To heck with them

The heck with them ( or whatever adjective you want to use besides heck).

That is our natural response when we get angry at someone or a group of people.
Rather it is family or work or friends.
The easy out is get angry and to write them off- screw them- who needs them.
Most times we react that way because we are hurt and rather then deal with the feelings or God forbid admit that we may be somewhat at fault we swear them off.

If we continue to do that throughout our lives we miss out and our circle gets of friends get smaller.
I fully understand that reaction but if we accept that fact that WE may be partially at fault and take the time to play it back in our head we may have a different reaction.

The true challenge is not to push people away when we have these moments but to try to learn from them.
To do that we may need to shut up and back away and address it at a different time. Don't e so reactionary. Remember most times you are either acting out of anger or being hurt or deep down we may even know that we messed up and we react that way to cover up.

Take note next time you say this or want to say it- back away - STOP- LOOK AND LISTEN.
You just may learn from it and become stronger for it.
Rather than- to heck with them- maybe you should say - How can I do better ?

Some tips on Getting Motivated

One Goal. Whenever I’ve been in a slump, I’ve discovered that it’s often because I have too much going on in my life. I’m trying to do too much. And it saps my energy and motivation. It’s probably the most common mistake that people make: they try to take on too much, try to accomplish too many goals at once. You cannot maintain energy and focus (the two most important things in accomplishing a goal) if you are trying to do two or more goals at once. It’s not possible — I’ve tried it many times. You have to choose one goal, for now, and focus on it completely. I know, that’s hard. Still, I speak from experience. You can always do your other goals when you’ve accomplished your One Goal.

Find inspiration. Inspiration, for me, comes from others who have achieved what I want to achieve, or who are currently doing it. I read other blogs, books, magazines. I Google my goal, and read success stories. Zen Habits is just one place for inspiration, not only from me but from many readers who have achieved amazing things.

Get excited. This sounds obvious, but most people don’t think about it much: if you want to break out of a slump, get yourself excited about a goal. But how can you do that when you don’t feel motivated? Well, it starts with inspiration from others (see above), but you have to take that excitement and build on it. For me, I’ve learned that by talking to my wife about it, and to others, and reading as much about it as possible, and visualizing what it would be like to be successful (seeing the benefits of the goal in my head), I get excited about a goal. Once I’ve done that, it’s just a matter of carrying that energy forward and keeping it going.

5 tips for Life

Want to be a better boss ? Parent ? Leader?

 

These are the 5 quick tips for life..

1- Explanation 

2- Demonstration

3- Execution 

4- Repetition  

 

5- Motivation 

Don't just demand- EXPLAIN

Don't just explain- demonstrate through your ACTIONS

Don't just demonstrate FOLLOW THROUGH

Don't just do it do it once in a while - ALWAYS DO IT

Don't just do it to do it - do it to MOTIVATE - yourself as well as them

Lay Away

Do you remember Lay Away ?

When you did not have enough money to buy something so you went to a store and you put money down on it and asked to Lay it away and you would put money down on it till you paid it off then you took it home.

That was before we allowed credit cards into our lives and we allowed debt to come into our lives.

Credit Card was the beginning of allowing us to live above our means.
It use to be that you saved up for what you wanted and then you bought it- simple right?

I fear those days and that mentality is lost forever. Our kids and our kids kids will never have that foundation to draw on.

In the same vein when there was Law Away and no credit cards we also had to warm things up on the stove- we had no microwave- imagine our kids having to live without a microwave.

Thus lies the challenge- in a world where you can get what you want anytime you want and you can nuke your food in seconds - why wait ?
Our kids and grandkids are brought up in a world where they need no patience and they think nothing of adding up debt on credit cards and buying frozen food with all kind of additives in it and heating it up in 2 minutes and away they go.

Personally I think we need to get back to Lay Away mentality - if you want it- save for it.
It wouldn't hurt to buy fresh and use the stove top either.

1963

This Was the Year…1963 U.S. President & Vice President John F. Kennedy

The Vice President

Lyndon Johnson Time Magazine Person Of The Year


Martin Luther King, Jr.

Cost of Living Cost of Food New House $12,650 Granulated Sugar $ .90 for 10 lbs

Average Income $ 4,396 Milk $ 1.04 per gallon

New Car $ 3,233 Ground Coffee $ .85 per pound

Gallon of Gas $ .29 Bacon $ .69 per pound

Movie Ticket $ 1.25 Eggs $ .32 per dozen Popular Movies Born This Year
Tom Jones (Academy Award® winner) Brad Pitt

The Great Escape Whitney Houston

It’s a Mad, Mad, Mad World Michael Jordan

The Pink Panther Johnny Depp

National and World News   Pope John XXIII died on June 3. Pope Paul VI was elected.

 On November 22, President Kennedy was assassinated in Dallas, TX.  Two days after Kennedy’s assassination, Jack Ruby murdered the sus-pected killer, Lee Harvey Oswald.


 Alcatraz federal penitentiary, known as "The Rock," closed.

Popular TV Shows Music  Bonanza Walk Like a man (The Four Seasons)

The Beverly Hillbillies It’s My Party (Lesley Gore)

The Ed Sullivan Show Go Away Little Girl (Steve Lawrence)

The Danny Thomas Show Blue Velvet (Bobby Vinton)  Sports Champions   Los Angeles Dodgers (baseball)  San Diego Chargers & Chicago Bears (football)


 Parnelli Jones (Indianapolis 500)

 Toronto Maple Leafs (hockey)

 Boston Celtics (NBA)

 Chateaugay (Kentucky Derby)

 

Changing The Past

The past is the past for a reason
That is where it is supposed to stay
But some cannot let it go
In their heads it eats away

Until all their focus becomes
The person that they used to be
The mistakes they made in their life
Oh, if only they could see

That you cannot change what happened
No matter how hard you try
No matter how much you think about it
No matter how much you cry

What happens in your lifetime
Happens for reasons unknown
So you have to let the cards unfold
Let your story be shown

Don't get wrapped up in the negative
Be happy with what you have been given
Live for today not tomorrow
Get up, get out and start living

Because the past is the past for a reason
It's been and now it is gone
So stop trying to think of ways to fix it
It's done, it's unchangeable, move on

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/changing-the-past#ixzz3vd05itu3
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To move from a reactive approach

With reactive management, also called "firefighting," managers spend most of their time dealing with problems instead of focusing on long-term planning.
Reactive management is stressful and inefficient. It can lead to high staff turnover in your team, and, in time, will lead to serious under-performance.
To move from a reactive approach to a more proactive one:

• Take back control of time.
• Look at processes.
• Understand and manage risk.
• Focus on morale.
• Build in continuous improvement.

Keep in mind that reactive management is necessary at times. However, it can be destructive when it becomes the norm in a team or organization