Overwhelmed

Suffocation is an analogy equated often with the feeling of being overwhelmed. No wonder it can be so paralyzing.

Feeling overwhelmed leads to poor productivity, stress, emotional upheaval and, anger, helplessness and panic attacks, with possible symptoms of rapid heartbeat, sweating, chest pain and shortness of breath.

Strategies to help alleviate feeling overwhelmed include:

• Accept the anxiety and, “Think of acceptance as riding out a wave.”

• Replace unrealistic or unreasonable thoughts with helpful thoughts: “I know I’m feeling overwhelmed right now, but if I take a break, I may feel differently about this when I return.”

• Breathe. Deep breathing as well as guided imagery, tai chi and yoga can lead to a more relaxed mind and body.

• Take a break from overwhelming activity; listen to music, read a book or take a walk, for example.

Because being overwhelmed is especially detrimental in a work 

environment -

• Schedule an exercise break.

• Delegate: “… ask colleagues and friends for help. They’ll give you the chance to return the favor sometime.”

• Write stuff down as lists or in a journal; tasks and schedules often become more manageable in writing versus trying to keep track mentally.

Drink plenty of water, chart progress and stay organized.

I Don’t Care

Please do not take this personal but I really do not care about what you do behind closed doors or who you love or what decisions you make concerning your own body or health ...

If it does not effect me personally then I don’t care.

If I am looking at rather I am going to hire a person for a job or vote for a politician or work for an employer their personal life or love life simply does not, and should not, come into my decision making,

How do they treat people?

Are they honest and true to their word ?

Do they try their very best and to improve situations around them and the people that surround them?

That is what really matters and what should matter to you.

Do not get caught up in the gossip or the hate mongering , look and listen for yourself . Others may have their own agenda and biases , do not allow them to cloud your vision and your opinions.

You do what makes YOU happy, as long as you are not hurting others it is nobody else’s business.

Stay true to yourself- ALWAYS !
Love is what Matters 

Simple Rule

Simple Rule...
If you cannot say it to the person’s face you should not say it.
Especially today with social media but even in the office or at social gatherings, it is way too easy to be a big shot and puff your chest from a far and it is weak and ugly so just don’t do it.
At least start to be more conscience of it , most people do it so often that they may not even be conscience of it, they immediately go to slamming people and most of it is to deflect or push off blame.
How do you feel when you hear people talking about you ?
Be better than that , live an honest life and that includes treating others with the respect that you want in your life.

Honesty

Can there be honesty in business?
To work in an environment where you speak out openly and honestly is refreshing and can result in doing some great things. If you feel as if you have that in your position and in your workplace embrace it and stay where you because it is not the norm in today’s place of business.
Unfortunately I see more and more “ leaders” that have climbed up through the ranks and do not appreciate what those around them truly do and the end result is leaders that tend not to truly listen and they rule by fear and intimidation.
When you work in that environment you do not feel as if you can honesty speak out and if you do you will be seen as not being a good employee. The thing is you are being a good employee because you want to make improvements or at least discuss how you think it may be better for the company and your fellow teammates.
When you feel suppressed or when you feel as if your opinion does not matter you begin to give up and you will never reach your potential or feel rewarded.
You you are in a workplace that fosters and rewards honesty - stay put and say thank you.

scripts

My wife and I went to one of our favorite venues Saturday night- Theatre by the Sea and usually the plays are outstanding but Saturday night the play was terrible, disjointed, long and the story was all over the place- but the main actors were all really good, you could tell they were giving you their best performance but the script was terrible so they could only work with what was given them.

The same for businesses and employees- they need a script, and philosophy to succeed.

 That is why the Patriots dominate every year- the players are given a playbook and training to that playbook that helps each individual succeed.

If your workers/employees are not performing to your expectations what playbook did you give them ? What training? Before you look at them- look at you and give them the tools to do a better job.

Stress

• Stop glorifying stress. 
• In culture, we often wear harried lifestyles as a badge of honor, as if stress, anxiety and sleeplessness are prerequisites for success.
•  But we do ourselves no favors by normalizing unhealthy work habits. Who are we performing all this stress for, anyway? 
• You can be successful without sacrificing your sanity. Beware of the lies we tell ourselves about busyness. 
• If your calendar stays packed with meetings and social obligations, consider scheduling quarterly check-ins with yourself. 
• Are you O.K.? Are you prioritizing what matters most to you? Are you neglecting aspects of your life that bring you joy? If so, why? 

Need to be wanted

It is a human need to be wanted.
We want to be a part of the gang, to be part of a team - to be wanted.
Unfortunately sometimes we get so caught up with wanting “in” we leave a bit of ourselves “out”.
I never wanted to be part of the good old boy network because I saw first hand how they exclude others and in turn make decisions that may just benefit the “group “ and that is against my best intentions and my need to include and help others.
The funny thing is you want to part of the “cool kids” but upon further review you realize that they are really not all that cool, they have their own internal struggles and maybe they started losing a bit of themselves by trying so hard to stay part of the cool kids group.
Be yourself
It is not always the easy road but stand by your conscience and understand that you do “need” to be a part of any group to have value.
Your value comes from being YOU !
Do not sell out, buy in or follow for the mere fact to feel needed.
If you need to keep chasing people or trying to jump up and down to be heard you may be barking up the wrong tree and following the wrong crowd- just smile, keep no hate or negative in your heart but start to move on- you are special and do not allow others to bring you down.
You cannot fix or help others till you fix and help yourself.
Believe in yourself!