Show them that they matter

As you consider someone special in your life or your work who made you feel that you were important, you might notice some things they did. You, too can help people to know they matter by:

Listening deeply to things that are important to others without judgment or distractions. Stay present and focused to what is said, ask questions to understand their point of view and look them in the eye. Don’t try to fix you or solve their problems. Don’t rush the conversation because what they have to say is significant to them.

Notice what is exceptional about them. Let them know what you’ve observed and how it serves them and the organization they’re a part of. Continue to remind them of what they do well and help them to find ways to use those strengths in the workplace.

Include them in things that are important to them. Conversations, projects, and introductions to people who are essential for them to connect to let them know that they matter. Because you know what is special about them, you also know that they have great potential. You must stay vigilant in looking for ways to help them to reach it.

Express sincere gratitude for not only what they do but who they are. Let them know that they matter by conveying you appreciation in ways that touch their heart.


In the hustle of getting work done, it’s easy  to lose track of what it means to let the people around you how important they are.

Take a moment and remember someone who made you feel that way and then pay it forward to those who matter to you.