Procratination

Procrastination-

The key is careful planning. Careful is the operative word in that sentence. For procrastinators, planning isn’t usually a problem. They love planning because planning involves not actually doing! Procrastinators’ plans often have little actual thought, are vague or open-ended, and can lack detail or direction. Instead, you’ll need to make a detailed plan. The following steps will guide you.

1. Establish the objective.

Specifically identify what you want to achieve. You may be familiar with the concept of SMART goals—but if you aren’t, here’s a link to a previous blog post from David Witt. When you know exactly what you want to achieve, you’ll be able to lay out a clear path on how you want to get there.

2. Prioritise what you want to achieve, putting the most important task first.

As a leader, you’ll need to balance your priorities with the priorities of the team. It’s really easy to establish a list of 15 things to do and then have no idea where to start because they all seem equally important. So first identify the things you need to do. Remember that priorities evolve as you move forward on your tasks. Therefore, you’ll need to review your and your team’s priorities from time to time to see if they have changed.

3. Gather the information you need to make a decision.

Having relevant information means that you’ll be able to justify and explain your decision when the time comes. And the more information you have, the more confident you’ll be in making that decision. Don’t lose sight of your objectives here. It’s easy to fall into a trap and think you can’t make this decision because you don’t have all of the information. Don’t put off a decision because you’re waiting for arbitrary details.

4. Consider all of the sensible options and select the best one.

With any good plan, there are likely to be a number of choices you can make. Identify your options and remove those that aren’t logical. Then choose the best option—the one that is going to help achieve your objectives whilst meeting your priorities.

6. Take action.

This is the hardest part—but now that you’ve clarified your decision, you’ll find it easier to take action. You’ve established a clear and sensible path to achieving a specific outcome instead of our procrastinating leader’s vague, open-ended to-do list.

Dead Weight

"Dead Weight"
Song lyrics written by Crystal Bowersox-

If it's meant to be
Baby oh just let it be, let it bee
Don't go beating dead horses,
Keep steady your course, you'll see
Sing our lullaby,
All things impossible in being nice
Dreams don't take to your soul,
It's the only thing no one can take

And if you don't know, I'll tell you
Just take down your load and wipe your frown
If you're holding on to dead weight
It's just holding you down
Oh you're gonna sink or swim,
You better let it go now
Let it go now

Hear my lover's side,
Lying on a nothing set in black and white
Oh but as I get older,
Each moment means more than the last
So I say we waste our time
On cigarettes and cheaṗ red wine
We'll sing well into the night,
That light will be coming up fast

And if you don't know, I'll tell you
Just take down your load and wipe your frown
If you're holding on to dead weight it's just holding you down
Oh you're gonna sink or swim, you better let it go now
Let it go now
Let it go now

And if you don't know, I'll tell you
Just take down your load and wipe your frown
If you're holding on to dead weight it's just holding you down
Oh you're gonna sink or swim, you better let it go now
Oh, let it go now
Let it go
Let it go
Let it go
Oh, let it go now
Let it go now

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FPyA0aPCdIo

Keep Your Cool

When you encounter those that - Blame-  keep your cool.

 

 WHY?-

 

 Because when people are blaming others they are doing so because their conscious mind are afraid to confront themselves as it stimulates a pain in their brain.

 

A simple example would be, when someone cooks for you, you eat it and find it tastes bad, still you eat and complain that it tastes bad!

 

So, what would be a better decision, one would be, To not eat it and tell truthfully it tastes bad! or to eat it although it tastes bad.

 

The people who always blame others are in middle of the two possible solutions. And these people are often confused, depressed and worried. So, rather than being angry, take a profound look at their daily lives and you will find their problems.

 

Delve into their problems, and feel their emotions, and if they want a suggestion, help them. If you don't like them as much, leave them be. Because there are lots of things in this world that you can put your thoughts to.

The Blame Game

 The "blame game" is a form of narcissism.

Learn a bit about this condition before you implement any plan of action as this may influence how you decide to handle this situation -

A few points to consider.-

1) "blamers" often do this as a defensive mechanism because of their own insecurities.

2) Blaming can be a form of control. For people who blame, it’s a way of avoiding external repercussions and  blamers seek something from their victims, whether it is emotional,  monetary, fun, reassurance or psychological stability.

3) the act of blaming can be a difficult behavior to change because it can become very self perpetuating when it is reinforcing itself in the blamers mind each time the tactic is used.

4) often, when thing really bother us about others, it is because it reminds us of a personal flaw so make sure you are not acting on your own insecurities. (great rule of thumb, first seek to fix yourself.)

Develop a Attitude of Gratitude

Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

 If you want to be truly present and benefit from appreciating your daily life, you must develop an attitude of gratitude.

The habit of feeling grateful and expressing that gratitude to other people, by saying “thank you” to those in your life, and to yourself for all of the wonderful things in your life every day will have amazing effects on your personality, and your ability to live in the present.
An attitude of gratitude makes you a warmer, friendlier, and more genial. An attitude of gratitude makes you more sensitive and more aware of others around you and your environment.

The more gratitude you have, and the more gratitude you express, the happier and brighter your life will become.

When we are thankful to others and express a wonderful attitude to those around us on a regular basis, we can change the lives of others as well as our own.

Start each morning by saying, “I believe something wonderful is going to happen to me today.”

Repeat it over and over.

How to deal with " Blamers "..

So, how do you deal with people who " blame"..

1) talk to the person, ask them why they feel others are to blame in specific situations, consider their answer. Is there ANY truth to how they see the situation? Believe in your instinct and common sense and ask yourself if you are really to blame in a situation where you are being blamed.

2)Let them know how it made you feel, when they blamed you for something that you felt was not your fault or was out of your control, avoid whether they were "right" or "wrong" as that is only your opinion and it will be a very difficult battle to "win".

3) Have a good sense of yourself and how you feel. Remember that if you can see the behavior as anti social, others will as well.
You do not need to be the enforcer, sometimes the best course of action is to simply remove yourself from the situation and leave the affected parties to fight their own battles. Blamers can have a negative effect on the people around them, but their true power comes from the people who allow them to disrupt and influence their lives.

4) Consider putting extra distance between you and the blamer, you can not force change on others, but you can change yourself. Relationships of this nature are often just a one-way street where you  put a lot into it but the reciprocal feeling is only an  illusion.

Seek relationships with people who believe in you and support your ambitions.

Become Self Aware

It’s very easy to get completely caught up in planning for the future, that we often forget to take the time to appreciate the wonderful things happening in our daily lives.

Become Very Self-Aware

The first thing you can do to live in the present is to become very self-aware.

To perform your best, acknowledge the beauty of your life and be happy, you need to know who you are and why you think and feel the way you do. You are where you are and what you are because of yourself.

You have gotten yourself to where you are as the result of the choices and decisions that you have made in the past.  If you want to be somewhere else in the future, it is up to you to make new and better choices and decisions in the present.