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.


If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.


When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves.

From Driver Skip...

Road Warrior has left a new comment on your post "Being your own boss":

" but after they closed their trailer doors they could roll down the road being responsible for just them and the customers in their trailer.
I cannot over emphasize the importance of that exhale.".I had one of those days yesterday,5000 pounds with(I kid you not)3500 feet of carry AND,a non-dedicated elevator...That's not the best part,I set a record,the longest carry EVER for one item...It was a glass case,glass on 3 sides and a mirror in the back.I padded it then covered it in cardboard and shrink wrapped it with a whole roll.The size was 4 1/2 feet wide,8 feet tall,and 3 1/2 feet thick..It would not fot in the evevator,or the stairs...AND had to go up 4 floors....The record was over 1 mile of carry,4 of us on this item,back out of the building,down the street,turn left,follow that street to the end of the building,to the parking garage(?).Then follow the ramp all the way to the top floor,4 floors later we got in the side door by the elevator,and the rest of the 3000 feet to the Condo....YES-IT FELT GREAT JUST TO GET THE DOORS CLOSED!4 of us were there 7 hours,on 5000 pounds....

Prep..prep ...prep

Drivers.. when you arrive at residence..

Have a door pad in your hand, give the shipper your card...AND pad the front door as an appetizer...Explain to them, this is WHAT WE DO!

This goes with first impressions....

This is the MOST important part of a successful move, put the customer at ease right away.
Better yet...SHOW THEM.

How you approach them and prep the house sets the table for the entire process.
You can win them over and gain their trust or you can add to their anxiety and concern.
The choice is yours.

Now that you know how to do the hard part of packing, loading and wrapping that furniture you have to do the easy part... communicate and prepare the house before you touch a stick.

Prep, prep, prep

Being your own boss

I have known many successful drivers that have tried to manage and/or open a moving business.

Some have bulled their way through it and have managed to do good but most came to the realization that they were better off driving and just having to worry about themselves.

When they managed or ran a agency they were now responsible for everybody and everything.

The reputation of their business always came back to them, no matter who did what.

When they were a driver they had to manage their crews while packing, loading and delivering but after they closed their trailer doors they could roll down the road being responsible for just them and the customers in their trailer.

I cannot over emphasize the importance of that exhale.

Enjoy what you have built and the independence that you have earned.

Being your own business man is a privilege and in today's business world it is truly priceless.

You are THE man, your are your own boss. 

How successful you are is totally up to you.

Yes, you will have days that you are totally frustrated and things will not go go your way.

Yes, you will have trips that are profitable and those that are not so much.

That is free enterprise and every business owner goes through it in every market.

Just try to always remind yourself just why you do what you do and how you got there.

Most drivers worked their way up from being a helper to obtaining a class A and learning from the ground up.

You are always learning how to improve and how to do things better and how to profit but remember what you have.

Having the opportunity to be your own boss is truly a gift and a opportunity that millions of people would love to have.

Embrace the day, be thankful for the opportunity and continue to work your craft and your profession .

Packing and loading a trailer properly is a art. And I marvel at what a elite household goods driver does every day.

I salute you and you should take a moment to enjoy what you have worked so hard to learn and obtain.

Being your own boss is pretty cool.

Tunnel vision

My best advise to people in business is to develop tunnel vision.

Block out the noise and the gossip and the politics and just do YOUR job.

In today's culture we all get worried and paranoid . There was a song by a British band called the Kinks that said " paranoia will destroy ya"... That's for you old farts like me.

It is so true though, we all allow the noise and the gossip to overwhelm us and take to much of our brain cells.

We know what we have to do in our jobs and in order to succeed - we need to concentrate on that and how to improve ourselves both professionally and personally.

That should be our full time job and that is where all of our energy should go.

We only have so many hours in the day and so much oxygen, why waste it.

When we allow others to take our time and energy with negative or gossip we are wasting our precious time and energy.

What can you do better? How can you improve things around you?

That is where I try to choose to spend my time and energy.

What can I do better and how can I help others.

Every day I pray to help me to help others and to enjoy the day. 

Our time is limited on this planet why choose to waste it? Trust me , you cannot change the whirlwind of negative around you so develop tunnel vision. It is no different than anything else, develop the habit, stay within yourselves and what you do and enjoy what you have,

Tunnel vision. 

Sharing responsibilty

Many of us fall into the trap of hoarding power, even when we don’t think we are. We hoard our power by limiting the information we share. We hoard our power by not delegating the authority, as well as the responsibility, for projects. We hoard our power by interacting with only a select group of key employees. The problem with hoarding power is that one person can effectively control just so much power. There’s a point at which one person can focus and manage effectively. This point, once reached, will limit how much and how effectively the organization will grow and operate. This point, once reached, also marks the limit of our management and leadership power.

Share the appropriate information with the appropriate personnel so they can learn and take on additional responsibilities. Delegate the authority as well as the responsibility for projects to give others the opportunities to learn and to experience the true highs and lows of project management. Give power to those outside your normal select group to identify prospective new key players. Give others the opportunities to become powerful in their own rights.

 The stronger they become; the stronger you become.