Develop a Attitude of Gratitude

Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

 If you want to be truly present and benefit from appreciating your daily life, you must develop an attitude of gratitude.

The habit of feeling grateful and expressing that gratitude to other people, by saying “thank you” to those in your life, and to yourself for all of the wonderful things in your life every day will have amazing effects on your personality, and your ability to live in the present.
An attitude of gratitude makes you a warmer, friendlier, and more genial. An attitude of gratitude makes you more sensitive and more aware of others around you and your environment.

The more gratitude you have, and the more gratitude you express, the happier and brighter your life will become.

When we are thankful to others and express a wonderful attitude to those around us on a regular basis, we can change the lives of others as well as our own.

Start each morning by saying, “I believe something wonderful is going to happen to me today.”

Repeat it over and over.

How to deal with " Blamers "..

So, how do you deal with people who " blame"..

1) talk to the person, ask them why they feel others are to blame in specific situations, consider their answer. Is there ANY truth to how they see the situation? Believe in your instinct and common sense and ask yourself if you are really to blame in a situation where you are being blamed.

2)Let them know how it made you feel, when they blamed you for something that you felt was not your fault or was out of your control, avoid whether they were "right" or "wrong" as that is only your opinion and it will be a very difficult battle to "win".

3) Have a good sense of yourself and how you feel. Remember that if you can see the behavior as anti social, others will as well.
You do not need to be the enforcer, sometimes the best course of action is to simply remove yourself from the situation and leave the affected parties to fight their own battles. Blamers can have a negative effect on the people around them, but their true power comes from the people who allow them to disrupt and influence their lives.

4) Consider putting extra distance between you and the blamer, you can not force change on others, but you can change yourself. Relationships of this nature are often just a one-way street where you  put a lot into it but the reciprocal feeling is only an  illusion.

Seek relationships with people who believe in you and support your ambitions.

Become Self Aware

It’s very easy to get completely caught up in planning for the future, that we often forget to take the time to appreciate the wonderful things happening in our daily lives.

Become Very Self-Aware

The first thing you can do to live in the present is to become very self-aware.

To perform your best, acknowledge the beauty of your life and be happy, you need to know who you are and why you think and feel the way you do. You are where you are and what you are because of yourself.

You have gotten yourself to where you are as the result of the choices and decisions that you have made in the past.  If you want to be somewhere else in the future, it is up to you to make new and better choices and decisions in the present.

GOTTA KNOW WHEN TO HOLD EM

Gotta know when to hold em and know when to fold em

Choose your fights and choose wisely- how important is it ? Could you have made the same mistake or have you ? Will it solve anything in the long run or will it just be you venting?
Sometimes it is best to just move on then to confront every error.
If you are truly bringing it up as a life lesson then fine- then I would say watch your tone and approach or you will just create conflict.

Always work toward building a bridge and sometimes when the other person knows they messed up and you help solve the problem rather then blame them they will acknowledge that and who knows someday down the road they may return the favor.

We are all in this together people....

Know when to hold em

Preparation

Preparation is Perfection..
Or at least it gives the best shot at it.

We all know that things never go according to plan so it is very important to prepare and plan for all possibilities.
The best and most successful coaches know this and they have their team prepared for all kind of scenarios. You have to do the same with your work day.
Prepare-
Think of what could be and what could happen and have a plan B and a plan C.
Try to remain calm and being prepared helps you to do that too.

Preparation is Perfection

We are ALL equal

Don’t Abuse Your Authority

Don’t Abuse Your Authority

Another misconception is that a leader is always obeyed, that people will hear you and do as they were told. This couldn’t be more wrong.

It is understandable if you feel frustrated after spending hours talking someone out of a bad move, and they end up doing it anyway. You were well prepared and made a point of using your time to see trends and predict failures. They came to you in the first place, so why didn’t they follow your ideas?
The thing is that you are their leader, not their parent. They are adults fully capable of making their own decisions.

Plus, they have all the right to make mistakes and learn from them – you probably have learned a lot from your mistakes, so why take the same opportunity away from them?

Remember that you work within limits decided by your followers, not by you.