Ways Bosses can foster relationships

Create values standards.
. Since managing employee attitudes is difficult (attitudes are primarily intrinsically driven), great bosses define values in behavioral terms. This creates clarity on how a good corporate citizen behaves and enables values to be observable, tangible, and measurable. Employees know exactly what’s expected of them when, for example, integrity means one demonstrates behaviors such as “I don’t lie, cheat, or steal” or “I keep my commitments.” When bosses and team members demonstrate these behaviors, relationships bloom.

Demand civility & encourage validation. Nothing erodes workplace safety and inspiration more than personal bickering, dismissiveness, or bullying – from boss or team members! Great bosses demand civility by ensuring valued behaviors are demonstrated in every interaction. When civility is firmly embedded in the work environment, great bosses push for validation – honoring others’ efforts and ideas regularly. Note that high performing, values aligned teams debate (sometimes loudly) ideas & solutions often but they never discount a team member or their boss. Civility builds relationships.

Appreciate personal lives and passions. Great bosses genuinely appreciate each team member’s unique contributions and passions outside of the workplace. Great bosses know & ask about personal and family events, milestones, and celebrations. For example, one great boss of mine asked the team if we’d support one member’s soccer coaching responsibility every Thursday afternoon. We did! For two months, this team member left at 3pm on soccer days – but they managed their workload, came in early and never missed a deadline during the season.

Demonstrate “tough love.” Great bosses don’t let themselves or team members “off the hook” for meeting goal commitments. Everyone must maintain their contributions to team success – or the whole organization suffers. Where able, great bosses and team members refine the plan to deal with unexpected circumstances. AND, team commitments are kept, day in and day out.