Truth

Truth is the strongest weapon.
If someone is yelling the loudest they may be trying to bend your opinions and if the truth does not work then they may resort to bend the truth or worse make up their own version of the truth.
Here’s the thing though truth finds a way to show its head, it may take longer then you like but it will come out.
The easiest way to live your life is to simply speak the truth and if that means having to give up power or a job or a title so be ie- in the end your shoulders will be lighter and it will help you lead a more fulfilled life. What you think is important at the time it retrospect may not be important at all, in fact it may be holding you back.
Fear is what normally causes lies - fear of job security, fear of power, fear of retribution but truth breeds growth, true relationships and true reward.
We all have choices- be strong- choose the right path - lighten your load.

Character

Does Character  count ?
Does what you do - speak more of what you believe then what you say ?
We all have done and said stupid things - own them - learn from them.
I do absolutely believe in redemption and forgiveness but first you must admit to failings and for goodness sake not lie- it is ok- we are all human.
I do think character counts and if you are not truly trying to be a good person and have others best interest at heart how on God’s green earth can I truly trust you.
To be a good leader people need to know that they can trust you and that your word is your bond.
Your character is who YOU are and it will follow you wherever you go.
The beautiful thing in life is we can evolve, we can change, we can learn and more important we must evolve.
Muhammad Ali said that if you are the same person at 50 as you were at 20 you have wasted 30 years of your life.
Character Counts

At All Cost

Get what you want - At All Cost -
At the end of the day or more important at the end of your journey you have to ask yourself- was it worth it ?
To get or keep that job or position what did you give up ?
Your time ? Time with who is really important to you ?
Did you sacrifice your ideals or morals ?
Do you just get along to go along ?
If your end goal is to keep climbing that ladder -at all cost - are you pretty much saying that money is your God or compass ?
Is there collateral damage to you - at all cost - attitude? Is that collateral damage other people?
We can all get caught up in the day to day and our quest to obtain more but take the time to SEE who you are following and what YOU may be giving up.
In the end “ they” will disappear and leave you behind because- at all cost- is THEIR motto- do not buy in , do not blindly follow.
You will survive and you will be better off for it, you will be tested - if you are doing for the right reasons and you are not hurting others then speak up - make a difference- Always speak truth to Power and build your alliances through honest, hard work.
At All Cost is NOT your path

Satisfied

'Cause the only real pain a heart can ever know

Is the sorrow of regret
When you don't let your feelings show

Busy people walking by
Can't help but worry some

With so many things to do
So little love gets done
Empty hearts everywhere
Drowning but dying of thirst
If we want love
It's not that tough
Start by giving it first
It's easy to give
Baby can't you see?
Just close your eyes open your heart
And do what comes naturally

So did you say it?
Did you mean it?
Did you lay it on the line?
Did you make it count?
Did you look 'em in the eye?
And did they feel it?
Did you say it in time?
Did you say it out loud?
'Cause if you did hun
Then you lived some
And that feeling inside?
That's called satisfied

Lyrics and song by Jewel 

Scared

Many people are simply scared to actually speak their mind.
The more the 1% grow in numbers and Power the more the middle class or the “ worker” is suppressed, that is if there is actually a middle class anymore. If people actually speak their mind they face being fired or let go or put on an island- I know I have witnessed it and lived it.
Scared is not a good way to live, you will never reach your true potential if you do not stay true to your values and to your truth.
Here is the dilemma, how and when do you speak out ?
You need to be sure that your voice is heard but if you approach it wrong you will personally suffer so you need to be smart. First of all do not play their games- always stay true to your morals and speak softly , do your job and stay away from those that spew their negativity.
Their day will come because in the end I always believe in Karma and what ever you put out will come back to you. Do not lash out , watch your tone and your facial expressions - keep your poker face - and do not lose the validity of your argument by being “the bad guy”.
If you are scared it is probably because of a bully , bullies think they are tough but when they stand alone you find that they are bullies because they are really weak and scared themselves.
Stay strong

Adults

Be an Adult !

I think we may have it backwards, we tell our kids to try to act like an adult, I think we should be telling adults to act more like kids.

My two year old grandson is such a joy, he wakes up every day and runs out of his room with a huge smile on his face and cannot wait to start the day, all he wants to do that day is have fun. When he hugs you and gives a little pat on your back there is nothing better, he has no hidden agenda , all he has is unconditional love.

The adult world on the other hand is fraught with hidden agendas and people yelling and choosing sides. I was on a conference call yesterday with five “ adults” and we were to discuss some issues and one adult male joined the call with an already obvious attitude, he did not want to participate or he thought why am I even on this call with who he presumed to be knuckheads. The call lasted all of three minutes before he started barking out his demands, the top guy on the call got his back up and yelled back then hung up... conference call over... nothing accomplished but feelings that will spill over that will just continue to build walls.

Hmmmm.. should I ask the child to be more adult like or the adult to be more child like ?

Relax people, channel your inner child !

Try to approach each day with a reckless abandon to just learn and love and enjoy the day.
Unfortunately most adults wait till the end of there life to understand that each day is a gift and that big problem you thought you had was really nothing at all... don’t wait.

Embrace the day and be a kid !

Good People

Good People tend to gravitate to each other.
Yesterday I had the pleasure of meeting some new people that I do business with but have never met face to face , we had a business meeting in the afternoon and dinner in the evening.
In business and in life when we allow ourselves to actually talk to each other and get to know each other it can be very productive and rewarding.
Listening to the owner of this company was refreshing, he spoke about taking care of his employees and his customers and when he looked you in the eye during his conversation you could feel not only his sincerity but you could also feel his honesty. This gentleman was married with two children and at one point during the dinner we exchanged stories about our kids and once again you can feel the connection, his family was very important to him and so was remaining humble.
I do believe that good people do tend to gravitate to each other.
Along with the owner another young man was representing his organization, he was about 27 and very personable. I can say that it was because of this young man that I set up this in person meeting, they flew to RI from CO and MO. My dealing with this young man was very positive and during our busy season he stood out as a person who truly cared about what he was doing and spoke very honestly.
I recommend that they stay at a bed and breakfast that a friend of mine owns down by the ocean so they could get a true feel for a Rhode Island , I knew my friend would take of them because he too is just a down to earth good guy and sure enough they started as strangers and ended their stay as friends.
Good people gravitate to each other.
Embrace the good , stay positive !